My crush doesn't show any emotion. How do I get in her world?

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I really like her, I really want to be with her. I have a crush on her half year now. Both my best friend and me say she is really hard to get because of her character. She doesn't open herself easily. She's the type of girl who hangs out with max 2-3 girls. When we talk I sometimes feel hard to continue the conversation. She doesn't show any emotion. I really need your help here, Im not a good flirt nor have much experience (only 1 relationship so far). What should I do? I, honestly, want to be with her..(not desperate!)

JoshyJames · Accepted Answer

Someone earlier already said that she probably is not interested. My advice would therefore be stop wasting your time on her, you are only 15 do not let small relationship issues start bothering you now enjoy your teenage years. beautiful girls where there before, they are here now and they will forever be there. She is not the only one out there. I know it might feel like she is the right one at he moment but you should try consider other options. The time you take chasing this girl who seems not to notice you at all could be used to discover someone else who could actually be a good or better fit for you. So just relax hang out with your friends try to clear your mind about her and start afresh looking for someone else, do not let girls stress you out. Am not encouraging you to be a playboy all I am saying is when you fall for a girl do not be too attached or too much into her at age 15 most girls (not all of them) are superficial and very unrealistic about their dating preferences so forgive their decisions and brush it off and do not let it bring you down or discourage you from considering other options when a girl says no or shows no interest. Not everyone who is in a successful relationship got it right the first time they asked a girl out.

R3d_Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Flirt with her the best you can... for a little longer... and just ask her out soon. In fact, you could probably ask her out now if you wanted to.

Don't delay the actual "asking out" too much. Yes, flirt and try to establish a quasi-romantic/casual friendship sort of dynamic, but once you're there for a bit, ask her out. If after she says she wants to take it slow, keep talking to/flirting with her, but start looking at other girls (actually you should already be doing this - abundance mindset), and don't have much hope (typically if she was into you, she wouldn't be so hesitant) that she will actually end up dating you (though if a lot of time passes and nothing has happened, re-ask her out for a second and final time and if that is turned down or shied away from, then move on and cut her out from your life). If she says that she sees you as a friend, cut her out of your life. When I say "cut her out of your life", my intent is not to make her seem like the "bad guy" here, but realize that if you want more and she doesn't, it's not fair for you two to be only friends.

moongirl23 · Accepted Answer

She has wall's up and by what you said she only let's a few people in, Also might be harder if her stronger walls she puts up are with guy's 'You must have patience with her she has to trust you and not in the way you think. She has to trust - that she can trust you with her emotions and trust she can feel comfortable being her self with you That's huge ! people who guard vulnerable part's of themselves mean's that some where along the line someone has shattered that trust and she has been hurt deeply or she come's from a family that doesn't display lot's of emotions thus making it even harder to break those walls down. Be patient, sweet and kind are you willing to be vulnerable to her write her a note's be romantic to bust those wall's down your going to have to throw your self out there I mean some movie stuff thing's boy your age don't have the guts to do. You have to set your self from the rest and prove your special. I would start with some secret admirer stuff anonymous notes and candy get her to guess and wonder and come home and think about who it could be make her feel good be sweet.

thedevilwithin · Accepted Answer

Don't try to flirt, just be yourself and if this makes sense be positive, when you're happy it attracts people to you so much more than if your worried or acting nervous. I know you cannot help being nervous around someone you're into, but try to focus just on making the conversations fun and pleasant. Ask questions, listen and try to make her smile or laugh. Once she becomes more comfortable with you, she'll start to open up.
But it's difficult, I was a little closed off in high school too, it didn't have anything to do with the boys around me it was just that i was shy about dating, so i kept my distance. I'm saying this cause it's important for you to know that, if she turns out not to be interested or whatever, it's probably just that she's not at a stage where she's confident enough to be in a relationship. Sometimes it's hard for some people to develop the courage to be a part of a relationship. Anyway, you don't seem desperate... you actually seem mature and nice, so best of luck.

