If someone who previously rejected you comes back to you and ask you out, would you say yes/no? Why/why not?
This exact thing happened to me, kind of.
years ago I briefly dated a guy and I caught feelings for him and I told him I really liked him and he told me he really liked me too. He lead me to believe he wanted to commit to me and be in a relationship with me. Well one day I was telling my best friend about him and she was all like "hmm something isn't right, why hasn't he committed to you yet? " so she takes my phone and calls him and asks him and he said that he doesn't want a relationship with me, and it really broke my heart. He lead me on and took advantage of my feelings and I hated him for that and then I moved on and forgot him.
Then 2 years later I went to the club with my girlfriends and he was there. He came up to me and tried to chat me up then he tried to dance on me and flirt with me. I told him I have a boyfriend now and then I bragged about my new boyfriend to him. He looked really shocked and he said "Gosh, I can't even compete" and i was thinking to myself "Wtf, you rejected me.'
now that me and my boyfriend broke up, i have thought about that guy but I am so over him and I think he is stupid and he really hurt my feelings back then so I would never want to date that guy again. He missed his chance lol.
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I’d politely reject them. I usually get over people quickly. If they reject me after I put in a genuine effort and interest, I’ll accept it but later on I’ll start to realize that they aren’t all that and I notice flaws that I didn’t see when my heart eyes were involved. Doesn’t matter how good looking either.
Usually I just don’t bother with the person.
Depends also on why they rejected me... like if it was a solid reason, then yeah I’d give them a shot but
If it was a superficial or shallow or shady reason... NO. REFER TO THE ABOVE.
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It would depend on why he'd rejected me
If he was going through a bad time, or had depression when he rejected me, I'd overlook the rejection and give him a chance.
If he rejected me just because he wasn't sure about me at the time, I'd turn him down. I wouldn't want to be with a guy who was indecisive about being with me. He either wants me or he doesn't
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I think it would depend on what I thought of them after the rejection, how they responded when they made their initial rejection, whether or not we still know each other and see each other, whether I think their change of mind is genuine or they just want free food or entertainment...
There are about four or five girls that, in the unlikely event that they suddenly wanted to try dating, I would say “yes.” These are generally the girls who were kind and treated me with respect when they first said “no”, or those few girls gave it some chance and it just fizzled.
I think most, I would respectfully have to turn down; either I got to know them and became disinterested, or I no longer know them and haven’t seen them in years... or they were really nasty and disrespectful to me (or some friends)...
I’d be curious enough to ask them “Why the sudden change of heart?” though.
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Maybe.
Depends on circumstances.
Most likely wouldn't I get any feelings again and she ends up in friendzone.
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No because I'd feel like sloppy seconds or something
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I base it on total reality!!! If they come back you're second choice better than nothing let's see what happens. They chose for whatever reason to reject you. Now what prompted them to change their mind and reaproach you and ask? They have no standards but if you go out then your standards are lower than theirs. They did you a favor. You're too good for them you're proper and responsible they're not. So you have to turn them down. You weren't good enough!!!
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Depends on the context. If it was as friends or just to catch up, sure. But if it was her attempt at saying she wanted to give things with me a go, I would say no.
If I wasn't good enough for her the first time, what makes me good for her now all of a sudden? -
As guys, since we have to do all the initiating most of the time, we have to get over rejection quickly in order to move forward in life and be open to a different woman who will be receptive to our feelings. If you ask me out any later than two weeks (at the longest) after rejecting me, be prepared to be disappointed. I won't have any feelings for you anymore, or at least any desire to date you. You should have thought about it before rejecting me. That's me, anyway.
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Depends.. I got treated badly from her the first time and my feelings crushed. I persuade to see her the second time to catch and spend time together I even tried to organise a time and day to meet up now I get the silent treatment again from her. Now if she wants me then commutation is the key to a good relationship. But if they can’t give you a time date and place to meet up then I see no point. As I don’t play games at all I’m old fashioned and polite
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I do go out with them again, but if they seriously hurt me before or rejected me then sometimes I don't care about them as much anymore.
I'm not going to try as hard or love her the same as I would've now that I know what she's capable of. - 342 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Good Q. I'd start the engagement over and see if it goes anywhere. I wouldn't say yes or no, but see if an re-star the tension... cause she dropped the line before. If I'm not really interested or moved on to someone else, no.
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Ehh if they rejected me because they were in a relationship or "not ready for a relationship" and the situation changed, then yes I would give them a chance. But for any other reason, they can forget it.
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Depends on how she rejected me the first time if she was going through a break up or had a lot on her plate then that would be understandable but if she gave me a stupid excuse to why she rejected me then i would probably say No
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When this has happened I have usually said no. But I think this is due to them asking when I'm then in a relationship. So actually I would probably say yes under different circumstances.
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Nope.
No turning back for guys like me. I've never been *rejected*, but I have had girls kick me back to make me chase them more, and got upset when I didn't play into that. -
I've had guys ask me out while I was in a relationship, so of course I say no. Then while single the situation changes so might my awnser.
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If you like him enough then why not. Just make sure that whatever you do is in you own best interests.
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A guy was dating gohsted me and then got back in touch with me and I declined his offer of a date.
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It all depends on the rejection.
"Get lost you small dicked asshole!" Would be a no way.
"Not ready right now, I'm sorry." Would be a hell yes I would go with her if she came to me. -
Depends on how and why she rejected me.
If she friendzoned me, I've already ghosted her, so she has no chances.
If she was engaged at the time or if she wasn't ready, or if she thought I wasn't ready. Then I'd say yes. -
She can kiss my ass if she comes back after rejecting me
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Yeah, what would be the point in saying no, since i liked them enough to ask
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Depends if i still like them, id also wonder why they didn’t say yes the first time. I would decide based on the answer to these questions
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Maybe. Its only hapoened once before and I shut her down. With her I felt like I was a runner up.
I might consider it if she had a lot going on in her life and thats why she rejected me.
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