3 months ago, something happened to me for the first time ever. While on a trip in a hotel lobby, I laid my eyes on a girl and we made eye contact. I instantly knew she was perfect. It was love at first sight.
Now, now, I know, some people say “There is no such thing as love at first sight”
That’s because no one can love someone without understanding who they are. That’s because love at first sight is based solely on attraction. That’s because love at first site is nothing but two cardboard cutouts of people that have a slight attraction toward one another.
Yet, by making eye contact with this girl, I learned that love can be brought to fruition simply through looking into someone’s eyes.
While hanging out in a group of peers our age, the two of us reunited and kept stealing glances at each other until finally in one magical moment we locked eyes for 10 seconds with neither person averting their eyes. Now I know this doesn’t seem like much, but just imagine holding eye contact with someone for 10 seconds without even nodding your head or stealing a glance off to the side. I bet there is a tension there. One that is probably uncomfortable. Now, imagine holding it while desperately wanting to break it. The longer you hold the eye contact, the stronger the tension becomes. Finally, you have to avert your eyes because that butterfly feeling in your stomach is so strong that you feel like you are going to burst.
Whether you know it or not, holding eye contact builds a relationship. In a normal conversation, it is polite to look at a person’s eyes. Yet, we subconsciously move our eyes around glancing behind the person, to the left or right and then back at him or her. If we were to stare and not move our eyes, it would seem weird and that connection between the two people would be lost. At the same time, if we move our eyes too much, we seem jittery and awkward. That movement makes it hard to form a connection and the progress in a conversation stalls.
And this is why eye contact between two potential lovers is uncomfortable. In looking at that person, whether you want to or not, you are subconsciously forming a connection with them. And if that person is your crush, forming that connection is nerve-wracking. As such, you do not want to look at him or her for a long period of time.
Yet, in that moment when me and this girl held eye contact for 10 seconds without flinching, we were able to get closer than any conversation at the moment would have. In maintaining that eye contact. I let her know, that I am not afraid. I let her know that I am confident. And I let her know that she is someone I want to get to know. And she let me know all of the same things too eventually allowing both of us to have confidence in getting to know one another.
Now, I know that this is not a common occurrence and I understand that not everyone could have done what I did. In fact, I surprised myself and in many ways looking back on the situation I have come to realize that this was something unusual. However, this moment showed me something special. It let me understand that eye contact forms a connection in a way I never thought possible. It proved to me that the eyes are the gateway to the soul. And It proved to me that by looking at someone’s eyes, I can turn that crush into something so much more.
For the rest of the trip the two of us talked constantly. One night we broke the touch barrier and snuggled. And as a whole, we both felt the want to become closer. Yet, without that eye contact at the beginning, none of this would have happened.
Unfortunately, the two of us never got the chance to date as it would have been a LDR. However, this moment is something that I’ll never forget because it is the moment I realized I need to look at my crush in the eyes and let her know I’m interested.
You should do the same because eye contact means more than you could possibly imagine.
-Cuteguy135
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