Should I give this chubby girl a chance?

[Anonymous]

She has a great personality and likes a lot of the stuff that I like.

The problem is, she's not a certified 10. She doesn't even lift. Her body isn't tight and toned.

I'm a stacked Swoldier. I bench 2x my weight min.

[Kelser31]

give her a chance. you don't know her life. and honestly if you two hit it off she could be willing to change. I am a bit chubby myself, but have always worked out. I have always wanted to change my body, just because I wanted my body to show how much i really worked out, but could never find the motivation to change other aspects of my life to make this happen. I met my boyfriend like six months ago, and he is not spectacular but he is in pretty darn good shape (he kind of has to be cuz he is in the army). but about 2 months ago I realized that our relationship was really going somewhere I knew that this was it. I want him to think that I am like the hottest girl ever, so in those 2 months i have lost about 15 lbs. It's nice to be with someone who doesn't judge my body, I think that is why i have no problem trying to lose weight. also does it really matter as long as the sex is good (which it will be as long as you make her feel sexy regardless of how she looks). this is just my experience in a similar situation, but I say go for it.

[TriSARAHtops]

If you have to ask this question, you don't deserve her. You'll always be looking out for better. You're focus is obviously on yourself. Wanna know why? Because you are shallow. I'm not sorry. She has a good personality, and apparently you are going to throw away someone who could be really loyal to you because she isn't a '10'. You don't deserve a '10' unless she's as shallow, air-headed, and selfish as you sound. No of fence, but you need some real talk. Get a life.

[HuckyHucky]

No one can answer that question but you.
All I have to say is if you aren't naturally physically attracted to her then don't force yourself. It wouldn't be fair to get into a relationship with a girl you know you don't find appealing because you'd probably show it in one way or another. Go find a fit girl instead of settling with a chubby one then later complaining about her chubbiness.

[musicbrain5]

He's already complaining about it in the comments here.

[Xelebrum]

You're probably not a "certified 10" either. But I'll humor you.

How is her face? Is it attractive? If so, then it doesn't really matter if she's chubby. She can always lose the weight. In fact, you can be her own personal trainer.

Also, it would be hilarious if she were to lose a lot of weight and then leave you because she doesn't find you attractive enough.

[selfishstars]

"She can always lose the weight. In fact, you can be her own personal trainer."

I think it's a bad idea to get into a relationship with someone you aren't really attracted to because you think/hope that you'll be able to help them lose weight.

[Dave_Jose]

Obesity just needs to stop, I don't feel at all bad for obese people who choose to eat bad and not work to get in shape, but them except a fit or average body boyfriend or girlfriend, because they deserve what they are putting out there, and if they're putting out their obese bodies then that's what they deserve. Sorry but it's what I feel.

[chercheur]

What you feel is an opinion from a young man's point of view. You'll learn as you grow up obesity is usually a combination of things that cause people to gain weight and it's not as simple as they just eat too much and are lazy. You could learn to have some empathy and not be so judgmental about things you don't fully understand.

[Dave_Jose]

If you have a fit body (I do too) you should try to get someone who is like that too, or at least is average, you shouldn't settle for less.

[Dave_Jose]

Well I thino its fair for someone who worked hard for a fit body to get with women with that general body type, because I hate it when this rude obese chick I know at our school is talking about how some guys are nasty because they are obese when she is too, but she wants a thin guy. Maybe people who want something should at leat try to obttain what they are looking to get from someone else.

[chercheur]

@Dave_Jose

You only need to concern yourself with what you are, and until you walk in another's shoes you shouldn't be so judgmental. Not everyone has your life, your past or your genes. Consider this, some women ( and men ) who become obese do so because of psychological issues such as being molested or raped as a child. They unconsciously use food as a feel good coping mechanism because it's a basic answer to help themselves feel better. Little children don't understand the abuse or how to deal with their feelings so they use food to feel better. This starts a vicious cycle, because the more they eat the more they get depressed. The more they get depressed the more their self esteem goes down, ergo they eat. This is only one example of why someone may be obese. Do you not have enough empathy to understand and have compassion for someone who has had that history? It's just not as black and white as you think.

[Dave_Jose]

I'm being honest to answer this man's quesrion, and this is how I feel no matter if you like it or not.

[quisha916]

What if u was fat and a girl rejected u because of your weight? How would u feel?

[Dave_Jose]

I would work hard to become average weight or even better even if it involved a personal trainer or a product that was proven to help with weight loss, but I'm not in that situation.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Don't date her. You obviously can do better so get a bad bitch

[quisha916]

You be perfect for him since you are being shallow.

[Anonymous]

It really depends. If you can be happy with her then that's a start. If you find her sexually attractive for whatever reason, I say go for it. I believe the physical attraction is necessary for young couples cause it's the difference between a friend and a girlfriend. But just because she's heavy doesn't mean you won't like her. Lots of buff guys like big girls anyways. So it's not a problem, maybe not what you're used to. Good luck. If you guys can talk it over, maybe go out but take it slow, let her know you're not too sure.

[Rloco]

She souldnt give you a chance. Apparently you don't appreciate what matters.

[Asker]

White Knight riding the computer chair to Vandeldorf.

