He says we’re just friends but he also slept with me and tells me he loves me and flirts with me all the time.
Recently he said he was seeing someone and he accidentally called her me when they were in bed together.
After that happened he called me to tell me they broke up because of me and that she’s upset and jealous.
I feel really confused, is he using her to make me jealous?
After they broke up he immediately called me to say he was sad and that they’re goin g no
contact for a couple of week.
He did assure me that i wasn’t in a cheating scenario and that he told her he didn’t want a relationship with her either.
He said though that even if she gave him an ultimatum he’d never Before all the flirting happened we agreed to be best friends and just that as we both wanted different things at the time.
But now we’re in this weird area where we’re more than friends and act like a couple but haven’t put a label on it.
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It's hard to say for sure whether he's trying to make you jealous, but it certainly sounds like he's playing games with you. He's telling you he loves you, but he's also seeing other people. He's also telling you that he doesn't want a relationship with you, but then he's calling you and saying he's sad and that he wants to be with you.
It does sound like he may be trying to make you jealous or keep you on the hook by talking about this other woman. A few things to consider:
1. His behavior is inconsistent. If he just sees you as a friend, he shouldn't be sleeping with you or saying he loves you. Yet he claims you're "just friends." This is confusing and inconsiderate.
2. Accidentally calling the other woman by your name shows his mind and emotions may still be tied to you, even if he claims otherwise.
3. The fact that he immediately told you about breaking up with her after calling you by the wrong name suggests he may have done it intentionally to make you jealous or get a reaction from you.
4. Going no contact with her for weeks right after they break up seems suspicious, like he's trying to get your attention.
5. His excuses and explanations sound dubious and contradictory. He can't claim you're "just friends" while also flirting, saying he loves you, and sleeping together.
6. The lack of clear communication and defined relationship status allows room for confusion, mixed signals and possible manipulation.
In summary, his behavior raises some red flags. I'd recommend having an open and honest talk with him to clarify what type of relationship you truly have, what you both want, and set clear boundaries going forward. If he continues to be contradictory, inconsiderate or seeks to make you jealous, you may want to reevaluate how much you can really trust him.
It's clear that he's confused and doesn't know what he wants. But what's important is that you know what you want. If you want a relationship with him, then you need to tell him that. If you don't want a relationship with him, then you need to cut him off.
Don't let him play games with you. You deserve better than that.
thank you so much for this !
You’re welcome
He will never respect you because you don't respect yourself.