Is flirting cheating?

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Jakelyr · Accepted Answer

it really depends. what's cheating and what isn't should really be discussed between you and your partner. some people think simply looking at pornography is cheating, while others have a cuckold fetish and as long as they're in the room when you're getting busy with someone else, it's all good.

in the end whatever you consider cheating is only one side of the story. it's important to know where that line is on both sides of the relationship. what do you both consider cheating and how far can you take what's otherwise ok before it's isn't anymore.

this kind of discussion also opens up the opportunity for compromise or flexibility for experimentation in the relationship.

to give you an example. lets say you have decided that flirting is cheating. Your partner on the other hand, thinks it's fine & that it would even a big turn on seeing other people's desire for you while you flirt with them. they agree not to flirt with other people so he doesn't cross your line, but you agree to leave the door open on whether or not you can flirt. this gives you the opportunity to follow your ideal, you have the option to not flirt after this. but say you go out dancing or to the bar for a couple drinks and some fun and you get the opportunity to flirt with someone while you're there. you don't have to, but you know it would drive them wild seeing how someone else wants you. you have the opportunity to take that step because you know it won't hurt them & they may even appreciate you more after seeing that you're willing to entertain their desires.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

Depends. What’s the intent? Are you flirting to cheat? Then it’s definitely cheating. What would your partner think and feel if they witnessed it? If they’d be hurt, it’s almost certainly cheating. How would you feel if you caught your partner flirting? If you’d be hurt, it’s almost certainly cheating.

PrettyPriya · Accepted Answer

Yes, that is considered emotional cheating by many, including myself. Flirting could even become physical. Sex or intimate acts isn't the only type of cheating. Emotional cheating hurts just as bad. It is a sign that the person you are with has eyes for someone else and has lost interest and doesn't care for your feelings.

It is something I would never do. I am happily in a relationship and do not flirt with others. That just gives the wrong idea to someone. They will take that to mean I have interest and want something more.

If they find out I am in a relationship, what kind of person does that say I am to the person I am flirting with. It says I can't stay committed. That is a red flag for most people. Should that person find out that I was flirting with them while in a relationship, I can imagine that they wouldn't want to pursue anything because they would then view me as a cheater.

SoftCliff · Accepted Answer

Absolutely Yes. When someone flirts, they have a secret attraction towards the other person, and that comes out in the shape of flirting, No one flirts with someone, who they are not attracted to.

People who do this, come up with absurd excuses but that’s BS. Flirting can usually lead to cheating activity. A lot of people that flirt are usually testing to see if you are willing to go further with them. Even if that's not the case and you’re just joking, it sends the wrong message to the person you're flirting with and can create unnecessary misunderstandings

Finchie40 · Answer

It can be. if the flirter’s intentions is to make it more than what it is ,. Flirting can easily turn to more without you realizing ot is, that’s why it’s best not to flirt with anyone if you are in a relationship

RavVid · Answer

I saw the best definition of cheating right here on GaG. Forget who it was.

She said if you wouldn't tell your partner about it or want them to know... then it is cheating.

Few of us are going to come home and say 'I flirted my ass off with the new guy/girl at work today. It was really hot'.

So there is your answer.

It has also been determined that those that flirt are less happy with their partner. Causality could be either way but those who flirt are more likely to move on.

You can say at least it is pre-cheating.

affectioncrave · Answer

Well I wouldn't feel the most comfortable if my lover was being way touchy-touchy and overly sweet with someone, be it under my supervision or behind my back. I'd consider that a form of cheating, yeah. But everyone's boundaries and views are different.

Though I think it's acceptable (And normal) for them to find other people attractive as well, even when in a relationship with me. Thoughts are mostly harmless. You can have passing flings and still choose to be loyal.

If one party results in cheating, there were no love to begin with.

Sal_Monella · Answer

It depends on your intent. When I was a medical courier, I "flirted" with the (almost all black) middle aged female technicians in the lab there. I have a pretty good Baritone voice and good inflection. I would emulate Barry White...