hazal21 · Accepted Answer

Dont Give up If You Really Like Her.
Just Stare at her in a confident way but not continously it will make her feel awkward. stare her in a way that may look charming and sweet. Let her know you like her , if you want her super badly have your own life To Be Honest Girls mostly like guys who have their own awesome life like laughing enjoying and doing naughty things with their friends. she won't show it but inside she may be watching you secretly, try to talk with her confidently ask her hobbies her goals her favourite sports team her other interests and girls love guys with sense of humour. try your best to make some funny jokes that will make her laugh but dont tell her about sex jokes it may hurt her try to be friends with her if she doesn't again try and when she does compliment her :) also impress her as much as you can

tay554 · Accepted Answer

I am almost exactly like her, I definitely have had my issues showing emotion and it took a lot of people kindly telling me so to make an effort to show it more. if she says she likes something or is happy and but isn't showing yet, you'll just have to take her word for it because she isn't there yet. it took me a long time just to be where i'm at and it isn't all that much better. trust your instincts Honestly, tell her how you feel about it be like " i really like you and i just want to know/see that you feel the same and enjoy being with me i know you don't show a ton of emotion but if you feel good about something i'd love to know" something along those lines. sorry to get wordy haha

fraikrop64 · Answer

Just invite her to stuff, say what comes to mind, relax and don't bother with impressing and shit like that.

I took this shy girl to play pool in a pub. We barely talked as well, but she said yes. And we barely talked for 80% of the date. I said a few things, teased her a bit, joked here and there, but kept it casual and didn't force the conversation when she stayed silent...
Then by the end of it she talked more, we stumbled onto more and more things to talk about and joke about and she couldn't shut her mouth and go in her building by the time we got there.

ninetynine · Answer

Don't worry about being an inexperienced flirter; I'd actually steer away from flirting, and instead just try to be confident and real with her. Ask her interesting questions (I can think of some for you if you want), but don't necessarily get discouraged if she's being one-wordy, as that's just a basic tendency of shyness. Tell her stories. Tease her, make her laugh. Find out her interests and maybe casually ask her if she wants to do something related to that interest. The more she feels comfortable around you, the more likely she is to open up.

Keep in mind that her reservedness could also be due to disinterest -- if this turns out to be the case, then I'd use these same tactics on a new crush. When it comes to talking to girls in general, being confident, laid-back and funny will get you far.

pigzlovepizza · Answer

Well. First of all, don't give up! It's hard to deal with hard to get girls, and I'm personally one too. I think that as long as you're persistent! Talk to her, always greet her, and just smile. But i warn you, don't be clingy! You know, you don't need to flirt to get her. If you two just get to know each other deeper and deeper. Then she'll see how great of a guy you are! Don't give up! :) good luck,

Nightwing394 · Answer

It might take some time, you need to just keep talking to her, be her friend show her you are someone she can trust. Show some interests but try not to come on to strong. And we'll don't give up, maybe she's just not wanting a relationship but you could be the one to change that

Amreet · Answer

Try to be yourself and be her friend first. She seems had strong defence. I would highly recommend you to be her friend and try not be her pussy around. Show her that you have great activity, great in class, etc. That's can make her notice you. And last, be gentlemen with her. Don't aspect her to ''Thank you. Be cool, and gentlemen. Best Luck!!

Jxpxtxr · Answer

If she doesn't show any emotion or affection towards you maybe she doesn't even like you? In that case it would be pretty hopeless even trying. But why don't you just ask her out? It might be hard to be brave enough but at least you'll know for sure where you'll stand with her.

Whereisthelove9876 · Answer

Hey i can tell you from experince i was in the same situation a couple of months back... like exactly this happen i can say is you have to isolate her and try to take her to lunch or grab a drink at starbucks or try to go to the clubs she attentends learn what she likes. I know from what happen to me is that the longer you wait and the feelings get more intense u say your not desperate but u kinda are. if she doesn't show emotion its time to move on or she not ready yet thats what happen to me. Its always better to find someone that you have common intersets with or else it can get really awkward. if u need a personal convo im here for ya = D

Anonymous · Answer

Keep asking her questions about herself and actively listening to what she has to say. Small gestures of kindness and interest also go a long way, especially if they are connected to things that she likes. For example, say that she likes a certain TV show: send her a funny meme of that TV show to show her you are thinking about her. Be patient. If she is spending a large amount of time with you and is usually emotionally closed off, she probably likes you and is just afraid to show it.

unicornsandglitter · Answer

You have to engage in a conversation, read her responses and actions. Just approach her more, and try to get her to laugh. But remember to be yourself because sometimes when we really like someone, we want to be someone they like, and forget about who we are.

