Why are girls drawn to you when you show lukewarm interest in them? (Page 2)

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It seems that if you show a girl that you don't care much about her, and you barely communicate with her when she is not around, calling very seldom, and essentially showing her she is into that important to your life, they seem to want you more.  If you say something upfront like "Hey, I like you, wanna out on a date?", they seem to have an immediate turnoff switch.  Do they do this because of hormonal reasons, chemical reasons, cultural reasons, working against stereotype of some sort, some logical reason?  If a girl denies this, is it non-the-less true, and just being denied because nobody likes having someone show them a mirror of themselves.  Essentially girls seem to like gray areas, and abhor black and white statements like "I like you..."  Seems like some build-up and romantic tension always needs to be an element.. Now this seems probably an ideal for lets say a "chick flick", but can that sort of thing always be applied and executed in real life?  Is this sort of tall order of constant gray area tension building going to be to the eternal detriment of most average guys who are more logic driven, and don't know how to present things in such a romantic tension build-up sort of way that many girls now expect?

Anonymous · Answer

Yup, most girls are like that! I have no idea why, I guess it's just how they are. I know that if I liked a guy and he said I like you wanna go on a date, I wouldn't p*ss around! I guess people want what they can't have, and when they get it, it's not that amazing anymore, or they weren't expecting it so they aren't sure if that's what they wanted.

It works both ways though. Why do all these guys who I don't have feelings for, like me?

Anonymous · Answer

I myself don't like games, if a guy likes me then he needs to tell me, not just string me along making me wonder. Because if a guy does that too long then it's pretty much a dealbreaker for me because it's like I don't even know if he is interested so I move on.

I do agree that people want what they can't have, and it's okay to do the whole hard to get thing at first, but you have to draw the line someone or it just turns into you playing games, and I really can't stand games.

JohnDorian · Answer

Its because when you don't show them attention and just smile and walk past and don't approach them or talk to them, they will be like "i have to try and get him to give his attention to me". That's why. This is why if you just give a smile/wink/hi to a woman and don't do anything after it she will still be sitting there thinking about you.

sunshine2 · Answer

more of a challenge? they think your mysterious for being distant and wanna know more about you. I think girls get a little freaked when guys are supper into them, they thinkgs there's a catch or something- which is stupid! I know.

Reeses-pieces777 · Answer

i guess some girls have low self esteem and they're drawn to the small pathetic efforts of a few members of the opposite sex. sometimes if you're more smarter and mature, you realize that guys should work harder to be with you...but whatever

Littletad · Answer

Consider this, I'm drawn to girls with whom I don't have a speck of similarity with. I almost always go for opposites. My guess is, these girls are somewhat the same way. Tell them no, and they consider it a "try harder".

hisgirl · Answer

sum girls like it wen you don't show then attention I'm don't say I like I  because I'll get mad if my boyfriend don't show me attention  . sum girls are diffent like that they may like a chace like lots guys of do

SkinnerOne · Answer

You have hit on one of the truisms of life. Women want (and men too) what they can't have. It's called playing hard to get.

n3wgrass · Answer

"It's the last, perhaps highest, love-impulse:  resign your will to the higher power."  -I think it goes for girls and guys

Aphrodita · Answer

because humanity is programmed to want things that arouse curiosity. when a guy is vague about his interests, a girl is not sure weather or not she can have him, it makes him mysterious, she then becomes curious, and wants him more...

Anonymous · Answer

To be completely honest, as a girl, I have still wondered the same thing because it happens to me. I don't think its a conscious thing. It just happens. Maybe if a guy just flat out says that he likes her, there was no work involved and it seems like it was too easy? The more the tension builds, the sweeter it is when things work out. This is a total guess. I think I'm trying to figure it out myself as I type this lol. I probably just confused you more. Hope maybe it helped.

spendy · Answer

wow.. ermm.. nooo.. if he's not giving you the attention you need then hwats the point? mayber wait for him to come to you..but in 2weeks time..i won't be interested anymore:)

Womanizer · Answer

Women are like dogs.  Throw them a tiny bone and they'll follow you around hoping you throw another.  Game on.

yogababee · Answer

I don't know I think if I like the guy enough I would be happy for him to ask me out! Why do guys play mind games anyway?

no13mercy13 · Answer

too true of us females but  remember its not the catch but the chasing that counts

Gregs · Answer

bingo

WhatTheF · Answer

Exactly

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