Do guys chase you for your personality?

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I had self esteem issues when I was at my prettiest and only one guy asked me out during my first 2 years of university. At my ugliest, I got hit on almost every time I was by myself in a public place and every time I met a guy that was single and I looked nothing like the 18 year old beauty Queen I used to be when I was 32 years old. It seems guys hit on me because I was confident and carried myself differently when I got older. I once talked to a female stranger who said I looked like I was a very popular girl and I never had difficulty making friends even though I was very ordinary looking.

SunnySensei · Accepted Answer

I don't know about others Miss, but I think I like the personality aspect more too.

TheAfrikan · Accepted Answer

Yeah some do.

little_bird1 · Answer

No, guys in general hate chasing, but if a girl is very physically attractive they'll do it because they become very stupid predators all of a sudden. They are naturally drawn to beauty and because of it they will tolerate (or simply be blind to) not so great character or personality. Eventually their rose colored glassed fall down but usually by then it's already too late and they are hooked/in love. They want out but they can't because she holds the power. The worst part is that they become addicted to that "type" (or a girl in question) and completely ignore/friendzone other types. Guys find it VERY hard to say no to beauty. I actually believe they are INCAPABLE of it.

Wraith_Cemetery · Answer

You could be the sexiest girl in the world, physically, but if you don't walk with confidence, dress poorly, and don't carry yourself well then it would be like you were ugly all along. Even the plainest looking women who are confident and dress well get lots of attention.

crazy8000 · Answer

That's the funny thing.
When it comes to it how you are as a person attracts.
If you don't have it, the relationship usually turns to shit.

Right kind of confidence and selfasteam together attracts majority of humans.
External beauty mostly attracts shallow grounded attraction unless someone sees something in you that are of value for that person that comes from within.
Beauty is relative to the viewer not the one in question.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah when u r confident u radiate out an aura. (Yes this sounds weird).
From years of observation, I realized to be chased by a guy, a girl do not need to be super pretty (actress/model quality). Sometimes it’s just they way they act/speak/carry themselves. I don't know how to put it to words but they love for themselves just shows and it makes them attractive.

Hassan_8 · Answer

A beauty queen with bad personality will turn me off after a short period. may be good for a short term relationship only

An average looking with sweet and attractive personality is way more attractive for a serious relationship.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Will a fish bite on a hook if it's not baited? Uh no.
People are usually seen before they're heard so naturally a guy is most likely going to be drawn to you physically.
Here's the 2nd problem. Women don't aggressively pursue guys. Quite the contrary most aren't even extroverted. I guess what I'm saying is you may have a glowing personality but if you never show it. How can he be attracted to it.
Hope that helps.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m the same. At my peak I had loads of dregs following me around. I wish I could’ve appreciated how pretty I really was and I tried so hard. Now I’m 35 there’s cute 20 something year old athletic guys queuing around the block for me! I’m ok I don’t look 35 though but still not the cute little 20 something year old I was. Apparently 30s is the best age for women now nobody wants younger girls

Nina12346 · Answer

Yeah i have a lot of guy friends and each one of them has a crush on me but I don't see none of them in that way because well i have other priorities

KingofCups · Answer

I like women that are provocative, outgoing, a little bold, somewhat daring. At the same time I really appreciate the softer qualities of kindness, compassion, and gentleness.

Lonely888 · Answer

I personally find personality attractive, most men don't

sp33d · Answer

Hello, lady. I saw you sitting here by the bar by yourself. And I just couldn't help but notice your wonderful personality and inner beauty. May I buy you a drink?

Turtleneck22 · Answer

I would say it plays a very equal amount to attraction for me.

Anonymous · Answer

If I'm not physically attracted to a woman, I can't pursue her.

WowwGirl · Answer

No I wish

Babygirl_S · Answer

Yes.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

You bet!

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