How can I pretend like I’m not “easy”?

[Anonymous]

This is embarrassing. I don't know what else to call it though. It’s like everytime a cute guy flirts me or take a liking to me or shows interest, i wanna fuck him. And i try not to tell them because if i do , all the respect they had for me kinda goes out the window, but when i don’t I don't know how to hide it. So if i like a person i tend to just shut them out because it’s like i can’t really win either way.

[BrickBiggems]

A complicated subject, so forgive me for being blunt. I think what would be best for you would be to go and talk to a psychologist. To me it seems that your mental model of how relationships are ment to progress is out of shape. Which is nothing to be ashamed of, we all have misconceptions and trauma that effect our behaviors (for better or worse). Talking to someone would allow you to unpack and analyze your troubles and figure out how to better deal with them. If you don't know where to look to get in touch with a therapist I'd ask your doctor. The usually have references ready for patients.

Wishing you well,
Brick biggems

[ohsheeT]

Wow this is a good question because the only time I've ever pretended something was during a role play or during the sexual act I guess about the only advice that I have it could only be for me I think I can't speak for any other guy but it would have to be you in a T-shirt and a pair of panties say no no LOL I'm not easy in between the soft mountains as I kiss you slow and deep

[notyour_baby]

don’t just put out bc a guy flirts / shows interest in you. that’s where you’re going wrong. evaluate and assess what the ramifications may be if u proceed on the urge. woman are made to feel cheap or to have no standards or self-love when they sleep with someone right away, and men are made to feel like a hero when they do. i personally believe that men really want a woman who makes them work to win them over, and that goes for sex. waiting to get to know someone first is not because of an antiquated belief system; it’s to protect the heart and mind to make sure you’re in the right place.

[Asker]

Just because i want to sleep with some one doesn’t mean i will. Like when your at work and your boss is anoying, yes u WANT to slap them but that doesn’t mean you WILL. So me telling a person i find them sexually attractive is not an automatic key to access my body, they still have to work for it and that’s where the confusion comes in

[BlueScorpio]

Ok so don't show or tell them right away. You gotta have some self control and learn to get know them before anything physical happens. Do you feel like you might be desperate for love/attention and feel like that's tge only way you can keep a guy around?

[Asker]

Desperate? Never. Desperate would mean i chase after them. Like i said i only go for who perused me FIRST. But the looking for love in all the wrong places part could be true. The man i was with for 7years cheated on me and I’m kinda heart broken

[BlueScorpio]

See you just revealed the root if the problem. You don't have to be chase after someone to be desperate, just jumping into bed or flirting g with any guy who gives you attention can be a sign that you are in desperate of love/attention. You are still heartbroken over your ex and might be subconsciously trying to fill that void b6 wanting to sleep with other men so suddenly. I'm not attacking you, I just think you need some time alone to heal and realize what your ex did to you is not your fault. You will find the right guy when the time is ready and right 🙂

[Fa1con]

I dont consider myself an expert by any means so take this with a grain of salt:
It sounds to me like you are a sexual person who is struggling to come to terms with the label because of certain stigmas attached to it. It would probably a great relief to you if there came a time in your life that you could openly interact with people however you wish after shedding that fear that people will "respect" you less.

[Slick50Cent]

I'm sure there's a reason you want to be seem "less easy".. It's noticeable I'm assuming? Try to keep it inside until he comes to you and just pay attention to body language. It'll tell you exactly what most people think. Especially in a sitting environment for example. People don't usually realize it but they tend to point their feet at what they "want". Could be the door because they are bored, towards a bathroom or towards a particular person they're very interested in.

[Anonymous]

I’m the same way with women but it gets me nowhere, and they are not likely to want to be with me anyway and I don’t care if they think I’m easy lol

[Asker]

What I’m talking about and what ur talking about is way different. I’m talking about people who Persur me first , your talking about people who don’t even want u lmaoo

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah unfortunately

[nawtee_me]

It is not that you are easy, you just like sex…. If you were a guy it would be perfectly normal. As a girl though there seems to be the consensus that you are not supposed to like sex. In fact you are supposed to reframe from it until commitments are made.
I say stand up for your right to enjoy sex as you wish. I am sure you are not the only girl to feel that way….

[AG900]

Try pushing their boundaries. Even if they can tell what you want, you can extend the time of the playfulness. Banter a bit more or say they won’t get in your pants even if you don’t mean it. Make them work for it a bit more

[RealMarek]

You stop being “easy.” You will still have desire, but you don’t have to tell a guy you want to have sex with him right away. Try to take things slow and have a number of dates first and if he loves you for who you are before having sex.

[Asker]

I never once mentioned that i don’t expect dates or for a man to work for it. I simply said i just wanted to TELL him I’m sexually attracted to him without sounding easy. Or maybe i worded the narrative wrong

[RealMarek]

Oh, in this case subtle flirting is a good place to start without explicitly telling the guy you are sexually attracted to him.

[Light909090]

Throw on vampire diaries Watch Season 3 you’ll see how Stefan does it. He mentions If he let’s himself care it will hurt too much.
As men we learn to Put our feelings aside and can Stop ourselves from crying by focusing on other things.

[Asker]

I stoped reading at “he” 🤦🏾‍♀️

[maximumpower]

You have to "pretend?"
Most guys are enamored with the thrill of the chase, rather than the "kill."
Just DON'T be easy - play the game and it will be much more fun for all involved.

[Haystackneedle]

Not sure but an honest woman wins my respect. If you're horny then you're horny. Jump on my dick and we can hang out like nothing happened.

[Rania05]

Just find the thrill in taking it slow in a relationship, being easy was never good for dating.

[Hardworkingguy]

I don't think there's anything wrong with that. If you find a Lucky guy you like abd you have sex there's the same possibilty of finding a long lasting relationship.

[Guardian45]

First of all, ALWAYS BE TRUE TO YOURSELF! You DON'T OWE ANYONE an explanation! Just stick to your own values and morals, and to hell with EVERYONE ELSE! JUST DONT commit any crimes! LOL!

[Bklynbadboy12]

Look baby you are what you are and why are you saying that like it's a bad thing. You don't have to pretend like your not just be charming and whitty with it make him work a little for it that's all

[Andrew2128]

So otherwise if you shut me out you want to screw me

[Anonymous]

Well, then just don't sleep with them so easily

[Asker]

I never said i sleep with people , i said i want to tell them I’m sexually attracted to them without sounding easy. Can y’all read? Lol

[Opinion Owner]

Men are hardwired to assume that any woman who pays them any attention is sexually attracted to them. Just say hello flirtaciously

[NARCmagnet]

Hey all for empowerment. If you’re looking for a relationship… don’t give it up right away. Oh yeah, wrap it up!

[dolemite89]

just act cold and distant 🤷‍♂️😂

[Asker]

Ironically this is EXACTLY what i do 😂💯

[dolemite89]

i was being sarcastic 🤦‍♂️😂

[Wise4myage]

By keeping your clothes on, lol.

[Anonymous]

No problem wif dat. All black wimmenz be datta ways.

[Asker]

Is there a way to report or block anons , ur a trol

[Opinion Owner]

No baby girlz. i jus anserred you queston

[eagle1951]

damn that's a tuff one

[Hotboy_booblover]

Guys figure it out.. u can't pretend

[lorenzomichael]

Go to sleep

[Anonymous]

how many guys have you? Blowjobs? anal ?

[Asker]

None perv