How do YOU personally behave around your crush?
Also state what your conventional social style is, i. e. outgoing, shy, etc.
I've been with my boyfriend for going on 2 years now, but from what I can remember I acted bubbly. I remember I would try to make him laugh by acting stupid, and I would talk really loud when he was around. To this day, I'm still goofy with him, it's just the "I fell in love with my best friend" type of relationship with us, which I love. Im an extremely outgoing person naturally, I'm very open with people and I'm constantly saying jokes and making everyone laugh, including myself haha. My boyfriend and I are the same way, when he first started liking me, he would get my attention by doing cute things rather than silly. It's all about the way you want to approach them. But, I recommend going for it, because life is way too short, and even if you get rejected, at least you know in your heart that you made an effort to let them know. Confidence is sexy in my opinion. Best of luck to you :))
OMG I recognize me through your lines! I can relate to every single word! Guys live girls like us and if you are cute/beautiful it's a bonus!!!
I agree, I am just wondering how people act around their crushes. There is a lot of talk about girls do this and guys do that, but we're not all the same - so it's interesting to hear how people behave around their crushes.
I get really nervous, all giggles and blush like there ain't no tomorrow. I've also noticed I get painfully clumsy, first thing I did on my first date with my bf was to step on his foot when we hugged lol. Poor thing.
I remember him telling me I seemed really relaxed though, so at least I've got that going for me hahha!
I used to be really shy but I've become more outgoing over the last three years. I tend to get shy when I'm uncomfortable.
How about you? :)
I used to be really introverted around my crush, but I've sense forced myself to be really extroverted to the point that I am told it's actually intimidating to talk to me. Weird going from one end of the spectrum to the other (at least externally).
And stepping on your boyfriend's foot, that's actually kind of cute/funny. Clearly he didn't mind so all is well :)
I force myself to not allow myself to get shy. Being too shy or too coy can make things confusing, so I tend to be very friendly, like he's a good friend, playful, act completely like myself. I don't put on a show or anything. The only thing special is I would give him direct compliments and hold eye contact more.
What kind of methods do you apply to force yourself to get over that mental barrier? Things like this are usually easier said than done, right?
Do you start of being kind of avoidant of them or do you force yourself to not be shy right from the get go?
I never avoid someone I like, that is a sure way of making them think you don't like them. I myself personally just learned how to speak. By that, I mean I learned how to talk like an intellectual and a confident person, through reading, watching other people, etc. When you know how to talk like a smart and confident person, falling into the role becomes easier. I studied a lot of social situations and gaged reactions over time too, which made it easier for me to predict how things would go. If someone were to right up reject me like an asshole, I would make them feel stupid for it. I would just tell them that I thought they were worth getting to know, clearly not, and the fact that they're bothered by my interest just shows where their maturity is, and to have a nice day.
:o I try to make myself noticed by him and make sure he takes note of me at least once during the day. but once i've gotten that out of the way I usually am more quiet and awkward and I feel like I'm annoying 98% of the time so I may back off talking to him a lot.
Hmm, why do you think you're annoying him? Surely, if they didn't want to talk they just wouldn't, right?
Because I was told once that I talk about myself way too much and never ask enough about other people so now whenever I talk to someone, ESPECIALLY a crush, a little voice is always telling me I'm being too self-centered.
Hmm, well I wouldn't think a girl is annoying if she talked about herself, it's at least conversation, you know? It would be annoying if all she did was boast about herself the whole time or knock other people down, but other than that I would think that's a perfectly good way to start something.
Depends on where she is with me. If she's likes me back I'd be more open and I'd treat her well but with a lot of my own personal respect and create some challenge by being counter intuitive. If she doesn't know and doesn't seem interest in me yet, I'd either be very confident and funny... but I would be counter intuitive with how I feel towards her. It's not wise to give your power too soon. You have to trust her a bit... takes a bit of faith... and you have to know how to read the signs... there no simple answer... sometimes I'll even let her see how well others treat me and respect me... so she can follow that precedence. ... but one thing is when I interact with her, I'd act like she will like me, accept me and I got that something special. I believe this is the secret of confidence... people treat u how u treat urself. There's so much to say lol
Women (mainly the ones that have belong to a social circle and outgoing. Loner types are less likely to be fond (from lack of confidence) of this since they may get intimidated) are huge on the man's social standing. It's also a way for her to asses what kind of person you are.
