What would your first reaction be if your friend's ex started flirting with you?

[gayesblog]

What would be your reaction even if that person is not your very-close friend?

[DaveJord]

So, this has happened to me twice, and the friend was not a very close friend. Long story short, I fucked her. But they had been broken up for at least 6 weeks. So, it is not like she was his property. He sort of thought he got back at me, a few weeks later when he got with one of my ex-girlfriends, but it wasn't a big deal to me. I mean I had been there and done that already... but apparently, he was upset with me, because he still had feelings for the girlfriend I hooked up with. But we got over it and stayed freinds.

Then the second time, I got with a girl that had been with a friend of mine a week prior. Yes, we only met because of the friend... now they were never dating. I thought it was only a sex thing, but the friend got super pissed at me. We actually got in a fight over it, physical confrontation. Ironically, this was the same girl that broke up with me two weeks later, and then hooked with the guy I was talking about above after I had hooked up with his ex-girlfriend.

This was all in highschool, I was like 18 years old. Fun times, right?

After there may have been one or two more times that I got the vibe from a girlfriend or ex- girlfriend of friend of mine... like maybe I could have got with her. But I never followed up on it, because by then I had learned my lesson.

[Lliam]

It depends. Why did they break up? Who broke up with whom? Am I single/unattached?

If she dumped him for me, I'd have to remain loyal to my friend because it would look like I stole her, and I don't do that to friends.
If he dumped her, then he has no claim on her. I don't see why he would care if I dated her. And if I liked her enough, I might choose her over him if he was being a dick about it.

Shortly after I broke up with my first girlfriend, she and one of my best friends got together and eventually got married. I was happy for them. I stayed in touch. They were good people.

[Rania05]

In case of not-really close friend, if they broke up in good terms (to confirm he isn't toxic) and I know she doesn't have feelings for him anymore I think I can entrain the idea of getting with him if he actually flirted the right way with me instead of harrasment, just like I wouldn't care if she did the same.

This would be different if she was my best friend, whether she still likes him or not, there's a girl code of never 'taking away' a man around them, from brother, ex, crush or simply someone who used to like them. It just won't sit right for me, since I would be rightfully upset myself if she breaks this code herself, also given my possessiveness over some friends I wouldn't want to share her with another person close to me in turn especially a man

[Lynnfriend]

i would not respond to his flirting, if he continues I would let him no I am not interested. I was taught it's not appropriate to engage in romantic relationship's with family or friends ex's. It can cause bad or I'll feelings and they maybe involved in future family events or holiday gathering. Nobody wants that kinda of stress.

[Genie23]

I'm not kidding. 😐

[Guy13]

I know why he broke up with your ass now... Hoe give it a rest !!

[Summeroflove]

This would really depend on which friends ex it was

[coachTanthony]

All my friends are very close so I would have nothing to do with her.

[Avicenna]

I’d assume she is playing games or is a bipolar

[Stoner710]

why are you flirting with me you have a kid and a husband

I only date for marriage sooooo high school isn't the time for someone like me to date unless you plan on getting married girl she didn't like when she turned 18 I proposed we broke up after that. (for the record this was high school i was born August 10th 1993 she was born November 18th 1993 i was dating her for 2 years to ask that question still am not over it am i'm almost 30 and yes i have attachment issues i don't like breaking up have it affects me for years am i nuts probably but those who said i was normal was lying to you

[kajsvjsion]

In all honesty, I wouldn’t even be friends with a friend’s ex. However, if it were to happen over text or on social media, of course I would have to talk to my friend about it first and ask if I could play along/play them. Whether the friend let’s me or not, they would get blocked [after] asap. If it happened in person.. I don't know, I would probably just smile and laugh awkwardly then pardon myself to go to the restroom or something. If I can’t leave, then I would just tell them they’re either not my type or that I like the opposite of their gender. But omg… it was actually vice versa for me. My ex’s BEST friend started flirting with me after my ex broke up with me. He told my ex that he was just keeping me company and stuff but it was wrong rither way. We’ve all gone our separate ways ofc.

[RavVid]

I would consider it a bit too close and have done so when it has happened. My second thought would probably be she wants revenge and wants to use me as part of the vengeance plan.

