Can being gruff, sarcastic and lightly mean be attractive to certain girls/guys?

Question

I don't spare sarcastic comments, jokes and sometimes pranks (like pretending to put out a cig on her butt) with my fiancée, but I've noticed that if I stay on this line she laughs and gets more affectionate, even if sometimes we bicker.
What about you?

Answer 1

Kurαȷ | 68 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Guru

Of course it can.
It subtly let's the other person know that you aren't going to be sucking up to them, and that, should they take it the wrong way, it's apparently not going to be that big of a loss for you.
That slight lack of concern about the things you say, makes you look more confident in your attractiveness.

Of course, it carries a risk of triggering the other person if they are insecure, but that's another reason why it may be employed.
I've encountered lots of women who like to be a little mean in order to test how fragile/not fragile the man's ego is.

Answer 2

Puppystarfish23

Xper 5

Yes I've noticed men love it when im a bitch to them. They find it funny and a challenge. I can be to honest sometimes to the point it comes off offensive but men find it hilarious. It's more to do with good banter. Men love a woman who can take it and then dish it back out on them.

I'll say something like "are you gonna clean your shit up" and they will usually turn around with a little smile on their face and call me a cheeky bitch or say "sorry mum" to my reply "honey if i was your mum you'd be in the foster home by now". Guys like a girl with a little cheeky side to them keeps them on their toes

Answer 3

Anonymous

I don’t like direct sexual innuendos. It’s hot when he won’t even acknowledge sex exists to the point where I have to beg him to be sexual. Acting horny is a turn-off. I want to want him more than he wants me and to feel like he’s out of my league in a way. Gruff, sarcastic and slightly mean is hot though. Acting like he is simply tolerating my existence, is too good for me, is entertaining me by acknowledging my presence... Fucking hot.

Answer 4

007kingifrit

Xper 7

my mean sense of humor goes over well with the women i like, its also an excellent filter to push away the overly sensitive women i would hate anyways

Answer 5

Capricornunicorn

Xper 3

I absolutely love it. I don't know if it's because I am a Capricorn and we naturally are sarcastic people or just that I am always finding the humor in everything but it is one of my biggest turn-ons.

Of course there is a difference between being a little cheeky and being a downright asshole.

Capricorns and Geminis sometimes don't know how to stop before they cross the line.

All I have to say is don't do it if you're dating a Virgo or Taurus. They don't know when you're being sarcastic and take everything to heart.

Sags can also be that way as well but are a bit more jokey than the other two signs above. The rest will probably enjoy it or at the very least crack back.

Answer 6

AlienParasite | 51 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Yoda

Sarcasm and dark humor is attractive, and that's one of the things I find attractive in my boyfriend as well as in some of my favourite TV shows. I think dark humor it's fantastic as long as it's what it's meant to be: a joke.

Answer 7

stupidgrls

Xper 4

Yes I prefer guys who have a dark sarcastic humour.. even in friends. I don't know why I can't trust people who are always sweet to me.

Answer 8

Hangry22 | 114 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Guru

It does for me if it's a guy i am starting to know. Otherwise i will hate him because that might come off as arrogant or a smart ass

Answer 9

sheamatura

Xper 3

Yes, it’s super attractive. But don’t do it too often or it becomes annoying. Same with doing it at someone’s expense, I’ve had people take it too far and make fun of me constantly. It kills the mood honestly.