Kroakies_krickees · Answer

Try asking her to hang out and grab coffee after school sometime. Or invite her over to your house to play video games or watch a movie. Ask her to go grab lunch sometime. Doing something in a public area would probably really help her not to feel uncomfortable and she might open up a bit more in an environment other than school.

Rebellion · Answer

If everything like you say; it's very hard for you to be with her/ to get her.(But don't get mad) ;) First, you have to start a healthy conversation between you and her, to do this , you need to get some common interests with her, you need to like the things she likes, or do the things she does, but not at all; show her that , "we're not same in everything" show her the beautiful sides of your interests, and make her like your interests or become a master in her interests, so she will start to like you ;)

g33kgirl · Answer

she might be scared to talk to you because she is scared to hurt you or scared to open herself up to be able to be shot down. You can't rush her being your friend. Just talk to her daily. Say "Hi, how are you" every day and see what happens... also do you sit next to her in any classes?

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Answer

Maybe you need tell her, when she has her life together
and has time for you than to contact you she has her girls
she hangs with and it's stage she's going through too
it's her age and the only thing you can do is to let her be
let her know how much you care about her and lay things
in her hands and if you let her go she will come back to you
if you hold her back she won't stay around.

Metlahead · Answer

This does not often change, and if it does, it will not be your doing. Don't stress yourself with things you have zero control over. It is just a crush, keep it a fantasy, you even said you have nothing in common yourself. This is an imminent fail. Keep your focus on school and your personal growth and ambitions. Keep sex casual.

Marttinez · Answer

It's been a long time bro, have you ask her out yet? Women like a man with confidence. I know it's not easy for the fear of being rejected. Unless you try you're not going to find out and if doesn't work out move on. I know you don't wanna hear that, but that's life.

Anonymous · Answer

my boyfriend was like that, when we first became friends he would not tell me anything about his personal life and he was pretty closed up. i spent the whole summer trying to crack him. i just got close to him and tried as hard as i could to become close with him and get him to show some emotion. i let him know i was there for him and always listened and was very nice and in the end he opened up and became my boyfriend. so just talk to her and try to keep the conversation going and let her know your always there for her and would like to be friends, and then try taking it to the next level

HetaliaWonders · Answer

Well, she may just be shy ya' know? ^-^ Ask her if she's feeling alright, because a lot of people do go through depression. And she may just be going through that. If she keeps acting like this, try and buy her something special. Or what's even better, make her something. She'll realize that your relationship means so mucn to you. You also may want to show her your feelings as well. It could be hard for you but it's really worth a try. She may just understand and open up to you a bit more.

bubble_tea · Answer

If she doesn't show any emotion, she's probably not as interested in the conversation as you are.. I'm sorry, you can't get into her world if she doesn't want to let you in.

ruby20 · Answer

Learn how to boost up your confidence. Confidence is attractive and then you'll feel more open to more things such as flirting and talking to her. Steal her heart by being charming. It takes time though.

smexiliciousss · Answer

These girls are hard to deal with but amazing when they come out of their shells. Find something you have in common and don't ever come off as too forwRd

candilly · Answer

i think you should just keep talking with that girl.. and if she'll have the same ride towards you as before, then honestly ask her if she even likes you or it's just the way she is :)

HYPNOSEX · Answer

Is she a lesbien, if not ask her to her face, just say in a similar tonality and speed as she speaks in, say Hey ya know I like you, how do you feel about me. dont be shy eh

Longjacketanx · Answer

It sounds like your wasting your time. If she liked you she would show it no matter how she is. Plus she might not be into guys. She might just not like you specifically, or she sees that your trying to hard to be in her world. You've become easy for her and she already has you, and she doesn't want any more of you.