When girls have a fight the first they seem to think of is roping someone else into it. The more the merrier in fact.

The third thought would be yes it looks like I could get some and yes she is a free agent now but no I am not going to be played.

[Kaneki05]

Well my best-friend has only ever had bad gfs really so I would probably run!
But there was one who was more similar to me and we got along they broke up for nothing worrying really so I would flirt back with her for sure.

And yes he would be fine with it. And yes even if he wasn't I would do it anyway because he can't decide who I date nor can I tell him who he should.

[CubsterShura]

Depends on why they broke up. If it was a bad breakup like he cheated or they fought a lot or he hurt her etc I don't want anything to do with this person, why would I, he hurt my friend! But if the breakup was more 'civil', like they just went different paths in life and mutually broke up and stuff and we are all still on good terms, then I wouldn't mind unless he starts hitting on me soon after a breakup, that's a red flag and I don't want a rebound.

[TheorionMage]

So many variables... Foremost is their relationship GENUINELY 'over'?
As being his friend, you were privileged to be privy to witness THEIR interactions.
SHE is unlikely to change her root behaviors; is 'being her next' WORTH the complications? Or, are YOU just being used as a 'pawn' to torment?

[CrazyGirl2]

It depends which one it was. If it was my first ex-boyfriend then I’d tell him to eff-off, however if it was the second, while I’d be appreciative, I’d still have to tell him that unless he transfers to a college close to me, it’s still over! I’m simply not going to live in a long distance relationship!

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I honestly probably wouldn't know it was flirting at first, but as soon as I would recognize it, that would probably be awkward. Even if I got along well with that ex from my friend, it would be weird to flirt with them after knowing they broke up.

[DrillBeats]

There are too many women in the world to be interested in a friends current or ex. I’ve never been interested in anything like that although it was done to me. I just chalk it up to everybody doesn’t live by the same code and not every friend is your friend.

[DizzyDesii]

“You doing too much. Get tf on”

[Emiliamazing]

Awww man, here come deebo's hoe

[DizzyDesii]

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[Emiliamazing]

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[DizzyDesii]

@Emiliamazing i prefer the 2 sequels. The first one i can't watch repeatedly no matter how much i love Chris. I prefer him
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[Emiliamazing]

I've never seen the sequels! Maybe we will give it a try in the near future :-)

[DizzyDesii]

@Emiliamazing omgeeee the second one is funny because Mike is so afraid of the neighbors and their dogs. Plus deebo returns. The third is funny because they’re afraid of this other dude who gets out of jail and likes “booty” 🤣 Plus santa claus is still gifts instead of giving them

[DizzyDesii]

*stealing

[Emiliamazing]

That sounds hilarious!

[Draco3471]

I just could not bring myself to do that to anyone whether I knew them they were my friend or not if I knew they were with someone or just having problems or whatever I could not bring myself to do that to anyone because I've had that done to me all my life it sucks being lied to and cheated on I'm just wondering which sucks worse that are being alone for 6 years

[TrueConfection]

That happened about a month ago. I turned my back to the pig and pretended he was invisible. He's her ex because he doesn't deserve her or any self respecting woman. She's never been my close friend, but I know the family.

[420Rachel]

NOPE!!! You broke my friend’s heart so why should I expect you to not break mine? Plus bro code y’know? It’s the same for females. Don’t date your friends exes! That’s just shitty.

[Fraulein1700]

I'd be careful.. listen but overall be wary and keep a distance to see what the true intention and motives are. Not for revenge, vengeance, etc

[blueonblack22]

Had this happen once and it was really shitty. Also my best friend told me my ex tried this disgusting bullshit on him once. He trust him 100% and said he turned her down.

[Finchie40]

If it as a close friend of yours then out of respect you would deny them out of respect for your friendship , if it’s someone that was just an acquaintance to you then go for it

[Guccigabbana18]

Ignore them and tell the friend if it gets out of hand. I don't mess with exes, currents, or crushes of my friends. I care about my friends more than random attention from men.

