He led me on!!! How do I get revenge?

[Anonymous]

This guy I liked acted as though he liked me too. He invited me out for drinks, joked that he would think about me when he jerked off, blushes every time I enter a room, invited me out with he and his family for an outing. Hell , we have even slept in the same bed together. So I hinted to him that I wanted sex, he said he was not interested in me in that way. That he was not attracted to me.

Two things. First, if this was a guy that I was not interested in, that I was not attracted to, I would have steered clear from him with all the hints he was dropping me. Second, I am very cute and sexy. I know that sounds like I am tooting my horn, but yesterday alone I had 4 guys and 2 girls approach me wanting my phone number. So how do I get revenge on this jerk for leading me on?

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Hey folks, please not that I have absolutely no desire to be mature about this. I've been mature about these situations before and it just leaves me with an upset stomach because my sould needs revenge. There's no being big about this, I need vengence.

[Subotai]

That is definitely wierd. but women oftentimes have a double standard here, first women accuse men of being horn dogs obsessed with it. Then the moment they actually want sex and don't get it they go nuts, that's at least a hundred questions here. Welcome to what its like to be a guy, if we flipped out every time we didn't get sex after a kiss...

He got to you, so well. You got a big ego based on how all men want you and they all just want to throw you down on the bed and have their way with you, except you don't let them, unless you feel like it. You have done the same thing he just did to you to guys before I know it. Now what you are probably going to do is go you don't wanna do me well see about that and attack him with every sexy and seductive move that you got, that is hot. Women somewhat fairly stereotype us guys as predictable, well every once in a while a guy throws you for a loop

[Anonymous]

4 guys and 2 girls...talk about swinging both ways...

revenge, why do you need revenge...move on, don't even bother wasting your time

if you just the other day had 4 guys and 2 girls ask for your number, then I don't know if I could handle that...i wouldn't want to know that in the first place, but you either look straight or look like a dike...not that your not sexy, but if you have so many options why do you care what this guy feels like? you have 4 other guys and 2 other girls that want to phuck you...so go out and ahve fun...what the hell is with you women wanting revenge on douchebags...WHO CARES, I just read like 3 other posts about girls wanting revenge on guys not worht the effort...it jsut doesn't make any sense to me...sigh where are all the mature women who know what they want!

[Anonymous]

Well, the fact that you want revenge that badly, shows that he still has you in his pocket - so cool down and think of something really good and if the opportunity arises you can pay him back big time.

Guys like that have no heart and no shame they just like to play people and hurt them, so it's really hard to get to them...but if you know how to get to him, you know how to get your revenge.

I got my ex by surpassing him at a test after our break-up - sounds petty, but that was the thing that meant something to him...and it didn't hurt anybody but him and his pride.

[greeneyedgal1]

Since you are an attractive female, put yourself back out there and find a guy worth your while. Don't waste another single moment on this asshole. The best revenge is to move forward, leave his sorry ass in the dust and make sure there is no further contact with him. I know you are hurt and disappointed but blatant revenge will only bring you momentary relief. In addition, it will put you on the same level as the loser. You know very well that you are better than that. Take it from someone who has been in your position before, he WILL get his.

[Asker]

Thank you. A very eloquent response. But I still need some type of revenge as the anger of this whole thing is staying with me.

[SAR2be]

showing you know youthink your hott is great. you need to flaunt it and have fun. you shouldn't get revenge on him cause he will only see he got to you. trust me I bet he is gay anyway. also just show that it doesn't bother you and that always p*sses guys off!

[Killfest400]

This sounds less like "I'm crushed that he wouldn't deliver what he promised" and more like "He didn't want me and it hurt my ego." Just let it go and find someone else. The only thing that comes from you "getting revenge" is that you end up looking like an immature bitch.

[Asker]

Sometimes looking like an immature bitch is the best medicine. At this point, I don't care how I look, I just need to get back at him.

[Killfest400]

Actually, looking like an immature bitch is never the best medicine, and it never will be. Try doing something productive and forgetting about it. When your only purpose in life is getting back at somebody because they did something you don't like, then you should probably be in jail or the psycho ward.

[Asker]

Nah, I don't agree. That's a response that doesn't come from understanding someone's emotion, it's a rote 'socially responsible' response that has no depth of meaning. Sorry hon,you just don't get it.

[Killfest400]

Of course it's a socially responsible response- that's the best medicine for a situation like this. If you still can't (or don't) act socially responsible by age 25, then yes, that is a problem.

I don't get it. I don't get your obsession with revenge, I don't get why you're so affected by this, and I don't get what he did wrong. I do get that you cannot (or refuse to) control your emotions, and your only goal in this is to cause harm to somebody. Fuck "depth of meaning", you're nuts.

[Asker]

Yeah, I m nuts. I stole his favorite and very expensive book and torched it. Left the remains on his chair. This feels gooooooodddd. My only hope is that you feel the sting of an immature bitch like me. Your day is coming, trust me.

[dsmarie]

you don't get revenge. it sounds like there might be some underlying issue that this guy has that he does not want to tell you about. he might be embarassed or ashamed about it. you need to be a good person and be kind to him and just move on. see it as his loss, as obviously it is.

[dsmarie]

Maybe you should go to anger management, I had to do that once. of course it made me angry that I had to go. haha. but it turned out to be very helpful.

[SAR2be]

hahha that's funny your pic is freaky and then you say "oh be chil!" ya ok!

[britwats]

I'm in a very similar situation and I'm ready to raise some hell! I'm usually a very reasonable and understanding person so it takes a lot to make me want revenge. I've only ever been this mad once before and when I was, I ruined them. I'm ready to be petty as hell because I've tried being the bigger person for a month but he keeps messing with my feelings so he best prepare for hell.

[Anonymous]

Think about all the guys you've lead on and probably didn't even know it.

[Aia85]

You don't. Move on