Have you ever had a secret admirer?

Question

I had :)

JustAnj · Accepted Answer

Yes I had many but it's really easy for me to tell when a guy likes me. I used to be a match maker when I was in school so I knew guys well, especially having brothers.

There was only one guy who ever achieved being very sly.

I found out because my boyfriend looked pissed and I asked him what was wrong. He said my really good buddy of mine was into me.

I laughed and was like what?

I honestly was shocked because this guy could get any girl in school. I also assumed he was into other girls because he would be talking about how hot a girl was and there were many and I'd be smiling and giggling because he would say this so randomly. I was like go get them slugger. He would shake his head and be like Im okay, I would need to get to know her first.

So I tried to observe him to see how he was with me. He was so good at keeping shit together, I just couldn't believe it.

After years passed he confessed to me that he wondered what would have happened if he kissed me.

I didn't know what to say honestly. He hid it from for 5 years.

sheikalana · Accepted Answer

When I was a teen there was more than one guy writing letters to me and I never found out who they were.

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

When I was in highschool I think I did. In fact, this girl might have had a crush on me since the 6th grade. And I kept telling myself I was going to talk to her when the time was right.

She was this nerdy bookworm and I was starting to hang out with a bit of a rough crowd. I was embarrassed to talk to someone like that because I was afraid she wouldn't be able to see that I was nerdy and used to read a lot too.

I was pretty young and still finding myself. I remember all the times when we were little kids and I made an idiot out of myself, she never seemed to want to isolate herself from me. I wish back then I understood what was going on.

It was so long ago though, maybe in reality it was nothing like that. Sometimes I wonder if I should talk to her again. And then I start to feel like I'm not good enough for her. It's weird because even though I've barely talked to her, she's the only person I feel like that about.

Twalli · Accepted Answer

If I did, it was a secret

jennifer_bloom · Answer

When I lived at school first year, anonymous people would send me Valentine gifts and have it delivered to my dorm, never found out who it was.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

No, never :| I'm usually the secret admirer that gets rejected, ignored, or friendzoned, lol

WonderBell99 · Answer

I would not know if they are keeping it a secret. On the other hand, if they sent me mysterious letters with numerous hearts or corny lines or poetry written, professing their undying admiration, I would know, but alas, nothing like that has happened until now, which I would say is for the best.

Although, it would be considered as “romantic”, I have no intention to get romantically entangled with anyone as of now. Concentrating on studies is for the best at my age. Boys will come and go, but my studies are very important to me.

I have had guys staring at me, but they do not approach or strike up a conversation. They limit to glancing or staring at me occasionally. I would also like to add that I am far from intimidating. I appear friendly and I am a good conversationalist. One guy did try to talk to me, but only asked me if I knew his language and asked me for my full name.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Yeah. In 5th to 8th grade I used to reccieve lovenotes from someone. I think I know who but I was not attracted to her for a long time and later on I was too damaged to feel for anyone for a long time.

After 12th grade I had a few I knew liked me while going to University but it was not really a secret and I was still damaged beyond repair until after school altogether.

Since then I was never around for long enough in one place to catch a shy eye towards me that wasn't obviously expressed. So no secrets as far as I know.

Slingblade1126 · Answer

Yes. When I was in high school, a girl in my class had a younger sister (2yrs). She saw my picture in her sister's yearbook and looked my phone number up. Fortunately for her, my last name is extremely rare and we live in a small town. She would actually call me most weekends, I would be nice to her, she seemed like a nice girl but I had no idea what she looked like. Her sister was okay looking but nothing special. After a while she stopped calling. Fast foward a year and a half, I finally met her when she became a freshman. She was a little doll! We became friends and eventually dated. I'm so glad I was nice to her when she would call because that stood out to her.

kellytheman · Answer

No but I been a secret admirer. I liked this girl a lot and I would put letters and sometimes gifts in her locker cause I knew her combination and if I was really sly I put something in her bag or pocket when I passed her. I finally went up to her and asked her to the homecoming prom and told her I was the secret admirer. She agreed and we where a couple for a couple years but it was highschool and we both broke up because of different paths.

NathanDavis · Answer

sort of, I guess...

there were a few girls that were interested on me, but I had no idea and they said nothing much, so I did not know they were secret admirers... and then they came out with it or told me and then, since I knew already, it was no longer a secret...

my idea of secret admirer is when they start living you notes or send you messages or texts or posts while you don't know where they're coming from, so far, I've never had that

no creepy stalkers either... lol

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

Yes.

When I started dating my ex I got a random call from a kid who was taken away by child protective services back when we were in 7th grade…nobody had heard from him in 6 years…

He was angry…he said that I ruined his life and that we were supposed to get married…🤨

Levin · Answer

Lots in high school and throughout university. I was completely oblivious.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

I had quite a few I noticed through body language and from what my best friend told me.

I learned of one when my mother mentioned to me that a young lady from my college asked her about me a few times.

And the other, I picked up on it when she would always want to be alone with me.

Mind you, I'm not a Chad or Tyrone. I consider myself average and I just be my genuine self around people. You're gonna always be very attractive one way or another.

