Have you ever had a secret admirer?

Question

It sounds creepy. Never had a "secret admirer" and I dont want to. How about yourself?

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

I have. And I don't mind it. If they admit their feelings to me, I am perfectly willing to have a polite and rational conversation with them about it.

Dontaaaa · Accepted Answer

Yes and I wish she never admired me to begin with.

melanieeeB · Answer

Uhm not in the sence of secret.. there were few where I didn't notice or know, cause they never said or do anything - not creepy and I had a stalker but like that was creepy, but not secretly

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I can't really know how many people have liked me without showing me they like me since they don't show it - but when people sent me gifts and cards I usually always knew who it was - but I once go secret cards and gifts too

Marianna145 · Answer

Yes i had!!! He was very old like 32 maybe? I don't really remember and don't want to remember!! He was from my mother's job and he was head over heels in love with me😂... he was writing anonymous messages to me on Tellonym ( i don't have this garbage application anymore) and he was flirting with wanted to know everything about my love life... why? I don't know... He then started posting weird stuff on his Instagram account... he posted a photo without me.. that photo had a wall where i took a picture! And he wrote as a description "Someone is missing here!" Talking about me!!! He was viewing all my stories without following me though on Instagram! I found out it was him after that and said on Tellonym that i know who he is and he was flattered and surprised... Then i told him to leave me alone and he did but after he still was writing messages to me and we talked on Instagram and he said that he loves me a lot and i was disgusted!! I told him to delete all the pictures he was talking about me and he did and after that i told all of this to my mom and she talked to him... that's all..

whirled_up_girl · Answer

I did once, many years ago, it was a guy I worked with and I was planning on leaving the state soon so I didn't want to start anything serious with anyone. He worked in security at a care facility where I was working. He was mostly a nice guy but he was very persistant even though I tried to tell him I wasn't looking to date anyone at the time, because I would be leaving the state soon. One time I came home from work on valentines day and there was a heart shaped box of chocalats in from of my door. To this day I have no idea who sent it, I'm not sure he even wouldn't known where I lived but he knew my phone number which could lead to the address but not my apartment number. Maybe he had access to addresses working in security but I doubt it. Either way, I choose to look at it as a nice gesture from whomever it was but at the same time it could have come across as creepy not knowing who sent it.

LikeALog · Answer

Yes. All except one were harmless.

One girl was friends with my SO and frequently visited her. Occasionally I was there at the same time. Her friend would say something to me and I'd make a general statement in reply.

One day SO is mad, upset and tells me to get out. About a two weeks later she calls and says come over.

My SO said her friend liked me. She had been trying to get me attracted to her. When I didn't respond favorably, she lied and told my SO I had an affair with her. The friend thought SO would get upset and tell me to get lost and I'd go to her on the rebound. When her expected rebound didn't happen, she confessed to my SO.

The two are no longer friends.

TheorionMage · Answer

"A faint heart n'ere won a fair companion"
You ALWAYS risk rejection BUT... you'd be amazed how many winsome people
are themselves SO disimorphically 'insecure' that they are CLUELESS
to YOUR flirtatious behaviors!
"They COULDN'T POSSIBLY BE ATTRACTED, and find ME 'worthy' "

Ever check out how many fan sites feature erotic portrayals of the nerdy introverted Velma Dinkley of 'Scooby Doo'? Seen the movie wherein Daphne 'tarts up' Velma for her date with the museum curator~

And... for a time, Spencer Gifts sold women's T-shirts
which callously read: "Yes, I DO! But... NOT with you"
Societal hierarchy is real, alive and EVER present.

Markieboy71 · Answer

AS HARD AS IT IS TO BELIEVE. I ACTUALLY WAS VERY BLESSED. MY CHILDHOOD DREAM GIRL BECAME MY FIRST SECRET ADMIRER IN MY JUNIOR YEAR. I THINK ABOUT HER DOING THE BIT TO GET A LAUGH ONLY WHEN SHE FINALLY ADMITTED IT WAS HER. SHE CRIED IN MY ARMS AND TOLD ME SHE ALWAYS LOVED ME BUT WAS AFRAID I WOULD BE AGAINST HER AND. DESTROY HER REP. BUT FOUND OUT THROUGH MY CUZZO THAT I HAD. ALWAYS BEEN TAUGHT TO HONOR WOMEN AND TO NEVER HIT THEM FOR THEY ARE PRECIOUS AND VERY SOFT. I WAS TOLD THAT THEY WOULD NOT BE SW3ET IF THEY WERE TREATED BAD AND IT WOULD BE WEAKFOR A MAN TO FIGHT A WOMAN SINCE HE IS SUPPOSED TO BE HER HELP IN TIME OF NEED.

