Becoming a smooth talker?

Question

I am not much of a smooth talker.  I am trying to figure out what girls want to hear?

tex151 · Accepted Answer

The problem is this, so many guys try and try to be smooth talkers, and they end up saying things like well, uh, umm, maybe, idk, yea, and they look they're trying way to hard to impress a chick, and she walks off. A smooth talker doesn't pause or make mistakes, and if he does pause it's because he is waiting for a response. Most guys who can smooth and trust me there are very few of them, who can actually pull it off, are not looking for a relationship they are looking for a one night stand.

You could tell a chick she looks pretty, and she will say thanks, or no I'm not. But a smooth talker will say something like you have very pretty eyes, I like that shade of Emerald Green, they glisten in the light. It's all about saying descriptive words, but making them sound better, for example if you were to say pretty, he would say gorgeous, but you have to keep going with it, and you can't over do it, otherwise you look cheesy, and most importantly smooth talkers will get right up to her face, brush her hair behind her ear and always kiss. It is very hard to do though, so if you have trouble getting chicks now, don't even try to be a smooth talker it won't work.

ArtistBboy · Accepted Answer

[ The truth ]

- Nothing more / No Exaggeation / No lies

- Nothing less / Minimal Negative remarks / etc

**Instead of:

"Oh hun, who are you kidding? You look gorgeous and I couldn't be with anyone else!"

**Say something like:

"Hun, you are gorgeous to me and I love spending time with you. You don't need to worry about the way you appear"

-- The lie comes from the original statement of "...i couldn't be with anyone else"; You don't want to have anything sound "superficial" / fake.

**Instead of:

"I'm really fat and bald, you couldn't be with me"

**Say something like:

"I didn't know you were interested in me. I have liked you for a while and I would like to date you- can we work towards something?"

Use your active listening and judgement skills of what women want to hear. Also- if you have a gut feeling to "make a move" and the girl seems interested in who you are- just give it a shot and approach her already. Read these stats if you think I'm lieing:

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Best regards,

ArtistBBoy

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Maybe I'm missing the meaning of "smooth talking" here, but from what it sounds like my friends and I would never want to spend time with a smooth talker. Things like "You're cute, too bad I don't like short girls" are instant red flags telling me to get out of there. Another line I've been fed before is "Do you have plans next week?" -No, I'm free, "Well not anymore." The first is quite frankly a tool-ish thing to say, the second (depending on how it's delivered) sounds rehearsed as if you're always using these lines on girls.

Like the anonymous user said, a few compliments are a good way to show you're interested along with flirting. Girls- at least all of the ones I know and myself- want to have a genuine and sincere conversation; we don't want to hear a bunch of lines you designed to get some action.

AnaAmira · Accepted Answer

Being a smooth talker will only get you so far. Be legitimate. You want a girl to like you? Then care... Show you care by your actions. Listen... Show you are listening by interacting with her when she is telling you something. I know this can be difficult, but girls express their emotions, and men need to be able to respond to them. Respect her. Treat her like a lady. Make her feel comfortable and secure around you. Treat her like she is delicate. Chivalry is a great virtue to possess.

best advice I can give is this...

Say what you mean, and mean what you say. If you can't do that, and still be nice... Then you need to work on your character.

shortie · Accepted Answer

I'm a girl and 'smooth talkers' or at least guys that THINK they are p*ss me off because I feel like hey make it SO OBVIOUS that they're trying to flirt with you...I hate that. I want a guy to talk to me as if he's my friend and is interested in talking to me not becasue he thinks I'm 'hot' or 'beautiful' etc. or whatever other line he pulls but because he's actually interetsed in my personality and having a conversation. The best situations are when a guy comes over and is funny and chatty and intersted but doensn't get in my face and try to 'put on the moves'. Being yourself is soooo much cooler than all that.

crazy525 · Accepted Answer

Hmm I have the same problem with guys:/ I have no idea what to talk about but I know that I don't wanna talk about or hear about sex...I like to hear about the sports a guy plays crazy storries with their friends or if a guy has something on his mind I like them to confied in me:) of coars don't if the girl is a big mouth nd is gonna tell everyone..:) good luck

KillerrMike · Answer

You're way off, dude.

Players don't smooth talk. They let the girls do the talking. Who told you that you have to tell her only what she wants to hear? Are you her lackey? What kind of man is held subjective to what she wants to hear? Are you going to tell her everything she expects you to? Why are you putting her needs up on a pedestal?

Girls like to talk -- a lot. They're barrels of gun powder when it comes to conversations. You just need to light the fuse with a few questions. She'll get angry if you talk too much and never shut up, but how often does a woman come back from a date disappointed because she talked too much about herself? Rarely.

Get her life story and let her do all the talking. You'd be surprised how long she can talk about herself and how much she gets sidetracked along the way.

If she gets p*ssed off that you're not catering to her desires and treating her like a princess, be man enough to kick her out of your life. You don't want to be her lapdog.

Work on your game and good luck to you.

Anonymous · Answer

In my experience in order to speak smoothly all you need to do is speak slower. Make your body language more confident and strong then speak clearly and slowly, not trying to demean her of course; simpily taking an extra three seconds to respond to certain questions. This creates the air that you are thinking about them more; that you are laid back. Look directly into her eyes when she is talking or when you are talking to her, put your shoulders back and think before you speak; it is that simple.

If you are spastic you should go for a girl who accepts that though, dating is a process of refining your needs to fit a certain type of girl. Then finding the girl who fits them as well as you fiting hers.

