Girls, what are some reasons you'd stop replying to someone on a dating app?

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If the guy had a good opener and the conversation was going great, what would cause you to just stop responding? I could understand if you ignore a lame first message or if the conversation is generic or boring, but otherwise it honestly makes no sense to me.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I get what you mean brethren, get this quite a bit on the likes of Tinder and POF, like most of the female responses have said, harsh but true, they've usually found someone better or have just gotten bored. I get you completely about the frustration with not even having the decency to say no, sorry not interested, but then it makes you think: are they really worth your time?/ would you date someone who can't even perform the simplest task? Blessings in disguise. The best thing I can suggest, is work on meeting girls IRL and work on your approach/conversational skills, no doubt rejection will happen, but it will help you build your confidence. Wishing you all the best! A fellow introvert/shy guy.

User-Jacob · Accepted Answer

Don't think about it, man, trust me. It'll only make you jaded and insecure. One way or another, she's just not really into it. Plus, girls have a higher match rate with comparatively more popularly swiped upon partners.

Try to have some flavour in your conversations. Make a tame but relevant joke, or ask about something you noticed from her bio or pictures. Utilize your punctuation, and be direct but friendly, and lightly inquisitive.
Be yourself, but be your best self. If she's still not into it, she's just not right for you.
No biggie.
Nearly 8 billion people on this rock, and more than half of them are women.
Don't sweat it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Most of the time it’s because they’ve caught me in the wrong mood.

There would be periods of a month when im bored and want to go out/horny/feel open minded and ready to meet a guy. When guys message me during that period, I’ll reply sincerely and actually try to be funny/interesting and plan to meet up.
Other months I might be focused on work, family, friendship stuff, other guys, hobbies, life, etc and I’ll use the apps only if I’m bored at work or waiting for a train or something. So if a guy msgs me, I might reply a couple of times, but I’m not interested no matter who he is. He’s just a filler at that point

anonaddie · Accepted Answer

I’ve had guys message me with really clever openers but then as the conversation would progress and I’d try to get to know them, they would respond with generic answers that made the conversation really hard to continue.

shortynat · Answer

There is only one reason why i stop and that reason is I have no interest in that person what so ever. Yeah I'm going to respond back to the person but I only respond out of kindness. Its kind of rude you know so once that conversation is over with that person, I will not answer back if he texted me back again. AT ALL. See me if they keep bugging and bugging then my bitch side comes out and takes over. I really don't like when that happens. Some of us can and will be a bitch. If you can't get it the first time when I ignored you and I only do that just so I won't be rude to the guy. But if he didn't get it the first time then I have to be a bitch to actually have him leave me alone.

Samathoo · Answer

It truthfully depends on the girl but some girls may just like the attention or are bored and looking for conversation. Personally I won’t reply if I’m not interested or I’ll unmatch, no need to waste the other guys time ya know? But let’s say midway through a convo I stopped replying it could be because I found out the guys shorter than me, lives too far or just isn’t a very driven or successful guys. Those are like my top three things. But usually id unmatch not just stop replying.

Anonymous · Answer

No girls don't and they won't. They just want attention 90 percebt of the time. After they get it usually they ghost you before the guy asks them out.
Also why message some loser who is worshiping you. He is not worth the goddesses time.

I gave up on online dating after hearing even my fat female friends admit they only use it for free attention and when they want a guy interested.
All but 2 of my female friends freeze when approached by a guy in person. After they just send the guy away insulting him and calling him a creep just cause they could not handle being approached.

Anonymous · Answer

I agree for the most part. Even if you're incompatible with a person, doesn't mean you can't be friends or at least civil to for half an hour. There's no need graceless to someone you don't know and most guys are alright when your honest about why you don't think pursuing the relationship would be a good idea... That being said. There are times when "ghosting" is in a girl's best interest. The only guys I've ever ghosted have been those whom I genuinely felt were toxic or ones who've made me feel unsafe to be around them. There's no reasoning with some people; and safety has to come before politeness.

Eva323 · Answer

Dating online is mostly hopeless at this point if you actually want a relationship.