kellytheman · Answer

Yeah I did have one and was one. I would send little poems or letters giving hints who I was and put them in her locker or in her mailbox. I asked to a school dance after she figured out who I was and said yes and thought it was sweet. I also had a girl admire me and send me letter with lipstick on it and say very sexual and sultry things she wanted to do to me. I figured it out after 3 letters and asked her out after she admitted she was the one sending me the letters. by the way she actually did the sexual things she wanted to do to me she said in the letters lol.

TruthBringer · Answer

I never had someone write me or buy me something whom I wasn't already romantically involved with. The only thing I have is girls staring at me (according to my girlfriend that is). Like the last time I went on vacation with my girl and there was one girl who kept checking me out and biting her lips. I was oblivious about it, but my girlfriend seemed to have caught her doing it. If you can consider that a secret admirer, then I guess so?

NathanDavis · Answer

a couple of the sweet ones, that were actually kind of bittersweet because they either confessed or I found out... and it was a bit difficult or awkward, lol

and one was kind of creepy/stalker-ish and maybe obsessive but not really, it didn't go so far... luckily

and technically, I WAS a secret admirer myself, I had a crush in middle-school, and it was quite cringe... lmao

SweetDumplings · Answer

There was this one guy who was incredibly obsessed and in love with me and this went on for about 3 1/2 years I even went to the cops and just recently I found out he has a Facebook still up and running but without his pic on the profile, he stopped his harassment but I still want to report him to the police because of all those years of harassment... I just let it go but I loathe him and hope he gets his karma one day.

PrettyPriya · Answer

Oh my I want to put something here but know I can’t. A particular user used to like blending my username with his. He’s had so many accounts. I think he likes me. 😕

glitteringgingersnap · Answer

Luckily my secret admirer wasn’t creepy or anything like that, she was a really nice girl and very sweet, and had pretty strong feelings for me too. Unfortunately I’m not into girls, so when she did reveal her feelings it really did hurt my heart to tell her that I was gay 🥺😂

DarkWinterNights · Answer

No, but I don’t think it would be creepy necessarily. I think there is a pretty good sized line between secret admirer and stalker. Though I think age plays into it as well. Having or being one in high school or college is a little more normal than when you’re in your 30s+.

siennasjo · Answer

Last week, I opened my locker before class, and all of my locker stuff was organized. Inside there was a note that said- "Saw you in math class, and you look fine as hell, hit me up babe." with a phone number and hearts all over the paper. Still don't know how the heck they opened my locker lol.

DonkeyDan · Answer

At school I used to get love notes tucked in my locker, never worked out who it was or if it was someone pranking me or what.

ohshee · Answer

I love that picture and I love the idea of the whole thing but I would have to say who I was no I've never had one that I know of anyway

Soleil8000 · Answer

It is creepy/cringy (which people mistook for 'clingy') when your admirer is a girl with a beard and a penile implant
In Europe, now, over 25-30% of guys, in some places over 70% of them - are those bearded transgender creep guys (actually females)

TexasRed95 · Answer

Mt secret admirer was an actual stalker. She took pictures of my house and the windows to my bedroom late one night. She saw me at school the next day and showed then to me and said. "This one is your room right?".

Carolmille · Answer

I probably did but I never found out cos it was secret admiration 🙄🤷‍♀️

wankiam · Answer

not sure... if i did then they kept it secret lol...

the_bruh · Answer

Okay, if I have a secret admirer, wouldn't that be a secret and I never found about it? As far as I know my parents hate me and only mosquitoes and bugs annoyingly wants to be near me. So no, I think not

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I have no idea. The fact it was secret, wouldn't that mean I didn't know about it?

NetSapien · Answer

I find it immensely flattering to know someone finds me attractive even if they don't feel comfortable approaching me.

