Do some girls flirt by being "mean"?

[Anonymous]

I have this coworker. She is younger than me (im 28, she is 20). Although at first she was nice, now she has turned very sarcastic and mean (in a playful way). there's nothing wrong with that, in fact I enjoy getting into these arguments with her that go on and on until other coworkers step in and say something like "kids, stop fighting". I've asked her why she is "mean" and she tells me "you'll get over it" or because I'm annoying or tells me to stop crying. I usually act normal but she finds everything I say or do unfunny or annoying (she usually says it to my face, but a lot of times she'll give me this "look" and give me a sly smile. I've never seen her act like this with anybody else and I know that some girls at that age still act "weird" around guys. I like her quite a bit, she is very mature (although she'll rely on immature stuff like shushing me when she losses an argument). Could this be flirting on her part or could she be really annoyed?

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Yea lol - I'm a mean flirt myself :P

She's definitely flirting - the sly smile, teasing, prodding etc, are pretty clear signs of this type of flirting. It's funner to do it with guys because men are expected to have thicker skin - so some teasing is usually on more playful terms.

It's a way to get you riled up a bit in a fun way - and shows your not some uptight serious guy too if you can take a few crude jokes :P

[Asker]

So when you are being a "mean flirt" is because you like the guy? or just because? I know that term "harmless flirting" gets thrown around a lot...

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Yea - I have a witty sarcastic, little insulting sense of humor with my friends - but when it's a guy I like, I constantly pick at what he says, make bluffs like " I'll kick your ass if you do that again ha ha -" I call the guy I really like now a " hoe" for fun - he always laughs about it, then insults me back. Never any hard feelings about it. I tease, I prod - I don't know just how I flirt lol :P

[MeMyself777]

The answer to your question is yes. Girls can flirt by being slightly mean/playful. Some girls though are naturally very sarcastic. I think she knows you've got the hots for her so she is playfully being mean to you. If she was really annoyed you would notice it, no sly smiles no playful teasing ... just rolling of the eyes, the ''whutever look'' .

[Asker]

So as long as she smiles at me and makes eye contact is all good? I mean, I haven't had to deal with girls acting like this since I was in high school, so I don't know haha

[MeMyself777]

Haha yes, if she smiles at you + eyecontact it's all good :) Basicly she likes the attention that she is receiving from you :P

and being playful has nothing to do with being immature imo, some girls are like that.

[hotmamma]

most girls are mean when they like you so its not obvious

[Anonymous]

lol yes, she likes you :))))))))))

[dIO_oIb]

yep