Do girls like aggressive/direct flirting?

[Anonymous]

What do you girls think about boys who are really direct and aggresive in their flirting? Because whenever i flirt i tend to get physically pretty fast... And it seems to me that the girls like it and i've never been pushed away or something for doing it.

But last time a friend of me said to me that she found it a little bit rude and weird that i do that. In this case i had just met a girl at a party and we were talking and flirting and i just grabbed her ass because i felt like it. I'm sure she was totally fine with it.

So is it actually weird that i do that and should i approuch girls more carefully, or is it good when a boy flirts a little bit aggresive?
(sorry for my English ;))

aggresive and direct flirting

carefully and polite flirting

[looneymalooney]

"aggressive flirting", "I get physical fast"? Touching in a sexual way is abuse unless agreed you can do it.
If that was your sister/cousin/aunt and someone that she barely started talking with her grabs her ass, would you be "hey, I think she likes it" or want to obliterate that dude to dust? I know I would want to destroy the guy.
You are that guy.

so my advice and the approach I'm using, be smart in verbally flirting and let the girl become physical.
just because she does not say anything to stop you it does not mean she's comfortable with what you are doing. Give her time to process what is going on.

I remember this guy in high school that really liked this girl and they were talking and all. He suddenly forces her into kissing him and they kissed and all seemed "oh so sweet" and "they are so in love". The girl said she felt forced and did not actually want to do it and couldn't speak for the following week.
Do you want to be that guy that everyone will look at as if he's a monster just because he wanted to put his tongue in a girl's mouth?

Keep your hands or any other part of the body to yourself, until the girl agrees to "share". I've simply upped my verbal flirting game and if she wants you she will be the one getting physical.

[Kiran04]

It's a delicate mix of the two, but going aggressive at the right moment is how you seal the deal more often than not. Playing polite and careful the entire time usually leads to a swing and miss when it really counts. You start out polite, then when you've softened her up you go in for the kill.

[hello_pings]

I would get turned off by your aggressive flirting when i meet you just for a couple times or what. Flirt in a subtle way first. That would get you less in trouble if your looking for the right girl, but if you are strong about your feelings or you're trying to win a girl over, we wouldn't mind being swayed by direct or aggressive flirting afterwards. However, if you're just looking for someone to just hook up with, probs they'll respond well to the aggressive one, but if you like a girl and want to date her seriously, the second type will apply better. But aggressive or careful dont forget to be polite, have respect, or manners. Dont do something against the girl's will :) (im not digging the ass grabbing personally tho lol)

[smokeandberry]

If it's clear we both like each other on a physical level then sure get physical. If I like you on an emotional level then I'm just gonna think all you want is to touch me and kinda be bummed down about it.

If there's a low-key attraction there and we're both flirting don't pinch my ass. It's happened before and kinda makes you feel trapped and you're like okay I gotta back tf out. I like a gentleman but I also like a rough man - you've just got to be good at timing when to be each.

[Asker]

Thank you, this is a really helpfull reply!

[DikchaBasnett]

It's okay to be aggressive and direct flirt but you need to be careful not to harras the girl. She should be enjoying it too.

[23779639]

Only if I find him attractive, otherwise it’s annoying.

[ScarletAngelic]

If we don't know each-other very well than no. I'm a dominant person, so I don't like when people try to dominate me, but if we've been hanging out for a while it's fun for us both to aggressively flirt with one-another.

[Ndifreke]

Direct is fine but aggressive is a bit much. I would get uncomfortable real quick

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't mine aggressive flirting if I already knew you but if you were just some random guy on the streets that grabbed my ass, then I would've done self defense.

[karahiri]

i don't like it. makes me feel like a piece of meat.

[Kiran04]

Given that how most women attract a mate is by dangling themselves out there like bait on a big fucking hook, they kind of are pieces of meat. Or at least, that is how they present themselves.

[karahiri]

@Kiran04 well that is unfortunate.

[Kiran04]

Indeed. If you expect a man to make the first move, then you are in fact bait. You're a piece of meat dangled out to attract a predator with its scent. I'm not saying this is a poor strategy, because it has worked for centuries at this point. I'm saying that one can not complain they are treated like a piece of a meant if one acts like a piece of meat. If you don't want to be a piece of meat, then get up and be a predator yourself.