I can't understand how people find it anything but, unless they don't want to be attractive to someone.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope  I should probably be happy about it, as I imagine it's probably scary and awkward, but I can't help wondering if I'm ugly and guys are never interested in me

Texaskid1 · Answer

Perhaps.  But I do know that I have had a few craaaaazy women chase me around and even follow me home (no, I am not making this up).

humanearth · Answer

I not telling, its too weird to explain. Let's just say its messed up.

DarkCarousel · Answer

Yes. But mostly it was just that we were friends and he had feelings for me. He never wrote letters and left them to me or anything like that. It wasn’t creepy in this case.

Joeshamo · Answer

In my high school on Valentine’s Day for that year they let the kids give Anonymous Gifts to other students and I got chocolate and a love letter. I didn’t know who it was until later.

Anonymous · Answer

Well in uni i go with my first and last name. No one knows my middle name at all. A guy texted me on facebook were i use my first and middle name so that in itself freaked me out cause I don't know how he found my account. He told me he goes to my uni and he wanted to say hi. Then he said if i ever see you on campus can i say hi? Lmaoooo i was terrified but i said yes say hi cause i wanna know who it is.

Miristheiss · Answer

Once or twice that I know of... since they are secret I'm sure most of them I never knew about.  When younger I had girls I liked that I never told.

Massageman · Answer

Found out at our 50th HS reunion that this one gal had a crush on me - who knew?

UnknownGagsUser · Answer

Never have and i guess secret admirer is a new term of stalker maybe lol

Cherry234 · Answer

Yes, on here. Some guy confessed he has a crush on me on one of my questions but he went anon so I don't know who he is. I felt very flattered. ☺️

SenseiSeptred · Answer

Many people have admired me. Some of them never got back to me though.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

This was before the internet even existed. Passing notes in high school and finding out you have a secret admirer was hot.
Now it’s viewed upon as creepy. Is our society really going down the tubes?

Kkoalalita · Answer

I had one back in high school, he used to follow me around. He even got my number some how

t-8900 · Answer

I had one in first grade, another in second grade, and yet another in third grade. Thats it until I was 16 and then my last one was when i was 22.

_no_one_ · Answer

Yeah, i know two that confessed.  Booze really brings it out. One was really suicidal so it gets hard to deal with such, there wasn't anything creepy about it tho, both were civil.

scooogy · Answer

Yeah, giving her the slightest bit of attention made her my stalker for several years...

katiesmuff · Answer

Well none have jumped forward and admitted they were secret admirer's so I wouldn't have any idea.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

All the time in school. Stuff shoved in my locker that nobody seemed to know who put it there.

CasstheLass · Answer

It’s hard to really say honestly, maybe I’ve had a couple but who knows lol

EmmaMary · Answer

I have absolutely no idea at all, but I somehow very much doubt it.

Better_off_here · Answer

if they keep it a secret i would have no idea if they liked me back you know :)

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Not likely, and even if I had, I would never know, as the name suggests, it's a secret.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

Someone used to leave gifts and cookies for me where I live but I never found out who it was, so it was kind of really weird, but a nice thought.

Armie · Answer

Well once there was this girl who always liked the memes I made and I thought that was very sweet

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Yeah, some were fat chicks. The slim cute ones I dated.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

I have had a few. Some creepy and some I thought was really sweet.

Casey_Black · Answer

I'm a pretty open person. Always have been. If you like me, tell me, and I'll probably blow you. No need to be secretive about it. Anonymous love letters are very stalkerish and I'm not a fan of that at all.

Poobutt711 · Answer

How would I know? If a secret admirerer revealed herself to me it wouldn't be a secret would it? By the way you had a secret admirer a few months ago,. you jus didn't know it

collie22 · Answer

i never found if i did , i don't think i would be creeped

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Many... I still have countless greeting cards without names.

crazy8000 · Answer

Many different ones throughout the years. It's more common than we realize.

clampfan101 · Answer

Not that I know of. (And I doubt it because I’m shy.)

Rachelspiks · Answer

If I did, I never found out about it.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

I'd say it was kinda sweet but it did got me in trouble but she didn't stop so i guess it's both.

Twalli · Answer

If I did, they were secretive enough about it to the degree I never knew.

TallAnon · Answer

Yes, I would've rather they talk to me directly, but eh, whatever.

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