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Can't help it :/
But to be honest I haven't met any girl that I would really like.
Hahaha Ed, Edd, and Eddie. Amazing show. Well maybe it gets better with time/experience?
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Well I'm always cool so..
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Hahaha, well hopefully not with a frying pan, can't imagine that's good for the health. The question though is how do you proceed to act cool? A faked sense of confidence or what?
Haha, well not sure if i even look cool when with a crush but i tend to ignore them ( this might be a bit unusual) so it may give off a cool (or cocky) vibe.
So if you ignore them, how would they know you like them though? Like I said in one of my other comments, if a girl did that to me I would think she doesn't like me for some reason, you know?
I do have a flirty side. even if i try not to make it obvious that i like him the guy would definitely tell something is going on or he'd think im a freak lol
Well, not smooth or obvious either. I will literally shut myself down. I will avoid most of his eye contact, get quiet, mumble, stutter... you name it. If we are friends or sort of know each other, i may try to text and see how that goes since it's somewhat easier that way to talk but i don't prefer it. I get really self-conscious and my mind goes blank. So it ends up looking like i don't like him or i just look extremely awkward and will just run away from the whole ordeal. It's a mess.
Hmm, seems this is more often than not the case. In which case how does a guy know that you like him if you act so distant and avoidant?
I usually am extra quiet but will greet my crush if in passing. I don't necessarily mean to ignore my crush, I get nervous and find it hard to speak so I probably come off as distant or rude. I blush a little too. I am a little shy. I do try talk to them but more times I am quiet around my crush
So you become more shy around them to the point of possibly ignoring them?
Yeah sometimes I do but I don't mean it.
I play it cool, ignore him a bit, get a bit charming. Haha.
Ha, does that actually work the ignoring them? Surely that gives up the vibe that you're not interested? I mean if a girl ignored me I would think she must dislike me for something (although I wouldn't really care I would probably just ignore her back)
Well, mostly because I don't want him to think that I like him, to reveal me like that would be dangerous if i wasn't sure he liked me back.. that's why.
So kind of a safety blanket then? Hmm, so you wait for him to express himself then you express yourself back or do you take it up to the next level of seduction/flirting?
I wait for him. lmao
"Ignore him". You know how to get noticed... if he already didn't notice your physical qualities :) @IsabelleBk
Haha who knows if he did or did not! I'm shy anyways. :)
I get super nervous it's unbelievable. I can't even look the guy in the eyes and if he really tries to look me in the eyes, i shake a little. I tend to avoid the person to save myself from embarassment of turning red infront of him. So that's why I think, ill never end up with someone. Yup, sad story of my life.
Really? That bad? If you're avoiding them though, how do they know you like them? Do you try to make sure your facing them or do you tend to to do the opposite and look away?
That's the part that makes it hard for me to ever be with someone I like, i look away because im too shy but it might give the person the wrong idea that I dont like him. My body language may show the opposite of what i truly feel sadly. I also avoid him to not be so obvious that I like him because I dont want to look desperate
well, depends: if she would ignore me; i would be like extra loud to get her attention and show her im where the fun is. If im with her im just my plain self. Sweeter but still honest. And always direct.
Ofc, sometimes i black out, but thats more when im non verbally communicating :P
Around most of my past crushes, I've always been one to kind of be really nervous and ask a bunch of questions in hopes to continue a conversation. My current crush seems to be playing hard to get so I'm more open and kind of give little hints I like her. That's the first time it's happened this way. Anyway, social type, I'm more outgoing and social.
How do you define nervous relative to you? Unable to maintain eye contact or initiate conversation? Or?
I make I think too much eye contact, sometimes I can't speak at all as in I completely don't talk to her because that's how nervous I am.
Okay, you tend to stare yourself, but when you don't speak to them do they ever notice it or mention it to you?
No, the one before this one didn't because I just started talking to her and then all the sudden I got really into her and it freaked me out and I just wouldn't talk anymore.