My advice is to focus on yourself, because then she might come running to you or focus on somebody else.

Figleaf · Answer

Forget her son... she's pulling the old 'tortured soul' routine. You're probably already feeling some kind of mystique about her. Picture her shitting and wiping her ass like anyone else. That ought to do it.

Shahana · Answer

What about just being really good friends with her getting to know her you know? Compliment her, girls usually want an honest guy (not brutally honest!!) suppose she looks pretty you tell her "you look beautiful" you see ,'beautiful' makes the girl think you genuinely like her instead of calling her hot or something like that... and do u mind telling me the girl's name?:p

Climber · Answer

First ask yourself if you can live together with such a character. She may always stay like that. Are you OK with that. Otherwise, don't do. Two broken hearts will result.

ForReals23 · Answer

find out what she is interested... ask yourself do you really know her as well as you think... once you figure that out it should be smooth sailing

Anonymous · Answer

I'm the same way. You just have to get to get to know her and then she will either open up or you will start to be able to know how she feels.

Anonymous · Answer

Make her laugh & smile plus just be genuine with her. If it doesn't work. Tell yourself she is gay & you deserve someone who will love you back. Good luck

DarkHumorRUs · Answer

Why do you like her if you can't even have a good conversation? You might just be infatuated.

GOOSEBOY78 · Answer

you can't. she won't let you in, if she dont want you there. she is a introvert. try to draw her out of her shel a bit, if you try to rush, she will shut you down and shut you out

RationalLioness · Answer

She just has to become more comfortable with you. Keep talking and getting to know her.

Anonymous · Answer

aww! dont worry she seems like the shy type not comfortable to you unless you are close. try getting friendly help her open up and get out of her shell. compliment her, ask her for help on things, be super sweet and maybe shell get the hint. hope it helps!

cpsw111 · Answer

Wow... what is it about her that attracts you? Cause if I were you I would have moved on alrd.

Anonymous · Answer

Find out what her interests are, and talk to her about them. This will get you far with any girl.

AboveTheClouds · Answer

Talk to her, show some confidence, but one big mistake, and she'll take you as a Friend only. you gotta show her you like her.

Catherinehar · Answer

If you don't have common interests and you find conversation awkward then she probably isn't the one for you. If you really think she is however, keep trying to flirt with her or just ask her honestly what she thinks of you.

sp33d · Answer

Do you even know what it is about her that you like?

legalboxers · Answer

been there.. done that (sorry to sound like a parent) just talk and see, give her space.

Anonymous · Answer

Talk about something she's interested in. She will open up.

JimiMarley · Answer

Maybe you should try reverse psychology and show little interest and then see if she tries to pursue you. If she doesn't then maybe she isn't interested

Anonymous · Answer

How often do you try and talk to her? Do you ever see how she talks to other guys? She might like you, but she just doesn't know how to talk to guys. She might think you don't like her too.

GinFab · Answer

U can't she is not interested. Get drunk=)

Anonymous · Answer

Make her feel good about herself. People thought the same thing about me, but i was just shy and lacked confidence.

BassMonroe · Answer

Focus everything on making your life a success and the right women will come into your life

itsstrangegirl · Answer

try to hang out with her alone, if she says no she probably doesn't like you, no offence

Klaatu51 · Answer

for how long do u see each other?

tragicallyinlove · Answer

Tell her how you feel. Express your feelings.

Anonymous · Answer

she literally sounds exactly like me D:

LovesDemBabes · Answer

im in the same boat as you its hard...

Anonymous · Answer

just make her trust you.

Nathand · Answer

talk about what she may enjoy.

jarodmaine · Answer

Express your feelings

Anonymous · Answer

How about you go up to her and get her #!!

RafaIsKing · Answer

touch her tits "accedentaly"

Lauren85 · Answer

Sorry bud-she's just not that into u

Not_Helping · Answer

Try flowers!

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