Why do some guys ask about past relationships?

[Anonymous]

This guy who is currently flirting with me asked me about my past relationships...

Is it like to know what could have messed up before, so he doesn't want to repeat the same mistake or is it just pure curiosity?

I just dont get it cause it all happened in the past... so why?

[Anonymous]

Past behavoir gives indication of future behavoir. A woman's partner count, relationship length gives an indication of her stabiltiy as a mate/trusting partner. The type of guy a girl use to spread legs for, allows a man to figure out whether she is going for him because she actually likes him, or because she is settling for him.

Example
Girl in her 20's spreads her legs for highschool jocks, guys who play sports, and bodybuilder. Fast forward to approaching 30's and she now wants to date guy who works as a chemical engineer, nerdy, and introverted. The guy in this question gotta ask so he can be aware of if he is dealing with a gold digger.

Then some guys might just want an idea of what your willing to do. If you were willing to do ass to mouth, anal, 69, threesome with your alpha male boyfriend, then why is it your only giving me blowjobs, and vanilla misisonary sex.

[Asker]

ohhh okay. talking about things like that...

i actually told him that i broke up with my ex because he wanted to sleep with me but i wasn't ready to lose my virginity to him. & i felt really weird how he (the guy i like) asked me like is it because you dont want to do it until a certain time/age or just cause you didn't feel like doing it.

[serious]

Yes, it could be both, he could be curious and at the same time he also wants to ensure that he knows about you as a person so that he can take appropriate steps to ensure things don't go wrong in future.

[Asker]

ohhh. nice!

[abundantlyrich]

I think he's trying to find out how sexual you have been based on the number of partners you've had.

[Asker]

oh i see... well i've had none & broke up with my last boyfriend cause he was too desperate bout it xD

[lost_kitten]

I think it's curiosity and wanting to understand your attitude to relationships.

[Asker]

oh i see! thanks

[cmale123]

Its part getting know you. You have past relationship meaning you have experience what you want. Its part understanding you really. Plus your past tell me how you deal with relationship. It might deal breaker to guy of why it didn't work. You still love the last guy. Then shouldn't he Have any business with you that kinda of stuff

[Asker]

ohhh i see. yeah i understand more then

[cmale123]

Is your virginity really that big of a deal? How much you know about sex? What your perpective of slut. Telling me you are virgin and broke you up your last boyfriend because of it. Is a deal breaker for me. It's tell me my sex life going to be terrible dating you. Sex on a first date is what usally i try to get.

[Asker]

that is so gross. any guy who thinks like that is trash to me

[NearlyNapping]

If it was me, it would just be curiosity and part of getting to know the person. It's something that's part of the life life, so why not ask about it? If it's something personal and she doesn't want to talk about it, that's fine too. It's not something I'd dive right into as soon as I met someone though.

Some guys can't handle knowing about exes, and especially about past sex partners. For those guys it's better to just not ask.

[Asker]

i dont have past sex partners! xD

but yeah i guess i get it now why he would ask me about it & why we broke up and go into the details

[LorcaNovena]

I can only speak from my perspective and while I don't ask because I find women tell me their pasts sooner or later, I do look for red flags in their past as humans very rarely learn from their past mistakes and continue to make the same mistakes over and over again.

[Asker]

mmm i see!
& yeah usually guys dont ask about these things... he's probably the first guy who asked me in such details about what went wrong and why. usually it's the girl who keeps asking about it and the guy avoids talking about it xD

[LorcaNovena]

Each guy is different. A person's past is none of my business, if they wish to disclose the information of their past to me for a particular reason then they are free to do so, but I do find a person's past is able to inform me of what type of person they maybe (I say maybe because people have the capacity to change).

[Asker]

mmm true!

[TravisG]

It is a good for a guy to know about the mistakes your past boyfriends made to make you fall out of love with them in the past. That way he will know not what to do to keep you his girlfriend. He can be that man you are looking for.
I did that before and I gave her the love she was looking for and she did the same thing and things went so smooth because we talked about the reason why the past relationships didn't work.

[Asker]

oh nice... i usually hate talking or even asking about past relationships... i just feel like what's in the past should stay there... but i guess there's also a good point with talking it out

[TravisG]

It is a difference when people ask just to be curious from the people who ask to love you better. If he was just being curious then it would be waste of time. He could ask you what are you looking for in a relationship so you feel uncomfortable talking about your past and you want to leave it there.
So you can tell him that you don't like to talk about your past but this is what I am looking for in a relationship and that will be just ask helpful. Because I have seen when people use what happen to you in the past against you in a relationship.

[Asker]

well he asked what i'm looking for a relationship... then he asked about my ex... and then asked what kind of guy i like xD. i dont think it was only curiosity?

[TravisG]

Well that's a good sign. If his actions speak for him then he was asking to show you he can give you what he want.

[Asker]

hmmm i see! thanks ^^

[TravisG]

You welcome!

[Asker]

i can only put one person in MHO? sucks :(

[TravisG]

Yea it does. I'm just glad my opinion can help. I just like to be a good person and try to be as much helpful as I can be.

[Asker]

but i wanted to put your comment on MHO as you helped me a lot :'(! well... maybe next time!

[TravisG]

Well I appreciate that!
But maybe next time you will remember me.

[ThisDudeHere]

You got it correct yourself already.

[Asker]

you mean about the to know what messed up part, so he doesn't make the same mistake?

[ThisDudeHere]

Yup. That or if you yourself messed up anything. That way he'd know if he's not making a mistake already.

[Asker]

ah i see! well we've never dated before, so i guess its just that he doesn't wanna do the same thing as my ex...

it just surprised me as guys dont really ask these stuff... especially not like in details... its more girls who push these things out of guys xD

[ThisDudeHere]

Well I wouldn't know, haven't been with anyone yet. But ok, good luck to you. :)

[Asker]

awww! good luck to you too ^_^!

[skeptic007]

cause he wants to know how many people you've slept with

[Asker]

0000000000

[Mybusiness22]

They want to see how quick they will get laid. Any question they ask is pretty much to se how sexual you.