[chercheur]

Amen!

[Rloco]

I'm actually on my way to getting fit too. I was obese now I'm not. It's almost like an addiction and it's not always started by the person. When your a kid you don't get to choose and don't realize what your doing. Some people who are lucky enough to have a fast metabolism don't understand. I was obese for 15 years. Unless you've been through it you can't talk. I've always been active and stuff but food is a addiction. Also it's because of assholes like you that people end in a cycle of eating because they are unhappy. Try actually thinking what they might be going through. Maybe you should workout your brains too and actually open your mind to new things. Your so superficial. If you seemed concerned for ones health that would be fine. But you are talking about people like they are objects. We all come in different shapes and sizes it's whatever you find beautiful. Maybe your just embarrassed because you actually find her attractive but are worried what your meathead friends think.

[Chick180]

If you're gonna resent her because of the way she looks, no. She doesn't deserve that.

[chercheur]

Yup.

[BigbuttLvr]

No, you sound like a dick and wouldn't be a good match. Go find your super fit girl so you can both talk about how fit and better than other people you guys are.

[Anonymous]

If you really like her then yes just because her body isn't completly as toned as yours shouldn't affect ur opinion of her.. I mean hey chances are you being into that could help her to want to look better and tone up help her out ask her to go to the gym with you!

[Asker]

She needs to fix her diet as well. 1.6K Kal days + Squat rack FTW.

[Opinion Owner]

Well honestly it sounds like you're just mentally attracted to her! I'd consider just being friends. I mean you could try and help her out through diet and exercise but there is a chance she won't see it that way.

[Anonymous]

Ask this:

If you were the chubby one and she was the slim one, would she give you a chance?

[chercheur]

Would you rather date a 10 that has a shitty personality and doesn't enjoy the same things as you?

Yes, give her a chance. Her weight shouldn't be the issue.

[Asker]

Certified 10's got those genetics though. She's fat. Not sure what to do...

[chercheur]

You don't deserve her.

[Chick180]

'Certified 10's' - Lol, betabitch, go back to where you came from.

[chercheur]

@chick180 are you directing that at me?

[Asker]

@Chick180

Betabitch? Then you're not a catfish bro. You're real!

[Chick180]

Omg, noooo. That was for the asker.

[chercheur]

Oh, okay 😉👍🏻

[Chick180]

Oh asker... Good one. Here's the thing, I've already proved I ain't a catfish. How about you prove you're not a betabitch? Can't huh?

[Asker]

@Chick180 You photoshopped a sign or some shit? Only dumbasses buy that

[Chick180]

Haha no. Nobody makes such an effort for a site like GaG. I'm glad you're so enamored by my beauty tho. It's touching, betabitch.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a tool soo maybe you should stay away her :) besides if you aren't attracted what is the point? That is not gonna last long...

[Asker]

My gains def make people jealous

[Opinion Owner]

Wait I think I feel the jealousy arising about an anonymous user... nope just gas.

[Anonymous]

If you're going to be superficial I'd say don't because she doesn't deserve that.

[chercheur]

Yup.

[Asker]

She could use some motivation to hit the squat rack tho

[Watermelonoma]

Not if you don't want to. If chubby gals aren't your thing, then don't pursue. if you workout regularly, its not unreasonable for you to desire a partner who is also physically fit

[WaterNymph611]

No, you shouldn't give her a chance to go out with you. She deserves much better than someone who is unwilling to date her just because she doesn't fit the social norm of beauty.

[Bigclit]

Yes you should give her a chance... you said she has a great personality. ... people forget that the outside of someone can be changed but the inside is hard to change. Give her a chance maybe you can support her if she wants to lose weight.

[Anonymous]

Why did you even ask this question if you're going to shoot her down and talk bad about her? If she wears a size 10, who cares? No, you shouldn't date her. If you care so much about how she looks, she'd be miserable with you. She doesn't deserve to be constantly talked down to.

[CHARismatic110]

I stopped taking this seriously as soon as I read the word Swoldier lmao. Keep on trollin by. Nice try tho.

[quisha916]

You should give her a chance, don't think because she's fat she not beautiful. Every woman is beautiful and the way u thinking is ridiculous. but if u feel she nor "good enough" for u because of her weight, don't try to get with her when she gets slim and toned. Get a skinny girl with a shitty attitude and as shallow as you. Karma's a MF

[Anonymous]

Yes if you are worthy of her. The thing is you are looking on the outside. She can always get skinny but if you can't accept her at her worst you don't deserve her at her best. I think she deserves better than for someone to discount her because she is so called fat. If you are going to end up fat shaming her and breaking her spirit and being mentally and emotionally abusive towards her you need to let it go Mr. Wrong/Rjght now so she find Mr. Right

[GoodDogNigel]

Jeez, why do people not take pride in trolling anymore?

[badger25]

if she's got a killer personality go ahead and give her a chance. just make sure you do not lead her on if you dont feel a connections

[kailie1501]

Don't just deny a fat girl because she is fat we are just like other girls but we just have a little more on our bones

[Asker]

She needs to hit the squat rack hard. Not sure if she's down.

[kailie1501]

I am one of the athletic "chubby girls" some of us like the challenge some don't