How to beat competition for my crush?

[policeonmyback12]

Long story short, been speaking to this girl for about 2 months. I like her, I've felt at times she likes me just through little things she does and says. I feel I've played it a bit too cool though. I mean, I once gave her a hug and I've invited her out one or two times - as a social group thing - but she pulled out. I even offered to pay for her ticket for a gig she wanted to go to with me, but then she realized she had no money. I talk to her whenever I can in person but I've only commented on her Facebook once, and only texted her regarding social events.

Now, last week she added this guy from College she never spoke to previously. She posted on his wall, and they've been having long conversations with little flirty/banter-ish comments thrown in. He's always commenting on her posts. They spoke a lot at College last week, and when I was trying to talk to her he just couldn't shut up! It's like he's getting in my way.

Any ideas how to win back her attention? I'm not looking for "just ask her out!" or "just tell her how you feel!" answers. I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. I just want to get her onside again before it's too late.

[luckycharms101]

There's a pro to the fact that you've been playing it cool -- at least she doesn't see you as her backup if this guy doesn't pan out. Maybe try to be closer friends with her, while still showing her that you're popular and have a life. I know personally when it seems like a guy has girls who are interested in him or think he's a great guy (though he isn't flirting with them at all), I get more interested :) don't make it seem like you're pursuing other girls though (personally if a guy does this I stop liking him)!

This other guy sounds really desperate, and I think the girl will realize it after awhile? Just don't stoop to his level and make it some kind of competition. Since you're her actual friend if she does have any interest in you, it should pay off in the end. Try doing some really genuinely nice things for her, without making it seem like you're at her beck and call. Or achieving some successes in your career/life and sharing them with her :)

[luckycharms101]

PS: Another thing- try getting a haircut/working out/wearing slightly dressier clothes, if you think your girl would like that. I always notice when a guy I like has been working on his appearance!

[Queenofsong04]

honnestly that's a tough one , let it play out just be sure to always be there for her like ask her to hang out at the park and talk and ask her about him, show her you feel semi threatend by him, I know you don't want to show it but it shows us girls your really there for us and care, show her how much you guys get along. but over all it sounds like a crush and nothing serious, play it out but make the moves go your way.

[Jessie12]

I think she is definitely interested in the new guy. To get back in the loop, I would start making more of an effort to talk to her. Post a greeting on her wall and don't be afraid to flirt with her. Chances are she would be eager to go out with you if she's put up with you for as long as she has.