Is he trying to make me jealous?

[Anonymous]

This guy and me have gotten pretty close and I've developed feelings for him. I'm pretty sure he likes me too but we've kind of been ignoring each other. He has started talking to a lot of other girls, so is he trying to make me jealous? I'll admit I'm making him jealous too. Although we still talk and flirt, do you think he still likes me or has he moved on? Should we keep doing this, I mean it won't get us anywhere so why are we playing games?

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty much in the same spot as you. I'm assuming that you probably both have the same idea that you'll get more attention from who you like if you keep trying to make them jealous. But you're right, that's not going to get you two anywhere. If anything it might drive you two apart so that you both want to just get other each other and move on. The guy I like is trying to make me jealous by flirting with some of my female friends in front of me and I've done the same to him. The only thing it's done for me is make me seriously consider moving on at least four times. The only way it's gonna stop is if you stop trying to make each other jealous. Try giving him some really clear signals that you would love to go out with him. That way he will see you really like him and he'll most likley stop playing games.

[Asker]

Thanks for your advice. I have considered to move on but I know he likes me because he asked one of my friends if he should ask me out but my friend told him I dint like him because she doesn't know I do. He told another friend we were going out, maybe as a joke but she said that if we were she wouldve known by then. And that she couldn't imagine us two going out? I don't know but I think he lost some confidence there maybe that's why he's making me jealous.

[melissa123]

haha. I'm in the exact situation. Woa this situation do happen often huh. haaha. Well the guy that I kinda likes, he is a player. *sighs* well I think you should try and hang out with him instead of ignoring him because I have tried that ( ignoring the guy ) and it doesn't work, it just make myself more stress about whether does he really have feelings for me. Well...just hang out, get closer to him and then see what he wants. I hoped that helped...

[cscshadows07]

if I were you I would text him at this very moment to straighten things out. tell him that you are wondering if all these other girls mean a thing to him, since the other guys don't mean anything to YOU.

you have to tell him what you feel before it turns into nothing. I just lost a great potential relationship when we tried to get each other jealous.

[Asker]

This sounds like a good idea but he doesn't have a phone anymore=/ Any other advice?

[cscshadows07]

Facebook, MySpace works too.

or pull him aside at school at lunch or in the halls adn say something like "we need to talk" and just lay it all on him there.

[Asker]

He added me on MySpace and I added him on messenger but how do I pull him aside if our school is super strict and we can't really talk in private? I'll try talking to him anyways, but I want it to be the right time and place. Should I make the first move or will that scare him?

[cscshadows07]

Make the first move! could you do it at lunch? or after school in the halls?

[Asker]

I don't think I could do it at lunch. I sit on one side of the cafeteria with my friends and he sits on the other side with other friends. Not so sure 'bout after school either because I play sports and he doesn't right now. I can't be late for practice and I'm not with him in last period. We go our own ways after that. I might get to talk to him online. Sorry it's kinda fustrating:/

[cscshadows07]

Its tough, for sure. if he is online IM him and just say something like: "we gotta talk..."

or reading your other comment, since he does like you I don't think he would have a problem if you *casually walked by his table* and told him that you wanted to talk to him. then just find a table somewhere. tell me if that works :)

[alpinestars-2002795]

I don't know perhaps you should ask yourself why "you're playing games" first. Perhaps before passing judgement on others. Just a thought. Perhaps you should stop playing games. As you even admitted they get you nowhere. Although I doubt he's playing games. If he's talkin to that many women. He's moved on most likely.

[PrinceOfDrarkness]

yes I amm in the same situiation and wanted to know your POV on it. When and how should I stop?

[Asker]

I suggest you stop as soon as possible and maybe talk to that girl. If you keep on doing that she might just move on with some other guy and why not go for her. It'll either work out or it won't so why wait? Go for it, what's to lose? If she doesn't feel the same way I'm sure there's another girl out there waiting for a guy like you. Hope this helps. Meanwhile I'll keep trying to clear things up. Any advice?

[PrinceOfDrarkness]

I think you should be the one to talk with him, and try to develop some type of comfort zone with him, I only do that because I am shy.

[Asker]

Same here. I'm shy too but sometimes outgoing? It depends on the situation. Right now I'm trying to be bold and talk to him instead of waiting so we'll see how it goes... How can I create some type of comfort zone with him? Thankzs: ]

[PrinceOfDrarkness]

I think that a comfort zone can only be developed by slowly start talking to him, then he will open up. It may also be helpful to find something you both have in common and don't be too bold. The point is to make it extremely easy for him to talk to you even if you have to talk first.

[PrinceOfDrarkness]

And since I am in the same situation, what are some ways I can start talking to the girl in my situation so that she won't move on.

[Asker]

Find things you have in common, and like you said create a comfort zone. Try talking to her a bit more and cut back on the jealousy thing! Just make her feel more comfortable around you and be someone she can talk to easily. Making her laugh and have fun with you is a plus. Just don't fall in the friend zone.

[PrinceOfDrarkness]

Ok I am going to try and add me as your friends so we can ask each other questions from the opposiite sex POV

[LostHelp]

Growing up I kinda understood what " just go for it meant " when you like a girl , but how do I just go for it, go do what exactly? They always said tell her how you feel, then what, you go and tell her you love her out of nowhere! I love that feeling of awkward silence.

[tor_2010]

i was going to ask this question and I'm glad I see that someone else did. I'm kinda in the same situation in a few ways. I liked seeing all the great advice on here.

[augustine_64]

yea you can just do it lightly if the flirting gets to hevy it mite hurt you both with your relationships.