Is it ever "difficult" for you to be yourself around strangers, especially if you find them attractive or have a crush?

[TheBootyChest]

Why do we do this to ourselves?
How can we make this easier for ourselves or each other?

Why is having 100% confidence when they approach you so important?

[NathanDavis]

nope...
it used to be many years ago, when I was a young teen, but not anymore

for the most part, I think it's a matter of experience... and getting yourself through it and actually experience these situations that you're not so comfortable with, and I guess that the longer you wait the harder it will get so... just go ahead and do it till you get used to it

it does help a lot though, to be smart as well as a decent person, lol

as well as having something to say and to offer, a lot of people do not approach others because maybe they know they don't have much to bring anyway, so... work on yourself first, before you work on others because confidence is all about that, if you're alright with yourself then you're in a better position to be that with/around others

[EspressoTeen234]

Yes when my smart side of my brain thinking I’m not ready to have a girl friend and caveman instinct of having a crush kicks in it really is difficult yes. Especially if they ask to do stuff with you saying they might like you too like a selfie.

[JoyGirl]

Yap, it is.

I tend to be distant, but I am observing the person from a far.

Tbh, I stopped approaching guys my senior year of hs. Men like to talk about how women don’t approach them, but when we do, we are blown off.
Like imagine being shy, and getting the confidence to ask your crush out. Then he proceeded to reject you…LOL
All well and good with me, tbh. I get over it really fast. I have learned not to dwell on rejection.
It doesn’t make me worthless, because I still know my worth. I still see myself as a bad bish regardless. 😂

Men should stop complaining about finding it hard to get women. 👌🏾

[TheBootyChest]

Do you think men should be confident when approaching a woman for a date?

[JoyGirl]

Sure, but don’t be a creep. 😂

[TheBootyChest]

Would you prefer him to be confident or it's ok if he is shy?

[JoyGirl]

Either is fine with me.
It depends on the girl.

[jennifer_bloom]

I rarely feel nervous around physically attractive people cause that’s not what I esteem, I feel nervous around religious people and smart people and strong people.

[TheBootyChest]

Fair point that they don't have to be attractive. But why do you think we feel that way? Or why is it important that other people feel we need to act a certain way that natural for us as human beings?

[menina]

Yes it is, I'm afraid of what they're going to think of me or if I'm going to say something wrong.
I think it happens naturally, we don't want to feel that way but we end up feeling it anyways.
I believe that small talk and some jokes can make the situation a little bit easier.

[dustybiker]

No. Everyone has insecurities even if they hide it well. Remember that and it’s easier to relax and be yourself. They are just as human.

[TheBootyChest]

Sometimes I feel like the person I want to talk to doesn't see it that way. Or that they appear unapproachable when I look at them.

[dustybiker]

They might not see it that way. Any number of things can make a person closed off. Just be yourself. If that doesn’t work you probably don’t want to know them anyway.

[TheBootyChest]

That helps to know they aren't work getting to know.

[Gene9]

I find it difficult to act normal, however I never find it difficult to be myself. I can stumble upon my words, and get nervous, BUT I will never ever act like I'm someone else only to impress them

[moonpie89]

I'm always myself literally.

[moonpie89]

I'm very extroverted.

[TheBootyChest]

So you don't get shy when you meet a guy you are interested in dating?

[moonpie89]

I might feel awkward but I talk even when I feel awkward. I ramble 🤣🤣

[TheBootyChest]

Does a man need to be confident when approaching for the first time?

[moonpie89]

Not really just talk to me and I can do the rest

[msc545]

Fortunately, I don't have that problem.