How do you (yourself) tell someone they’re moving too fast without scaring them off? (Page 2)

DizzyDesii · 2021-12-17T13:31:43Z

I hate when I like someone more because I feel it eventually runs them off. And then i hate when someone likes me more because then i feel like it’ll eventually run me off. I just want balance 🤦♀️ So i met two great guys. One is moving at a more balanced pace and i like that. I want that. And although he has the sense of humor that matches mine, i fear he’ll drift into the friendzone because I dont know if i can see myself being into him sexually. Like some of the stuff he says when trying to flirt sexually is cringe 💀 I like goofy and corny but not cringe. And then the other guy, he's got it all but i think he's also battling with insecurity so he's moving faster than me in such little time. I know its bad that when talking to him yesterday, it made me slick miss someone from my past. I don't know how he randomly reminded me of the guy, but its not that long ago that me and that person ended. Im not trying to rebound. Im not even trying to date anyone else come this month but I want to see if they’re worth getting to know enough to take with me into the new year. I feel like i made that super clear because I just want to get to know these guys, but they’re super lovey dovey in super little time and its super freaking me out. I just don't know what to tell them. #FeelFreeToList

DizzyDesii

Master Age: 29

Post Opinion

What Girls & Guys Said

Opinion

Show Popular Opinions(20)

Oh-canada Follow
Xper 5 Age: 25

+1 y

Honestly who cares you tell them. If they can’t handle that then they were not the right person for you. Pretty simple.

0

1 Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Makes sense
  
  Reply
Pharez Follow
Xper 1 Age: 41

+1 y

Make them feel at home, pop up the word gently withouts coming out raw

0

0 Reply
EaterPeter Follow
Guru Age: 51

+1 y

This is little too fast for me

1

9 Reply
- EaterPeter
  
  +1 y
  Can we please dial down a notch or two?
  
  Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Anytime someone says that, people dont text at all 🤣
  
  Reply
- EaterPeter
  
  +1 y
  It's good if they don't text at all. I would know I had picked wrong project
  
  Reply
- EaterPeter
  
  +1 y
  Thanks for like!
  
  Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Ooo you're right
  
  Reply
- EaterPeter
  
  +1 y
  There is something bothering me I want to share with you and I am afraid it's going to push you away from me. What if I tell you this is bit too fast for me. Can we please take a step or two back?
  
  Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Lmao i wish. Check update
  
  Reply
- EaterPeter
  
  +1 y
  How many guys are you trying to juggle at same time? 🙂
  
  Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  At this point i dont care for any
  
  Reply
emperor90 Follow
Yoda Age: 22

+1 y

Just sit down and tell them to slow down

2

1 Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Okayy
  
  Reply
linka_pat307 Follow
Xper 7 Age: 19

+1 y

Give some time to think

0

0 Reply
VarddaanKaushikk Follow
Xper 4 Age: 22

+1 y

Tell them that you like to take things slow

0

5 Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Check update
  
  Reply
- VarddaanKaushikk
  
  +1 y
  I think You should Block that Stupid ass dude now
  
  Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Lmao very tempted
  
  Reply
- VarddaanKaushikk
  
  +1 y
  Can I DM , Got a few questions
  
  Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Okay
  
  Reply
TallAnon Follow
Master Age: 28

+1 y
356 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

When in doubt between two, drop both.

0

3 Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Lmao I've done that many times
  
  Reply
- TallAnon
  
  +1 y
  If it's a workshift, maybe reduce the workload by 50-100%
  
  Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  I think i want to drop 100%. I dropped 2 yesterday. Still got 2 yo go but may drop them too. Check update
  
  Reply
whosnumber1 Follow
Xper 7 Age: 47

+1 y

just lay down the 6 month rule!! lol

0

6 Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Theyre not moving too fast sexually per say. But emotionally, they’re like all “baby”, “i miss you”, “please dont leave me”, etc. and i like that. Just not week 1 🤣
  
  Reply
- whosnumber1
  
  +1 y
  eeeee. that's kinda tough. it's harder to control the emotional side of things. only way you can is to talk about it.
  
  Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  I just dk why they jump so quick. Its hard to tell the difference between genuine interest and desperation
  
  Reply
- whosnumber1
  
  +1 y
  I guess it depends if he's on a dry spell. lol
  
  Reply
- whosnumber1
  
  +1 y
  omg! your update is a mess! take me with you and leave the phone on so I can hear you eating... haha. that's a chick thing to say my god!
  
  Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Wait til you read the question listened in the update. Click the pink link and see what he did next
  
  Reply
Nikki102002 Follow
Xper 1 Age: 21

+1 y

I ask them to slow it down.

1

2 Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Yea ig i will
  
  Reply
- Nikki102002
  
  +1 y
  I mean if they don’t listen I’ll get up and walk out. I have done it.
  
  Reply
snowblack47 Follow
Xper 2 Age: 26

+1 y

Tell them you want to slow down instead

0

1 Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  New +1 y
  I did. I even dropped 2 yesterday. But See update
  
  Reply
Phoenix98 Follow
Master Age: 31

+1 y
1.2K opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Gently.

1

2 Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Lmao i meant like what to say
  
  Reply
- Phoenix98
  
  +1 y
  I don't know that would vary from person to person.
  
  Reply
housekitten69 Follow
Xper 2 Age: 23 , mho 32%

+1 y

Communication is key

0

0 Reply
AkshiJanjua Follow
Yoda Age: 26

+1 y

Play hard to get

0

1 Reply
- DizzyDesii
  
  +1 y
  Never been into that
  
  Reply