It sounds like you're more trying to understand yourself than your crushes.
To answer your question, all of the above are crushes. If you think or have ever thought you have a crush on somebody, then you did. It's that simple.
Of course, crushes come in different magnitudes, and what you're experiencing right now is a really bad earthquake. I've certainly been there!
The important thing to realize is that just because this earthquake is worse than all the others, doesn't necessarilly mean this guy is the right one for you. At the end of the day, a crush is just a crush whether it is a big one or a small one. All crushes bring with them the hope of finding true love, but they also can shoot your expectations so high that the only place to go is down.
So you shouldn't be questionioning whether your crush is real (trust me, it's legit) but whether the guy is real. Because that's what's really going to matter.
As long as the guy remains nothing but a crush, you're free to make him whatever your fantasy wants, but if you do want to ever have a relationship, then you have to deal with who the real guy is. It takes time to realize this, but all crushes are based upon fantasy, so it's a silly question to ask if one is more real than another...
In fact, the stronger the crush feels, and the worse the symptoms are, the greater the fantasy. It may not seem that way right now, but it's the truth. And there's nothing inherantly wrong with fantasy. The world would be a very dull unmotivating place without it.
The only thing you have to realize is that the bigger your fantasy is, the more it's going to hurt when reality comes crashing down upon it. There's a reason they're called crushes...because they have the potential to crush you. Now, that I said, I think you have to act on this crush or you'll regret not doing so! But accept fate.
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