The more general advice, is that if you find yourself being shy and awkward talking to someone, muster all your energy into focusing on the other person, rather than your own internal thoughts. Just listen and pay attention to them very closely, and you will naturally think less about your own awkwardness, and you’ll have a good reason to think less about your own awkwardness because you have done a good job of listening to them. (Stole this idea from a Jordan Peterson lecture today, tbh I have no idea if it works.)
For specifics on approaching this girl, the truth is, you’re going to have to break the ice eventually or else decide never to break the ice and let it go. Don’t worry about waiting for the perfect moment. Go into it being honest with yourself that there is a good chance this is one of the many crushes you’ll have in your lifetime that goes nowhere, but that’s okay, and it’s still worth talking to her. Maybe she already had a boyfriend, maybe you aren’t her type, or maybe circumstances just aren’t aligned for anything to be possible between you two, etc., but as guys it is our responsibility to approach girls we like and get shut down by them until we find one that doesn’t shut us down. As long as you’re respectful and kind in how you approach her, I don’t see you ending off any worse than you started by trying to talk to her.
You can either just walk up to her and introduce yourself, or you can try and do something goofy like ask her “Hey, so… how would you go about introducing yourself to someone you technically already work with and see all the time?- Asking for a friend…”
Whatever you do, make sure it feels natural for you though. That’s about all I’ve got. Good luck! Have fun getting turned down by girls until the time you don’t!
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