Bianca5658 · Answer

Personally it might be because she's talking to other guys.. that's a possibility and she might find him or them more interesting (not to say you're not) but that's def one option.
She could be bored and passing some time.
He could have been too flirty/ or started talking about inappropriate things that made her comfy.
Maybe he came across as too needy - like I personally don't like it when I guy continually messages after I've paused a taken a moment too long to reply.
Either way, I think it'd be nice to let them know rather than ignore them

ShoeGirl24 · Answer

For me it would be because they said something about me that upset me. I’d tell them though that I was upset. I do t just ghost. It’s not nice!

MusicMayhem · Answer

If the msgs are going back and forth quickly (a sign she likes you, hence not boring) and you haven't asked her out after like 3-5 days she thinks you're too much of a pussy to ask her out. In that time at least 5 guys probably will have asked her out. So why would she waste time idly talking to a guy that doesn't make moves?

zbivinz · Answer

Yeah bro I'm kinda in the exact same position as you right now. Often it goes really well for a while, and then they just stop responding. It's obviously super frustrating cuz girls often don't even contribute to the conversation (i. e., won't ask questions back or will give short answers) but then want you to make the conversation super interesting at the same time. I feel your pain bro lol

lomimore · Answer

1. if things got boring
2. if she found someone more interesting or even more attractive (no offense I don't know what u look like)
3. If she had some deep reflection and realised she no longer wants a relationship/hookup
4. If she smells something fishy (its just like a feeling that the other person is not being real/honest

PinkMichae · Answer

For me when I was single it just could be cuz I got busy in my life but would come back to the conversation. But I would explain that. I don't know. I know women have a different experience on dating apps as it seems they have more options. But if I was no longer interested I would tell them. That's pretty rude not too. Sorry if that's been your experience.

Anonymous · Answer

Usually it’s just lack of interest. Maybe it was fun talking to them but the attraction wasn’t there, and you know how guys on apps like tinder are. You say you’re not interested and they pop off at you calling you a slut or saying you lead them on, blah, blah, blah. Or, even more likely, They found a better match.

brookesarahfitness · Answer

I dont really delete them they delete me because im straight up honest, which is fine plenty of guys or girls out there 😏

Mikey_Ramone · Answer

Yeah that's girls for me. Hopeless for me when texting online like Facebook and stuff. They'd never be interested. They'd try so hard to avoid me. Haha I might freak them out I guess. Let them go, I'd consider that's a hit-and-miss. Don't wanna waste those time on those girls anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd stop replying if I got overwhelmed by the whole thing. I'm getting ready to do that now except I'm ready to delete my profile. I panic after a few days and feel so insecure afterwards that even if I was attracted to someone and matched them I'd still go without any explanation because at least they didn't get a chance to get hooked or anything so me disappearing after a few days is no biggy.

probablynothuman · Answer

sometimes we’re just not interested. i know it doesn’t make sense that someone would be on a dating app but not really be interested in anyone, sometimes we just get bored/want attention even if it’s from random guys. depends on the mood, she probably just wasn’t into you

Anonymous · Answer

Online dating is messed up. Attractive woman don't need to go online to get a date, they might be online for an ego boost or for fun but why? Women only find the top %20 of men attractive at all the other %80 are invisible. Dating sites leave old profiles up to make it look like there are women on the site further adding to the problems. Add in scams, prostitutes etc it's simply not worth it.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, I talk to people online when I’m bored. I don’t actually plan on hanging out with them, well if they were super chill, not too pushy and not a creep I might hang out with them. But most are creeps

hkglcy621 · Answer

he got boring or theyre already talking to someone or multiple people - have a new opener again maybe with some interesting topics if you're really interested..

Lieseeker · Answer

It is your perception. And it may not be the truth or your ethereal body is expressing through the flesh that this is your ideal forum, for you have validity. Don't get hung up on the wishywashy mind of people. Focus on your spirit and keep asking, seeking, having faith, and praying for Grace for you. Your sincerity will bring all of this to pass.

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