Have you ever had a secret admirer?
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I have. And I don't mind it. If they admit their feelings to me, I am perfectly willing to have a polite and rational conversation with them about it.
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Yes and I wish she never admired me to begin with.
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Uhm not in the sence of secret.. there were few where I didn't notice or know, cause they never said or do anything - not creepy and I had a stalker but like that was creepy, but not secretly
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I can't really know how many people have liked me without showing me they like me since they don't show it - but when people sent me gifts and cards I usually always knew who it was - but I once go secret cards and gifts too
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Yes i had!!! He was very old like 32 maybe? I don't really remember and don't want to remember!! He was from my mother's job and he was head over heels in love with me😂... he was writing anonymous messages to me on Tellonym ( i don't have this garbage application anymore) and he was flirting with wanted to know everything about my love life... why? I don't know... He then started posting weird stuff on his Instagram account... he posted a photo without me.. that photo had a wall where i took a picture! And he wrote as a description "Someone is missing here!" Talking about me!!! He was viewing all my stories without following me though on Instagram! I found out it was him after that and said on Tellonym that i know who he is and he was flattered and surprised... Then i told him to leave me alone and he did but after he still was writing messages to me and we talked on Instagram and he said that he loves me a lot and i was disgusted!! I told him to delete all the pictures he was talking about me and he did and after that i told all of this to my mom and she talked to him... that's all..
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I did once, many years ago, it was a guy I worked with and I was planning on leaving the state soon so I didn't want to start anything serious with anyone. He worked in security at a care facility where I was working. He was mostly a nice guy but he was very persistant even though I tried to tell him I wasn't looking to date anyone at the time, because I would be leaving the state soon. One time I came home from work on valentines day and there was a heart shaped box of chocalats in from of my door. To this day I have no idea who sent it, I'm not sure he even wouldn't known where I lived but he knew my phone number which could lead to the address but not my apartment number. Maybe he had access to addresses working in security but I doubt it. Either way, I choose to look at it as a nice gesture from whomever it was but at the same time it could have come across as creepy not knowing who sent it.
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Yes. All except one were harmless.
One girl was friends with my SO and frequently visited her. Occasionally I was there at the same time. Her friend would say something to me and I'd make a general statement in reply.
One day SO is mad, upset and tells me to get out. About a two weeks later she calls and says come over.
My SO said her friend liked me. She had been trying to get me attracted to her. When I didn't respond favorably, she lied and told my SO I had an affair with her. The friend thought SO would get upset and tell me to get lost and I'd go to her on the rebound. When her expected rebound didn't happen, she confessed to my SO.
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"A faint heart n'ere won a fair companion"
You ALWAYS risk rejection BUT... you'd be amazed how many winsome people
are themselves SO disimorphically 'insecure' that they are CLUELESS
to YOUR flirtatious behaviors!
"They COULDN'T POSSIBLY BE ATTRACTED, and find ME 'worthy' "
Ever check out how many fan sites feature erotic portrayals of the nerdy introverted Velma Dinkley of 'Scooby Doo'? Seen the movie wherein Daphne 'tarts up' Velma for her date with the museum curator~
And... for a time, Spencer Gifts sold women's T-shirts
which callously read: "Yes, I DO! But... NOT with you"
Societal hierarchy is real, alive and EVER present. -
AS HARD AS IT IS TO BELIEVE. I ACTUALLY WAS VERY BLESSED. MY CHILDHOOD DREAM GIRL BECAME MY FIRST SECRET ADMIRER IN MY JUNIOR YEAR. I THINK ABOUT HER DOING THE BIT TO GET A LAUGH ONLY WHEN SHE FINALLY ADMITTED IT WAS HER. SHE CRIED IN MY ARMS AND TOLD ME SHE ALWAYS LOVED ME BUT WAS AFRAID I WOULD BE AGAINST HER AND. DESTROY HER REP. BUT FOUND OUT THROUGH MY CUZZO THAT I HAD. ALWAYS BEEN TAUGHT TO HONOR WOMEN AND TO NEVER HIT THEM FOR THEY ARE PRECIOUS AND VERY SOFT. I WAS TOLD THAT THEY WOULD NOT BE SW3ET IF THEY WERE TREATED BAD AND IT WOULD BE WEAKFOR A MAN TO FIGHT A WOMAN SINCE HE IS SUPPOSED TO BE HER HELP IN TIME OF NEED.
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Yeah I did have one and was one. I would send little poems or letters giving hints who I was and put them in her locker or in her mailbox. I asked to a school dance after she figured out who I was and said yes and thought it was sweet. I also had a girl admire me and send me letter with lipstick on it and say very sexual and sultry things she wanted to do to me. I figured it out after 3 letters and asked her out after she admitted she was the one sending me the letters. by the way she actually did the sexual things she wanted to do to me she said in the letters lol.
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I never had someone write me or buy me something whom I wasn't already romantically involved with. The only thing I have is girls staring at me (according to my girlfriend that is). Like the last time I went on vacation with my girl and there was one girl who kept checking me out and biting her lips. I was oblivious about it, but my girlfriend seemed to have caught her doing it. If you can consider that a secret admirer, then I guess so?
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a couple of the sweet ones, that were actually kind of bittersweet because they either confessed or I found out... and it was a bit difficult or awkward, lol
and one was kind of creepy/stalker-ish and maybe obsessive but not really, it didn't go so far... luckily
and technically, I WAS a secret admirer myself, I had a crush in middle-school, and it was quite cringe... lmao -
There was this one guy who was incredibly obsessed and in love with me and this went on for about 3 1/2 years I even went to the cops and just recently I found out he has a Facebook still up and running but without his pic on the profile, he stopped his harassment but I still want to report him to the police because of all those years of harassment... I just let it go but I loathe him and hope he gets his karma one day.
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Oh my I want to put something here but know I can’t. A particular user used to like blending my username with his.
He’s had so many accounts. I think he likes me. 😕 -
Luckily my secret admirer wasn’t creepy or anything like that, she was a really nice girl and very sweet, and had pretty strong feelings for me too. Unfortunately I’m not into girls, so when she did reveal her feelings it really did hurt my heart to tell her that I was gay 🥺😂
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No, but I don’t think it would be creepy necessarily. I think there is a pretty good sized line between secret admirer and stalker. Though I think age plays into it as well. Having or being one in high school or college is a little more normal than when you’re in your 30s+.
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Last week, I opened my locker before class, and all of my locker stuff was organized. Inside there was a note that said- "Saw you in math class, and you look fine as hell, hit me up babe." with a phone number and hearts all over the paper. Still don't know how the heck they opened my locker lol.
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At school I used to get love notes tucked in my locker, never worked out who it was or if it was someone pranking me or what.
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I love that picture and I love the idea of the whole thing but I would have to say who I was no I've never had one that I know of anyway
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It is creepy/cringy (which people mistook for 'clingy') when your admirer is a girl with a beard and a penile implant
In Europe, now, over 25-30% of guys, in some places over 70% of them - are those bearded transgender creep guys (actually females) -
Mt secret admirer was an actual stalker. She took pictures of my house and the windows to my bedroom late one night. She saw me at school the next day and showed then to me and said. "This one is your room right?".
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I probably did but I never found out cos it was secret admiration 🙄🤷♀️
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