[mstbooblover]

For myself not a real problem if my friend's ex flirted with me. I'd rather be open, but the final decision would depend on how my friend would feel about the situation.

[sheenagwapa]

i think i'll just laugh it off. i am a friendly petson but i i know who or who not to trust. actually if you are my friend's ex that fact alone makes me not interested in yoy generally

[TacosRAwesome]

All my friends have been with their partners for a while now so I don't think they'll be offended. That said, I'll have a chat to know whether breakup was due to incompatibilities or otherwise.

[Agape93]

Depends on who they are and how my friend feels about it

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I can’t really get interested in any of my friend’s EXs. I think it’s inappropriate and I would not flirt with him back.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

If a girl friend's ex started flirting with me, I'd caution him who my husband is and I'd warn him never to try that again.

[katiesmuff]

If I was not in a relationship and he wasn't seeing my friend any longer then what the hell go for it if I'm interested.

[Sorrento-Sun]

I wouldn't reciprocate. I'd ignore it. If he continued to cross my boundaries I'd call him out about it or walk away

[summiter]

If I was single and I did not think it would piss off my friend I'd like it and see where it lead to.

[ShadezMcgee]

I would be pretty uncomfortable. I ain't doing my boy dirty like that and flirting back or egging it on.

[Kayla45]

I have some guy friends irl, only girl in the group. Bound to have happened at some point, am I right? 😂

[Lucy68]

I would kindly tell them to please get away honestly

[MikeInHawaii]

Why would the fact she was a friend’s ex even matter? If she’s an ex, she isn’t his current girlfriend. Women come up with these silly rules, men don’t.

[Biancam13]

I don't date or sleep with friends' exes. It's too messy and hurtful

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be interested. It’s only been once that my friend and I loved the same man. He ended up stalking me for a year. It turns out that he’s mentally ill.

[Adam1978]

Not girlfriend material. So nothing long term would come from it.

[rudedevon]

In my social circle, avoid the drama. After time has passed, fine

[Chazmatazz269]

I first assumed she was messing with me. Then i assumed she was messing with him.

[Faith18letsgo]

It depends if they were kind to my friend. Likely I would like that and flirt back.

[SphynxUK]

How about when your friends boyfriend hits on you? 😩

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think I'd stare at him for the longest time ever.

[kellytheman]

I might do some friendly flirting back but I wouldn't do anything. I go to my bros and say if it cool to hook up with her but however it might break the bro code.

[vetociw626]

It would depend. If they were done for good and I was interested, I’d pursue her.

[loveslongnails]

I don't have any very close friends. LOL. So it would be the ex of an "acquaintance", and I wouldn't have much of a reaction.

[aaron210419]

I've been in this position, a friend's ex tried making a move and I immediately shut her down out of respect for my friend.

[Vick2828]

If it's an actual close friend, then ask permission or simply don't get involved. If this is just a not-a-close friend there is nothing they can do tbh.

[Blackcupcake]

hahaha

[Blackcupcake]

[Makeushiver]

If it was really over with them then if I was attracted, carpe diem

[elizamichale1]

Well if they r not close then no problem i guess

[Curiousandhavetoask]

It depends on how long they’ve been an ex. If it’s a long time ago and the friend is okay with it and I’m interested then I’d react positive. If they hurt my friend or it was recent I’d ignore it

[DJB72]

My first reaction would be to ask where she got my number...

[SweetTwistedSatanist]

If it's a good breakup I will have to politely decline... but if it was a bad breakup I will be twisting that knife

[AimeeKyle]

I would flirt back and see where it goes. If it was a good friend I would have a chat about it with them as well before / if things progressed.

[LiamJHayden]

If I were interested I'd bite. I don't hold to the bizarre idea that an ex is perpetually quasi-property and thus off-limits.

[Shark_61695]

Depends on how much I know about her, what the breakup was like and how long ago it was.

[newusername808]

Getting the eff out and staying far away from that trouble...

[Anonymous]

It kinda happened to me. I sensed that she wanted to make her ex jealous. She is just immature. I firmly told her to stop, she aplolgised and told me it was just an impulse.

[Massageman]

Trying to get back in his good graces?

No problem- I could certainly play along.