How do I convince a girl that she’s not lesbian?

[Anonymous]

I already know majority of you who’ve read the title are like
”HOW CAN YOU TELL SOMEBODY THEY AREN'T GAY... GRRRRRRR”

chill, stop foaming at the mouth and let me explain.

There’s this girl named (A) who is going around claiming she’s a lesbian when she’s not.
I know she’s not a lesbian because we used to flirt.
This girl is crazy for 🍆
& boys.
We never dated because honestly she’s wasn’t my type
no offense but she was kind of easy... like..
i felt like she flirted with every boy she saw.
just boy crazy.

She told me how she was fed up with men
fed up with relationships
fed up with being heartbroken
When we weren’t flirting that’s all she ever talked about.

We didn’t talk consistently but at least twice a week
when I did see her I noticed something changed about her
she was different, her whole style changed
she seemed more aggressive
she seemed more direct
& I found out she’s running around telling people she’s gay...
she's actually doing this... & she’s being serious about it
if people knew what I knew about her they wouldn’t.. believe this gay thing.

How is can I convince her to stop all this that she’s doing?
I didn’t exaggerate her being crazy for men by the way
she was a damn freak. Literally.

[Lynzerilee]

You won't be able to convince her unless she realizes it herself. If you believe that she's really not a lesbian, then she will be deliberately lying to her own self either for show, or she is coping with things that have hurt her in this unhealthy way. Unfortunately, in this case, only time and experiences will help learn the hard way, or will she find somebody who loves her enough to restore her back to her real self.
Another possibility would be that she truly chose to be lesbian and decided to open herself to the same gender, but you know nothing about.

[amarahorrorstory]

She could be bisexual or really just questioning herself, some people who are gay or unsure while try to experiment with lots of people of the opposite sex to see if they just haven't found the right person or force it into their head that they're straight. It very well would be that she isn't gay. But, I think it's not really up to anyone but her.

[strangytie]

Hmmm maybe she is... bisexual? And only seeking women now?
You sound like the weirdo who tried to convince me I wasn’t bisexual. Also why do you care? If she wants to date some girls and see if the lesbian label sticks then let her. If she really wants your dick then she’ll tell you.

[Intraluminal]

Tbh, she may have been fucking around a lot with guys because of what's called, "homosexual panic" where a gay person realizes that they're attracted to the same sex, and in an effort to deny it, tries to act "super straight"

[aconfusedgirlie]

You can’t tell her she’s not a lesbian. Maybe she’s always known and tried to cover it up with all the boys, but accepted the facts now

[Asker]

She isn’t gay..
you don’t understand, she wasn’t confused.
She was a freak.

[aconfusedgirlie]

You can’t say that she’s not gay. You don’t understand. Maybe she’s bisexual but she’s saying she’s les she’s the only one who can really know

[Anonymous]

Maybe she was only a freak because she kept trying to find the magic combo that made things feel right with men. Anyhow, you’re wasting your time.

[Anonymous]

You dont know what goes on in someone's head. Thats like a normal person who used to date boys coming out as Les. Things change. You can't tell someone they are or aren't gay.

[Asker]

Sexuality doesn’t change.

[Opinion Owner]

It can. Its called finding out, bc she mightve thought she was straight then started being attracted to females 😒

[Asker]

It’s not like that
gay people always know..
she wasn’t confused when we talked, she was a freak
I’m not exaggerating
I know she’s switched because she’s tired of men but why
Why not just focus on something else

& I’m tired too but I can’t just switch

[Opinion Owner]

Not everyone is like you

[Anonymous]

Then she's a bisexual?

[greNader]

You can't