How can a man/boy be more attractive?

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OpenClose · Accepted Answer

First of all don't think too much in terms of masculine or feminine if you're looking at what is attractive. I mean go more masculine for conservative or rural girls, and more "pretty" for city and liberal girls. But those aren't hard rules.

I'm going to get pretty broad so I'll start with some specific things if you're looking for them. Decide on a look and stick to it. Wear fitted clothing. It's probably a size smaller than you think. Onto the big stuff...

What's generally attractive is big personalities. It doesn't have to be some big peacocking personality it that's not what's natural to you, but it's more about it being solidified and distinctive.

It's less about who you are and more about you being a fully realized version of this. Girls like Jude Law because he's charming and gentlemanly. But girls also seem to really like Bill Burr for exactly the opposite reason. It's not which one you are, it's about BEING them. Polite Bill Burr is boring. Jude Law with fake confidence is obnoxious.

I would argue "nerds" were classically unattractive not because of their niche interests, but because many of them would try to downplay these things as a sort of social shame.

This is why the myth of the "nice guy" persists. Being "nice" is pretty much never an unattractive quality. Girls LOVE nice guys. Some guys may be "nice" in a malicious way, expecting you can put in "nice" tokens and get out sexual attraction. You can recognize it from a mile away, and it's hard to tell if it is just a misguided facade or an intentional deception. But from the outside it almost always looks like deception.

But honestly I don't think most "nice guys" are like this. Rather, I think the big problem is guys will hide their own unique personalities for the sake of politeness. Perhaps from the general feeling that we are supposed to censor ourselves to women. Perhaps from social expectation and dating "rules". The problem isn't the niceness. It's that you've become an amorphous blob. The edges and quirks are what make you attractive, and guys will often sand those down around women.

Note my emphasis on personality. Have you ever met a girl who wasn't your "ideal" in terms of checking the boxes, but as you get to know her and find things in common, it's like she becomes physically hotter? Not to generalize too much, but I think women get this affect cranked to 11.

AdithyaR · Accepted Answer

Be physically active
Eat healthy and drink lots of water
Proper hygiene
Dress in what makes you feel confident
Try out haircuts and beard styles (or clean shave if that's your look) that matches you and makes you feel good
Try out some hobbies that you're passionate about
Read
Smile more

Medicalbug · Accepted Answer

Look like Venkatesh Pande.
No seriously - hygiene. Major point. If you look and smell like a gutter you should probably find women who enjoy life as subterranean sewage dwellers.
Secondly - don’t be needy. Don’t make me think I have to coddle you as a full time job. Be an equal and be your own interesting person that has ideas worth sharing.

dustybiker · Accepted Answer

Get to know yourself more. Get a passion for something and become good at whatever that is. People who are great at something are attractive through confidence and girls will have something to ask you about.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Well, I’m DEFINITELY not attracted to boys, but hygiene is paramount for men, get your hair done at a stylist, not a barber! Use hair products, and dress nice! We may have makeup, but guys have clothes, and clothes definitely make the man!

Sasha_Gee · Answer

A good hygiene! A good smell! Maturity! Confidence! Healthy body!

Sonorous · Answer

Looks-maxing, status-maxing, money-maxing, game-maxing, skill-maxing

lrina · Answer

a good personality. a person with a good personality is already 100000% more attractive.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Being dependable and comfortable in their own skin - and letting me be comfortable in mine.

Anonymous · Answer

Jawline and large hands. Jawline and large veiny hands. Thick black eyebrows. Large ForeArms. Thick Eyebrows.

sdsalyer1979 · Answer

Take care of yourself in all ways. Become the very best version of yourself.

notwoke · Answer

That's a million dollar question. I you could find a straight answer you'd never have to work again lol!

Chthou95 · Answer

None of the girls are giving you actual good advice. It's typical shit. But here's what can really do. Work out, go to the gym. Decrease your facial body fat & build a good physique. You should know the other stuff like dressing well.

Miaax · Answer

Confident in himself, dresses good, focused on his goals and continues to set them for himself.

Anonymous · Answer

Be himself Be independent  Be mature but know how to enjoy life without being immature Be real and loyal

Jessica745855 · Answer

By acting confident and being funny/witty

Anonymous · Answer

Be funny and cool. Good fashion sense and hairstyle

bingbong2004 · Answer

Chew tough falim gum to gradually broaden the lower haw

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know I wish I was more attractive to women :(

Babygirl_S · Answer

By being calm and confident.

Slartybartfast · Answer

Money..

888theGreat · Answer

What is attractive about him?

Ryfyle · Answer

@jaylin_ Have a shit load of money.

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