I'll go all cute on him. Extremely cute. A lot of blushing, a lot of hiding because i'm embarassed. I'm outgoing and confident (in general) but when I'm near him I would just melt, and be shy lol
@kain7th HAHAHA nah you just make me laugh AT you not WITH you 😋🙈 haha *dies on the floor from laughter*
So why around your crush, but pretty normal around everyone else? Does your crush ever point out that you're considerably quieter around them?
He would intimidate me that's all (me liking him would make me feel weak and vulnerable around him) . I don't get all quiet though, I'm able to keep a conversation going, his just on a different level to everyone else..
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hahaha, just like that?
Fair enough!
Do your crushes ever notice it/mention it to you?
i try to act normal , keep the eye contact, and smile a lot and always keep it friendly so he can feel comfortable with me but i can't help it but blush >w< </3
Okay, so strong eye contact and smiling then? Well makes sense, I would that's a pretty straight forward sign of attraction!
Do guys notice it or are we oblivious to this kind of thing?
yesterday i passed infront of my crush he looked right in my eyes i started sweating and i didn't look at him i started acting like a fool just looking around and i literally heard my heartbeats and i started laughing for no reason and i started talking with my friend so yes i am shy and stupid
Ouch! That sounds nerve wrecking. Did he notice or comment on that behavior?
he kinda did and he looked at me like wtf girl?
I shake.
I blush excessively, especially from eye contact.
I stumble over my words.
I stare at the ground a lot.
I preen.
basically, I become the biggest dork ever.
.. and I giggle over nothing.
Im shy, smile a lot, quite and just nervous. And I look a lot.
I try to avoid being around my crush too much because then he'll figure it out.
Im very different when im with family or friends. Im funny, outgoing, bubbly and positive person.
Isn't avoiding them kind of counter-productive though? How do they know you like them?
It is but because of both of our situations it wouldn't work. I think he'll know because I'll show it too much.
What's wrong with him knowing though? Could start something positive, right?
Yeah it could, hopefully.
In due time.
I'm very sarcastic I'm general. So I tease my crush a lot. I'm bad when I'm crushing on someone I don't have a history with, cause it's awkward and difficult to start conversation with.
How do you overcome the latter case then?
I'm working on not doing this anymore, but I get super shy and awkward. Its embarrassing! I have this weird idea that they somehow know I like them so I act like I don't like them. It is awful. I am trying to stop doing it.
So you become avoidant of them rather than approaching them?
Sadly, yes. It is a really messed up mentality I am trying to correct. *sigh
I can either go two ways: I' either very shy, or (more commonly) I act really overly sexual, outgoing, and loud because I'm horny and excited, haha.
Okay, so you get a little bit more excited around them, gotcha. Would you say that it's obvious for the guy more often than not that you like the guy given guys are a bit less capable at reading the signs?
Super shy and quiet. I smile a lot. It's written all over my face that I'm nervous.
Haha, well that seems to be the general case in this question aside from the few externally confident types.
So how would a guy know that you like him then if you're shy and quiet? Or is that how they should know?
Lol they could guess from the constant smiling. However, I usually try to avoid being in the presense of a crush. I feel better , liking them far away. I can't really explain it.
There's a difference between someone I like and someone I have crush on. I can talk to and be around someone I like. It's the opposite with a crush.
So with a crush you find it that there's higher level of of stress/anxiety? Why is that? Do you consider a crush to be more potential than simple interest?
Like a really shy idiot that's fascinated with the floor. :/
same. same same same.
Like I asked others though, how is your crush meant to know you like them?
That is the problem isn't it? And probably why I had so many unrequited loves in the past! :(
Extremely shy, which I'm normally not. When there is other people around I don't act shy also.
Okay, and how would you define shy? You avoid the person, you're quiet around them but sociable around others, etc.
I'm pretty quiet and can't find a way to start a conversation (which makes it better when there's others around, they can start the conversation) sometimes I feel that I would be saving myself if I avoided him but I can't seem to do that bc I like him so much, he has no problem avoiding me though
don't have any crush now... but i'd act normal... not creepy of course
Probably good that you don't act creepy :P So you don't have any noticeable change in behavior?
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