Sonorous · Answer

Yeah. People be coming out the woodwork saying they've been my fan for years & I'm like  Yeah 👄 I have no idea who you are

Freyke · Answer

Yeah. She called me up one day, don't know how she got my number. I didn't know who she was , she was all excited, but I was just weirded out by the whole thing.

wolfunknown · Answer

If I knew, it wouldn't be much of a secret now, would it?

cryscrys1 · Answer

Well the most risky thing I have done is eat the cheesecake pie in secret and I was admiring it alone  .. no sharing with siblings back then and who ever was around  Lol

laurieluvsit · Answer

If they are keeping it a secret, then I wouldn't know... lol I'm sure I am not understanding your question, but most are more 'in my face' about it

rachel776 · Answer

not like in the movies but i know there are guys who liked me who never said anything

RavVid · Answer

I don't guys can get away with being a secret admirer these days without getting arrested and jailed for stalking. I less sensitive days it might have been fun.

Spikey_uwu · Answer

Apparently I had a small following of bisexuals in HS but I was so oblivious that I didn't find out till years later

BCRanger10 · Answer

I suspect I might have had one in college. Maybe another one few years later. But I don't know for sure.

Massageman · Answer

Surprisingly, yes!
At my 50th HS reunion, there was his one gal who was a very bubbly type- she told me that she had a crush on me. I had NO idea at the time - I was kind of nerdy-ish, and she was rather nice and spunky!

Snsl153 · Answer

If I knew that then it wouldn't have been a secret.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

Nope. at least not in my knowledge. Except this weirdo claiming to admire me since I joined this site. He is just a perv anyways.

hotwife98 · Answer

Yes it was very sweet. He wasn't my type but I was flattered by his attention and admire the intrigue it got from me.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Maybe but doubt it. in the past one of my sisters friend did, she masked it by telling everyone she did not like me.

ZenoZoldyck · Answer

3 cute girls on my high school wanted to be my girlfriend's and said it in front of classmates, I don't know if they wanted to poke fun on me , but I didn't said anything because I'm shy

Staximus · Answer

Not that I know of, but this girl has been stalking me for 25 years

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Yeah l have. Actually I regret turn down one of them. Recently I thought about it and I think accepting her offer would have been the right call.

Kaneki05 · Answer

It's not secret if you know so this question is a paradox.

Cowboy6666 · Answer

On GAG... I don't think so 😌 In real life I am sure none

Adam1978 · Answer

No then they wouldn't be secret, since I know about it.

Bluemax · Answer

Yes, but it soon became apparent who it was. I didn't return her feelings.

England4eva · Answer

Maybe I have lots, and they are all keeping it a secret?

Gent207 · Answer

I thought that was the point of it being a "secret". So how would I know?

mermaidcancermoon · Answer

Yes.  I know who he is though, just not totally attracted to him.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I have & I’m sure I still do & it’s such a secret I don’t even know about it.

MCheetah · Answer

Never. I'm not a woman or ridiculously attractive looking. And I don't think stalkers count.

siseñor · Answer

yeah & then when I found out I told them I didn't like them even though I did 🪦🕳🏃‍♀️

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I have no clue. (That's kind of the point of it being secret; right?)

Panzer21 · Answer

Yes, she worked at the coffee shop beside my work and did reach out to me eventually though and we went on a date. Unfortunately I wasn't feeling it.

Texaskid1 · Answer

Not as far as I know.  Of course that's why it's called a " secret admirer ".  The clue is in the name.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Oh yes they all seem to be secret right now. So secret as to be undetectable lol

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

If she's a secret admirer, how can i know if she doesn't reveal it 😄 I really don't know if i had or have or will have any secret admirer...

motownplayer2000 · Answer

I’m sure I have, but they were so secret I never knew. Lol jk yeah I’ve had like two girls and a guy tell me that… t’was interesting

Wajahat007 · Answer

I have. A high school teacher who many years later confessed that she had the hots for me!

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

Yes, it was uncomfortable even after finding out who it was...

Caliguy88 · Answer

I don’t think so really. Certainly found out girls liked me way after the fact.

SophiaSunshine · Answer

Yes, I used to get romantic letters from someone in my locker at High School, but the person never revealed himself.

Andres77 · Answer

Yes, and I screwed it all up.

Princess_shruti · Answer

Yes, even i have.. :) :)

FireFox001 · Answer

A few that I eventually got to know of. Then again, it's not that hard, when you are a pilot.

alex4you · Answer

I am not sure that i ever had, probably not. Most girls do not find me attractive anyway.

htmndg183 · Answer

Not that i'm aware of. If there was any then that secret never got out 😂

KrakenAttackin · Answer

I think every female has had a secret admirer at some point.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Some pink anons here. She's probably not active anymore because that was a long time ago

JohnK123 · Answer

I did when I was like in second grade… sadly I moved in 3rd 😭

SassyAussieAddy · Answer

If I did they were good at keeping secrets xD

H8INCHES · Answer

When I was 19, I had one at work. I found notes in my locker every day. It got really creepy after a while. When I finally found out it was a 40 year old married woman, I turned her in to my manager.
She was given a warning.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

You are one lucky girl.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

Yea I have before yes

userxvi · Answer

women probably have like 3 secret admirers at a time but never know

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