I'm really happy with my life. I'm happy with who I am. But there's one thing...I feel a longing for a girlfriend. Logically, it doesn't make sense because I don't really need anything to be complete. Also, I'm only 21 so it's not like my years are wasting away in cold wind.
The thing is, I'm naturally a quiet guy. I'm only average looking. The good thing is that I know a lot of stuff because I have a lot of varied interests and I can be funny if you know me.
I've never had a girlfriend before.
Now I tried breaking out my shell last year. There was a girl I met in one of my classes and I broke out of it, and I was more confident than I ever been and she was great to talk to and I got her number eventually and I asked her out and we went out on a date, which is my only date ever. After that, she didn't want to go out and when classes ended she stopped talking to me.
There were some differences between us: she was very attractive and she was a bar-goer and a party-goer and I wasn't any of those. But I liked her all the same.
So now I haven't asked anyone out since then. I've reverted back to my quiet self, but the good thing is that I'm not shy because I gained some confidence from that experience.
The problem I'm running into is that many girls are already taken and the ones that aren't don't seem to show much interest in me even when I show it. And the thing is, I thought I did many things right with that girl, but that pretty much didn't do anything, so it's almost like the experience didn't help because now I hesitate before doing something that reminds me of what I did with girl (in terms of flirting, etc.)
It shouldn't bother me, but it does. Is it just the impatience of youth or do I have a legitimate worry?
The thing is, I'm naturally a quiet guy. I'm only average looking. The good thing is that I know a lot of stuff because I have a lot of varied interests and I can be funny if you know me.
I've never had a girlfriend before.
Now I tried breaking out my shell last year. There was a girl I met in one of my classes and I broke out of it, and I was more confident than I ever been and she was great to talk to and I got her number eventually and I asked her out and we went out on a date, which is my only date ever. After that, she didn't want to go out and when classes ended she stopped talking to me.
There were some differences between us: she was very attractive and she was a bar-goer and a party-goer and I wasn't any of those. But I liked her all the same.
So now I haven't asked anyone out since then. I've reverted back to my quiet self, but the good thing is that I'm not shy because I gained some confidence from that experience.
The problem I'm running into is that many girls are already taken and the ones that aren't don't seem to show much interest in me even when I show it. And the thing is, I thought I did many things right with that girl, but that pretty much didn't do anything, so it's almost like the experience didn't help because now I hesitate before doing something that reminds me of what I did with girl (in terms of flirting, etc.)
It shouldn't bother me, but it does. Is it just the impatience of youth or do I have a legitimate worry?
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