[karahiri]

@Kiran04 or maybe just opt out of the prey-predator dynamic altogether.

[Kiran04]

And how does one do that? Because in reality someone is either the initiator or the one initiated upon. Rarely do two people pursue one another mutually, because that involves a clash in styles. If one is yin and one is yang, then yang and yang don't mix. There is no complimenting set of styles and behaviors. Good matches are people who compliment one another, not mimic one another, and complimenting behavior styles are an important part of that dynamic.

[karahiri]

@Kiran04 i think there's a softer dynamic available. I've seen it in my friends' relationships. There are a few who do really respond to being strongly pursued, no denying that. But i know i definitely am not a fan.

[Kiran04]

I'm not saying that the balls to the wall approach is the only approach. But at some point you are going to have to swoop in for the kill to seal the deal. There are indeed softer approaches, but softer approaches are only to soften your intended target up. At some point you do have to put your foot on the gas. That doesn't mean be an all out dog and literal predator. My use the of the word "predator" is analogous only. It refers not to sexual predators. But once you've decided you want to commit to acquiring a woman you have to commit whole-heartedly.

[karahiri]

@Kiran04 lol. acquiring a woman? ... jesus. I don't ever want to be viewed like that.

[Kiran04]

Don't get so hung up on terminology. I state things the way I do to ensure clarity. It's that kind of unnecessary sensitivity that requires the predator and prey game to be handled the way it is. Subtlety is lost when people look too far into the meaning of words instead of their intent. When I "acquire" women I mean begin a meaningful relationship with them. That is an acquisition of sorts. I gain something I did not have before. "Acquire" also denotes value. Should we not view women as something valuable?

[karahiri]

@Kiran04 The terminology is important to me. Language is important to me. Your choice of words says a great deal about your mindset. You cannot acquire a person. To acquire is defined as to buy or to obtain. By using the word acquire, you're intimating that a woman can be bought. You're saying that that wasn't your intention- if it isn't, use the appropriate language. That's the best way to ensure clarity. The predator-prey game has never worked on me. I -know- it works on many people. I know it's smarter to use a method that works on a wide range of people. Personally, I am not a fan.

[Kiran04]

No, intent is important. What conclusions you draw from my words is entirely your doing. I take no part in what offends you. Offense is always TAKEN. Never given. So your whole argument on whether you can or can not acquire a person is moot. I said what I intended. If you heard but did not listen, that is on you. I explained what I meant. Accept it... or don't.

[karahiri]

@Kiran04 Don't you want your intention to be clear to the person you're communicating with? It seems really careless, in my opinion, to just assume everyone will understand exactly what you mean 100% of the time. That's actually really, really worrisome.

[Kiran04]

My intentions will never be clear if I'm always tip toeing around words that make people uncomfortable. Everyone is always so afraid of offending other people and using the wrong words that the long, drawn out sentences they do end up spewing forth wind up saying nothing. I like short and concise. Never confuse content with intent. If we were having the discussion face to face you'd have a better idea of my intent based on my tone and inflection. As it is, we have to deal with what we have.

[Ephemera1]

Never touch a lady you don't know. That's extremely rude, and you'd get your ass kicked.

[Anonymous]

Direct: great
Aggressive: not really... Unless we've been dating for a while and I ask you to amp it up, that would make me uneasy very quickly

[hasrett]

I hate it. Flirting in general, but especially such agressive.

[Anonymous]

The 2nd choice. That is normal for my people, though I have found that outsiders are blunt and can become angry and even threaten violence if you reject them.

[UsernameMadness]

See here's the thing. Girls don't recognize flirting if it's careful and polite. Be direct but just don't intimidate her.

[Anonymous]

I like flirting with words aggressively like witty banter but the ass grabbing no

[Anonymous]

Both in moderation and timed properly?
Direct not aggressive.

[babygloss]

Sounds like sexual assault brotha

[Slimey2]

Aggressive if you think you have a chance

[Flower-petal]

Depends on if I already like him

[mT2359]

Differs from girl to girl.

[Anonymous]

carefully and polite flirting

[SoccerGirl111]

I love direct but aggressive kind creeps me out

[DanFlingwing]

i dont know whats a women follow my sound cloud

[MaiaLikesAnime]

Nope

[Fauzillic_Bolt]

Polite flirting.