Everyone knows about certain couples where you think the guy is far to talkitive and the girl is annoying or other poor traits you can plug in. Yet those couples tend to last longer because they don't mind the others quirks and might even enjoy what we would see as flaws. You could be thinking, "I wouldn't date her upon my wildest nightmares..she never shuts up." He might be thinking at the same time, "She talks her mind and she knows exactly what to say." Refine what you want versus what they want and talking smoothly won't even be a problem.

sl3vin · Answer

you probably don't want to hear this but women like assholes. because they're not like other guys. be the exception to the rule. when you talk give her value then take it away. your cute, to bad I don't like short girls. and I guarantee she will chase you and give you reason to keep talking to her. your not going to be able to act like James bond so don't try. you need to own the conversation talk about what you know. if she talks about a movie you haven't seen change the subject, it's that easy. if you try to smooth talk her with these line "Hun, you are gorgeous to me and I love spending time with you. You don't need to worry about the way you appear" your a tool I'm sorry, only until your in a relationship (this is in the flirting section) can you really use those sappy lines.

happy hunting my friend

s3tupMayne · Answer

Honestly, it's not really about saying what girls want to hear, but just finding the right thing to say. Anything to make her laugh or feel good about who she is, that's good. Being friendly, that's good. Being social, that's good. Not trying to show off, that's good.

thehellian · Answer

The main thing that a lot of girls like is listeners, they like to be heard, there point of views are expressed and they feel open to opinions and what not...I've been told many times I'm a smooth talker but its not to get a girl in bed...I like to give complements and to be honest I'm not afraid to walk up to a woman and tell her that she is beautiful. Confidence is key. But listening is also key so do both but she will notice when your trying to lure her into something...Women are not stupid...I hope this helps just don't get over confident

urstrully · Answer

To be honest I hate those "smooth talkers" they just come off as jerks.

So like Anony bellow me said. Be yourself! Really if you have a worth while personality and a respectful attitude your going to get attention from the right kind of girls (:

Unless you want to get with a girl with half a brain that would most likely sleep with anyone.

purplemustang · Answer

I had a guy friend ask me something similar to this once, and this is what I told him. Whenever you are in a situation with a girl where you have noooo idea what to say, tell a funny story. It should be mostly true, because she will probably remember it. Just make sure the story is about something funny that happened to you and not a friend or on TV, because that makes you seem like the interesting one. These are great, because you already know the story, so you can get into it and get less nervous. Also, girls love hearing compliments and pretty much any will do, but they are even better if they are original and true. It shows that you are actually paying attention to her. Think about her, and just think about things that are unique to her and compliment her about them.

Anonymous · Answer

don't try to be don juan; leave that to don juan.

just know how to converse, when to be funny (90% of the time), and when to be serious.

Tell her how great you think she is, but only if you mean it.

--if you try to be someone you're not, she will never fall in love with the real you. so be yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

it's not that much about what they want to hear but what they want to see.

for instance: telling a girl she looks great or that you love her yeah might get you somewhere but not being able to take your eyes of her or hugging her till she can't breath... that's say much more than those words

Deathecutioner · Answer

Don't be that guy. Don't just tell girls what they want to her to get in there pants. People like that are a vile. Deathecutioner

Girl-in-love · Answer

Call girls beautiful. Not sexy. Say something about how nice we are or something like that, if your dating the girl say she is one of the best things that's hapened to you.

Reeses-pieces777 · Answer

trust me. either way if you're a smooth talker or not-you won't get past me i don't like that type of bull so I'm pretty straight forward and likewise want an honest guy.

ihatecopcars · Answer

Keep it simple, learn how to use euphemisms, and learn how to describe things in original captivating ways. Don't try to be like anyone else. And speak with confidence. Try picking up some books and learn to use wit, a little goes a long way.

BugabooKimberlyd · Answer

Take it from a girl, Tell her what you like about her! all those men out there are prob telling you to f*** her in bed put your d*** in her I wouldent recommend that!

bunny420 · Answer

Don't say what they want to hear, say what you want to hear. lol

hushmush · Answer

I personally LOVE hearing I'm pretty, cute, or beautiful. :D

Julian · Answer

The truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, including that you're awkward about talking. Stating such things is endearing to many.

Anonymous · Answer

To be honest, you don't want to be a "smooth talker" a smooth talker to me is like a player. and I'm sure no one likes either one. so be yourself, stop thinking so much, and just go with the flow :)

Swampwater · Answer

TELL HER HER RUMP IS AS LARGE AS A QUEEN'S. AND TWICE AS FRAGRANT.

TexPlayboy · Answer

They want to hear the truth. Period. Good Luck, James

BlackSuperman · Answer

I have money, and I will put up with ur bullsh*t... lol

wolverine52889 · Answer

I don't think its so much about what you say, as how you say it. Any guy can use some cheap pick up line, sometimes they work sometimes they don't. The most important thing is that you speak with confidence, you't can't show that your  nervous.

toflyman25 · Answer

always say something nice about her. Don't say something every other guy would say say something she's never heard.

Anonymous · Answer

just be genuine. I HATE smooth talkers and thinks it makes you look extremely sleazy. A simple, nice compliment can have a lot more affect than laying down all the "baby"-like supposedly compliments

Anonymous · Answer

Compliment them! Girls love being complimented.! Beleive me. Talk to them about school & music too !

Titi18 · Answer

2 words Compliment Her!

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