What does it mean when a guy can't look you in the eye?

[Anonymous]

What does it mean when a guy can't look you in the eye for very long? I have this male acquaintance of mine that I know and sometimes hang out with, but anytime we hang out together in a group, I notice that sometimes it seems like he's deliberately trying NOT to look at me!! Even if I'm talking in the group, he'll be looking elsewhere sometimes. I'm like: "Okay.. what's up with that?" Yet, this same guy is quite friendly with all the ladies, and he can seemingly talk with them and joke with them easily. He gives everyone else easy eye-contact, but with me, he's very cautious. I don't understand why. I never did anything to him. At least... I don't think so. I used to think he was kind of cute and sort of had a crush on him, but since he acts so "weird" around me sometimes, I've decided to just forget about him. What is up with this guy? Guys do you ever deliberately try to avoid eye-contact with some girls? And if so what are the common reasons why a guy would try hard to avoid eye-contact with a girl?

[bestadviceguy]

Hello Anon.

Based on my experience I think I could be very useful help to you. As a teenager I was often harassed and bullied. This made my esteem think that I was basically as ugly as a warthog and not capable of getting a girlfriend. So, back to your case, it seems that you said this guy looks at everyone else except you. No eye contact. Back when I was in high school, there were a few girls that when I saw them my heart just jumped. Some of them I did have a few conversations with. However the ones I really liked I never had a conversation with. So I believe in your situation, since this guy looks at everybody except you, that he is very fond of you. Unless he speaks to you in a tone of discontent I believe he's just extremely nervous. What else could it be because he looks at everyone else, so this is really the only answer. I wonder if it's possible for you to make be a little flirty. Nothing too obvious. Finally, after many years of problems, I found the key to this solution. If I would have asked any of those girls if they had time to talk on the phone (this was in the 80's) she would say yes, here's my number or no. When you're not really asking anyone out you're just asking to talk to them the rejection feels much more minimalized. Anyhow I think if you have some questions let me know.

[FunkyMonkee]

One of three things, either he's shy or he's trying to hide something or he's just not that confident about being with you.
One thing girls don't seem to understand about this confidence racket they seem to believe (If he doesn't show any, he's not gonna be a good mate.) is that, what will GIVE HIM confidence is a girl he's going after accepting him as her mate! If YOU kept trying to get a boyfriend and kept getting turned down, would YOU still feel confident? On the flip side, how would it make YOU feel if he DOES accept you as his mate?
Chances are, if you don't let his apparent lack of confidence get in your way of making that decision to choose him, once you DO choose him, he'll feel like he can move mountains!!

[Asker]

What do you think I should do?

[FunkyMonkee]

I got a feeling he likes you and is trying to avoid making a scene over it in front of the others.
Next time you're alone with him and just having a casual chat, while maintaining eye contact with him, rest your hand on the back of his and hold eye contact as long as you can with a slight, kind, slightly loving smile. If he doesn't pull away, move in closer and closer very slowly. Start looking at his lips and occasionally back to his eyes as you get closer. Then, connect! I'm pretty sure you can take it from there.

[Asker]

Is it a good idea to tell him I know his feelings for me, and also feel the same as well?

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah. I'm just not sure if you should do it before or after you kiss him.
Another ploy would be, the next time he does something really nice for you, run up to him sand give him a great big kiss but, instead of just doing it quickly, wrap your arms around him and get very passionate about it.

[BrotherBane]

Oh dear, I am that kind of guy! 😅 can communicate with every other girl except the girl I find attractive and can barely look at her in the eye unless she talks to me. Sometimes, I also feel that the girl finds it hard to look at me too!

There was another girl whom I couldn't really look at as well. What she does is, she would nod her head and smile whenever I am talking, so it relaxes the tension and makes me feel accepted, allowing me to talk to her easily and openly.

[Asker]

What do you think I should do?

[BrotherBane]

Ask him questions and be interested in his life. He will definitely have to look at you to answer, otherwise, that would be rude.

[Beerluvr]

Maybe he thinks you are medusa and will turn him to stone.

[Anonymous]

Some guys are legit afraid of girls. Maybe he's one of them.

[KaschKarryskype]

It's not good, thats for sure.