I would say, in that accent: "How are ya this mornin, baby?
Or
You got that smile that drives me wild!

They would howl and laugh. Sometimes, when I read them correctly, I'd go more NSFW. They still knew I was just entertaining them. Sometimes, I would just walk in and they would start laughing. One woman told me: I wish my husband would say that.

If my wife (Asian) saw that, she'd, laugh along with them. I could not do that with Chinese or Latina techs. They have no sense of humor.

So NO!

Guy13 · Answer

Yes as you are seeking another outside of committed relationship. At best it defines the Value you ascribe to your relationship and the other person itself. At worse, you are dead toward the other partner. It is not attractive to me.

MJVillarama · Answer

Depends on the context, honestly. Some people see harmless flirting as fun and social, others see it as crossing a line. I think it really comes down to boundaries that both people agree on in the relationship. What’s just being friendly to one person might feel like a betrayal to someone else.

Iron_Man · Answer

Not normal flirting but if you're asking for sex kind of flirting and talking dirty Its very bad and wrong

Cyfris · Answer

By definition no, "behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions." But i would say intent has a lot to do with it and your partners expectations.

Elliegirl · Answer

No necessarily. Harmless flirting is a real thing and that’s fine. I’m a naturally flirty girl. That doesn’t mean I mean anything by it. It’s all about intentions behind it

Curious_Wife · Answer

I think this totally depends on your relationship and any boundaries you two have set.

IF your partner sees it as cheating... then it's cheating.

IF you both have a very strong foundation in your relationship and you've both established that harmless flirting is ok - then it's ok.

Only you and your partner can decide what it means to you both.

Dawty · Answer

As a married woman, I would say, that if my husband was flirting with another woman, I would definitely be considering it cheating.

20yearsolder · Answer

I think it is but I still enjoy doing it. Especially if it involves sexting, I love knowing that I'm getting a woman hot and horny

Tammymooory9 · Answer

Yes and no. If they are flirting with the same person for a while then I would say it definitely is cheating

LeeannaDD · Answer

Its not quite "cheating" but its dishonest and mean

i_Jedi · Answer

It really depends on the relationship and the boundaries you’ve set with your partner. Talking about what’s okay and what’s not makes things clear.

Subarugirl · Answer

That all depends on how cheating is defined with in the relationship

Riley1 · Answer

We all flirt! Holding a glance, a 2nd look? Small as they are, how would the recipient perceive them?

Sparkie460 · Answer

If you're just normal flirting no it's not cheating. If you're flirting with the intent to get sex, yes it's cheating.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

No but it's never a good idea and can easily sow doubt and break trust.

janemarie15 · Answer

Yes! Especially when it turns to feelings and love. Flirting is the starting way of cheating.

Anonymous · Answer

Its cheating if things become sexual in nature.

BLP11520 · Answer

It COULD be... women flirt with me and I am surprised by it.

more_than_a_guy · Answer

Depends on the context. If it's casual flirt, then no. If it's sexual, then yes.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends what constitutes "flirting" to you. I'd say it comes down to intent.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope I used to flirt with other girls while in relationship not big deal

TallMan89 · Answer

Yes. But from what i've seen Women say no if a women does it but yes if a man does it.

EspressoTeen234 · Answer

If your single, no flirting is not cheating.

sean1234 · Answer

If one is single no, otherwise yes

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

It all depends how your partner sees it

JessJJ · Answer

No, not at all.

d3n0939 · Answer

it is like fishing someone to cheat with

legalboxers · Answer

Depends where that flirting leads

TotallyAlmost · Answer

No. It's cheating prevention.

Xtendable · Answer

I voted B- i dont think its cheating

Baddsnob · Answer

Yes  100%

devsharma09 · Answer

Cause it is normal human nature.

strateguy632 · Answer

nahh

panamared1 · Answer

depends on intent

Stella188 · Answer

If it’s you got hide it is.

RuthlessAggression · Answer

yes!

texas_giiirl30 · Answer

Yes it is

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