Why are guys so clueless to girls emotions?

[BaddieBunny12]

[MrOracle]

For the same reasons girls are so clueless to guys' motivations - both sexes try to apply their OWN perspectives, desires, expectations, and experiences to the other sex - but the other sex does NOT share those perspectives, desires, expectations, and experiences. We are very different from each other, so first, we must acknowledge those differences, and then we must try to see things from THEIR perspective instead of our own - which means we must first understand what that perspective is.

And, no one teaches you what the opposite sex's perspective is (except me and a few others on sites like this). And the examples we see in the media (movies, TV, etc.) are rarely realistic and rarely explain perspectives well.

It kind of drives me crazy that almost all parents and all institutions value education - but we refuse to spend more than 2 minutes of our educational lives talking about HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS - instead we prefer to let each generation stumble blindly through them, reinventing the wheel again and again, instead of sharing hard-earned wisdom with children and teens - as if sharing that wisdom would somehow harm them. That concept is insane, but it's exactly what most people think.

Getting back to the original question: it's up to YOU to COMMUNICATE your feelings to a guy - using actual words and phrases that he's likely to understand. What you should NOT do is assume that he knows these things already, or that he can read your mind, or that he knows WHY you are upset, when it could be something he said or did, or it could be that you saw a dog get run over or your aunt Susan has cancer or you didn't get accepted for the college program you wanted.

Frank, honest communcation will resolve most of those issues very quickly. Believing that "he should KNOW why I'm upset!" is only going to frustrate both of you.

[JohnDoe3000]

Most of us are not clueless, it's just that we've known multiple women in our lives who contradicted each other in what they said or did so at some point we're just like "fuck it, I'm not a mind reader"

Guys are much more uniform, but still I don't understand why this concept is so hard to grasp for so many girls: you have friends, sisters, mothers, etc... too and I know they can confuse the hell out of until you get into arguments with each other, so why do you expect guys to be any better at reading different women?

[btbc92]

It's not that they're clueless, they just hate dealing with them. Mainly if their not emotional outwardly themselves. Men overall think differently than women. Even rational thinking women are emotional. Overal, humans are emotional. We just deal with them differently. A guy is investing emotionally in you is somebody who obviously cares about you. But he can express it many ways.

[anoddtod]

they're

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

Most people don't understand each others emotions in general. Simply because most people would rather play mind games than communicate effectively and be straightforward.

[sa230e]

Guys are mostly clueless to their own emotions. How can they understand yours if they're ignoring and repressing their own?

[anoddtod]

easy, single parenting.
boys are only shown moms' emotional and have an immunity to it in others, mom cries at the drop of a hat, so Son is immune to it being used by girls..
guys with a large emotional out breaks are criticized (sp?)
men don't cry et:all, girls are allowed to have them, the reasons why you think they are "clueless", will make them the survivor your predecessors looked for in a mate, bred because of/for it. and now criticise us for it. make up our minds will you.

[Browneye57]

Cuz they just aren't like you.
Unfortunately the FI keeps trying to convince y'all that everybody is the same. THEY'RE JUST NOT!

[askaway97]

in my opinion its easy to dismiss what isn't proclaimed guys like when something is made clear and said with your own words well im that type of guy anyways ill see it but ill probe until you admit your feelings or make it clear what it is you are feeling

[Kilapan]

Because the brains of men and women evolved differently.

[jakeofalltrades]

because they never tell us how they are feeling and expect us to us mind reading to figure it out

[rkf_helps_247]

we are clueless coz it's not so easy to interpret a woman's feelings like girls think.
For us, it's pretty different. And mostly confusing

[Anonymous]

For the same reason why girls are so clueless about guys' emotions.

[Allenhundred]

I think a good amount of them (including myself) are just fixed on fucking.

[majdric]

Because girls often don't state their minds. Say what you feel and we won't be so clueless

[Nahid1234]

Some don't care honey, I'm bad at understanding girls but I do try to talk to her about important stuff

[Anonymous]

I don't experience emotion in the same way so I don't understand it

[darknhandsome]

women tend to pick guys who aren't the best for them. They don't respect their feelings sometimes.

[Arya_Christ]

for most part I don't think men are not clueless just a bit awkward and afraid.

[Nandor]

Why not? Girls are smart and emotional guys are dumb and strong

[Bad_Man55]

you know the wrong guys hahaha

[Anonymous]

cuz girls easily change their minds. And they have nice vocab to stop guys being straightforward.

[leovinci1]

cause we aren't girls, duh

[NerdInDenial]

Because men function on rationale

[Djaaay]

You really think that is true ?

[letmeanswer]

Just because you are girls and we are guys...

[Iron_Man]

I am not

[Anonymous]

Stupidity is just a part of being human.