Why are guys confused about their feelings towards girls ?

[shuba]

what actually confuses you. is it whether you like her OR not.

what it is ?

[The-Nash]

There's a lot to get confused about, lol. It's kind of hard to describe but it's kind of like. . . you can meet someone and they can be attractive to you, but that doesn't mean they're going to be a "good fit" for a girlfriend or b/f. And it's hard to describe the thought process of it all. Especially when you're just getting to know a person. If you've known them for a long time that's usually a little different.

But for me it's usually dealing with a lot of little things like: can we stand each others pet peeves? And all kinds of things like that. Are we going to be able to tell each other not just about the good, but the bad about the relationship also so we can work on it? And are we on the same level and able to communicate as to how we see the relationship developing? Are they the kind of person I see myself with a year, two, etc. . . from now? - See there's like 4 or 5 questions here, but when we're going the motions of the thought process these 4 or 5 questions turn into, I dunno, like a thousand stupid little questions we run through our head, or at least that's what I do. Then there's other times where it's like "I'm going to make it work out" because of some reason, or instinct. I don't know what it's me think which way or another, it's just weird.

[Hippy]

Lol a girl thinks the same things. :-)

[Dela1111]

Guys know right away whether they like a girl or not. What they are confused about is whether or not they want to choose that girl over another, or how to say they DONT like her, without hurting her feelings.

I've had too many friends that come up to me and tell me that they're having troubles in a relationship, and that they're boyfriend/girlfriend is "confused." I say BS, that's just a way to justify breaking up, or being a cheating SOB.

[rocksongwriter]

Guess:

A girl likes a guy . Guy doesn't like girl, however he develops feelings towards her because she likes him.

He's confused because deep down, he's really NOT attracted to her, but feels something towards her that he can't explain.

Then she pressures him into dating her & he's thinking "she's really NOT my type, however she wants to be with me, & I feel semi-drawn to her..."

[Hippy]

Lmao yeah a girl will do the same as that to, I think girls and boys generally think the same just have different ways of dealing with it and showing it :-D

[Anonymous]

I get confused about whether or not she likes me. I usually know if I like her or not but I get confused with anything beyond liking because I am usually not a very emotional guy and, as stupid as this makes me sound, I have trouble understanding my own emotions sometimes.