Is this normal crush?

[Anonymous]

I meet this boy when i started working with our company. He's one of our trainer , it's crush at first sight lol. All the things about him is my ideal type of a guy , and I see myself in him he's introvert and shy , problem is his gay so of course we are already hit with that part it's impossible. So i continue crushing on him secretly , everytime I see him feels like all my problems disappears, feeling nervous when he's near and other crush things. I sometimes catching him glancing at me then quickly looks away , or sometimes complementing how I look cute or fashionable , talk to me about music since we both like music and other things of course i dont want to assume things knowing we'll get hurt later so just thinking he's just being friendly. To cut the story short he resigned after like 3 months when I started working and Im sad and everything, it's been more than 3 years I've tried everything to make my self busy, distract , tried to find another crush but I can't still forgot about him is this still normal crush hoping maybe someday we'll cross path and get to talk again. I hate myself for feeling this coz it's getting tiring. Sorry it's long I just wanna share my feelings and hope someone can understand this long time crush feeling lol.

[SueShe]

That is a long period to have a crush on a person you know will never be able to return your feelings.

You are not doing yourself by holding onto an impossible dream. You are standing still with your emotions while you should be looking forward. Reminiscing of what could have been rather than what could be is unhealthy because you lock yourself away emotionally. You start living in a dream and go over a number of scenarios that you know are leading nowhere.

Get out there, take up a hobby or join a club where you can meet people of both genders sharing the same interest (s) as you do. Having common interests usually makes it easier to talk with those people, even if you are shy.

But the question here is: Do you really want to? If you don't have the desire to look forward, then no one can help you. It is all up to you.

[Asker]

you got it all right. i know and i hate my self for that in trying everything it's pretty stupid ik got to the point i wish i never meet him. Thank you for this I appreciate it 💞💞

[SueShe]

I know you can do it. Just make it a priority in your life. Where there is a will, there is always a way. Good luck.

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO

[TRORT]

Well before we say move on do you have his Facebook , instagram or any social media platform to contact him or is he still in the same area as you? If so reach out and ask to meet up maybe lunch or brunch. Tell him it's good to see each other again. after lunch or brunch you want some place not to loud that you can't think but place where you two can talk. After lunch or brunch take walk and tell him your feelings for him. He might be very quiet at first and you may not know what he is thinking. There could be million different things going through his mind. But he should tell you his feelings, may not be what your hoping for or maybe it is. Just have to voice your feelings

[spartan55]

Three years and you can't get over a gay guy? Very weird.

[Asker]

Ikr idkk

[heypuppy]

Move on

[Iron_Man]

Date him

[Asker]

that'll be impossible coz he's gay 😅

[Iron_Man]

You never said that and why do you like him then