Should I tell my crush I appreciate her?

[YHL6965]

I want to tell my crush I really appreciate her. When I met her, I was kind of depressed and I want to tell her that I really appreciate talking with her because her company got me out of personnal problems.

Do you think she will think I'm an unstable guy or would she be touched by this? I don't plan on detailing the part about personnal problems, I just want to tell her how her company was comforting.

Updates

+1 y

Thanks for all the answers ladies and gentlemen. Actually, we're both going to a party and eat together soon and I plan on telling her during the evening. I'm so excited, thanks for giving me some motivation to overcome my shyness! :)

[Randomsadguy77]

yeah you should... But first, be prepared to prove it. I myself whas in a similar situation with a girl I like the only difference being that she was depressed. I stuck trough it and for 3 months she was my world. She still only liked me as a friend which kinda sucked but hey can't have everything right? So she told me that she appreciated me and loved me "as a person" and that did make me happy, the problem was that she did not prove this statement. She continued on as usual but did not show her appreciation. That made her previous talk about me being great pretty useless and downgraded her status in my eyes. In conclusion, tell her that but be prepared to prove it.

[NoisySilence]

This 🔝

[Fervaal]

Sure. It is a nice thing to say, even if you both stay as good friends.
Don't overthink your feelings in order to fullfil your romantic goals. Why do you care about being unstable or that kind of things? Everyone's got problems time to time, that doesn't make you soft.
I'm sure she will appreciate your words no matter if she likes you or not.

[natured]

Maybe you can tell her this another time when you see each other again face to face, sure personal stuff is supposed to remain personal until you and that person become closer.
I don't think she will think you're unstable, NO, if a guy would tell me that I would feel flattered and I love guys who actually express their feelings and tell me how they felt, it's priceless, unstable has nothing to do with being depressed or sad.
Try to get closer to her, and tell her that you actually enjoy her company a lot and that it makes you forget things that are going on in your life.
Good luck <3

[Sonjita]

I feel you completely. That's like me and this guy in high school. I hope you don't get disappointed because she was most probably there because she just enjoyed your company too, and your confession might mean nothing to her, she will not think you are unstable, but maybe she won't be able to see that it was so important for you. I think you need to tell her because that's the way you feel, but don't expect any reaction from her.

[Sonjita]

I see your update. Yaaay! good luck! :)

[evelyn26]

Yes, tell her she helped you through tough times. We girls like helping and like being appreciated. We love hearing that.
She might think you are unstable but aren't we all? Everyone has problems. I would also suggest telling her she is your crush. Good luck.

[SabinaV]

I do think you should, it won't be a bad idea.

And this will make her feel you truly enjoy her company

It will be meaningful, you will know how much she is true of a person no matter how or what you are around her, never be afraid it is actually nice to be open

[Iwant2kno]

😍 i would suggest you tell her exactly what you think of her. I'm sure she will love it and appreciate that you acknowledge how meaningful she has become in your life. (I would have liked my crush expressing his thoughts as you would, so do it, you got nothing to lose and a lot to win! ) good luck!! 😊

[Saltlife0607]

For me, it would feel like a major compliment and would make me feel good about myself. I think its a sign of closeness and most of us dont look at men unstable unless their certified crazy, but we see it as being brave because we know how hard it is for men to express their feelings. I say do it!

[Saltlife0607]

Good luck at the party! I'm excited for you and I think it will make her feel special to know you trust her enough to share things with her!

[iwannalicku]

yes I think by all means tell her but don't go into detail don't tell her about personal problems just tell her that she's the best and she saved you from a lot of crap

[YHL6965]

Exactly what I planned to do

[iwannalicku]

that is totally awesome I'm glad that you are going to tell her and I'm very excited for you for the party good luck

[YHL6965]

Many thanks!

[iwannalicku]

you are so very welcome I hope that everything will be amazing for you

[Anonymous]

Tell her already, everybody wants to feel appreciated. It is not like you say something relly needy like she is your whole world and without her you have no life😂 She enriches your world and you appreciate her so let her know that you appreciate her.

[Anonymous]

I think if you bring it up in a subtle way then it'll work out well for you but if you just blurt it out randomly before saying anything else then yeah that's a bit unexpected. Try and bring it up into a conversation that's already going that way or try to turn it that way so that it doesn't seem like what you're saying came out of nowhere.

[EmperorOfGAG]

Subtle is not for the adults hehe

[Dme500]

@EmperorOfGAG Preach brotha.

[reezaalikhan]

man the truth is the best u can given to your crush don't wait for to find out and then she will want to kno y u his it from her, jus b open to her a talk the truth, if she loves u after what u have said then you know she's your match make n if she breaks up with u then u two weren't meant to be

[mrsingle]

Wait, this isn't a given for people to do? When I first got involved with my crush, one of the first times we went out I told her I appreciate her and care about her very much. I would think not doing this makes no sense, if you are in a relationship your not supposed to hide your feelings and it's ok to be mushy and romantic not have an iron heart, lol. 🙂

[YHL6965]

I showed her that I appreciate her but I never actually told her.

[denisenic01e]

Everyone has issues at some point in their lives.. She would probably feel good to have been able to help you during a difficult time in your life, and it's always nice to feel appreciated! You should definitely tell her!

[ItzYaboi]

YES TELL HER. If she asks what you were going through then you can choose to open up from there but don't just tell her a bunch of random stuff and move too fast.

[InDetail]

She'd be flattered if you just randomly said that don't be afraid to act shy about it so you won't come off as creepy, especially tell her if she's feeling down

[FlorXx]

Yes! Do it! Everybody loves been appreciated, and when someone stopped feeling appreciated it is bad.

[DodgersGM]

Stop over-thinking it. Just tell her that she's made a big positive impact in your life, and that you want her to know you appreciate her.

[Dim1213]

Also tell her that you enjoy her company. Just saying you appreciate her might make her feel that your now done with her. After she helped you out.

[JustRollTheDice]

She most likely will be touched knowing someone appreciated you is very much appreciated by most people

[lovelyhoneybones]

I think that would be really sweet. I'm more than sure she'll appreciate it. People like to know when people enjoy their company and presence.

[danceislife080]

or that you looooooooove her? ;)

I joke of course -- unless you want to.

But seriously, tell her that you appreciate her sounds so sweet and touching. Do it!!

[madhatters4]

yes you should tell her. telling someone you appreciate them and their role in your life shouldn't come off as unstable

[heemang]

I think you definitely should. I would find it very sweet and heartwarming❤️. Just reading your description made me go aweee

[mfpx_grej]

Tell her! it's an important part of the recovery process, and if you structure your words well, she should feel appreciated