Why would you bother if you didn’t like the girl? Would you reply to be friendly/bored or just ignore her? This guy responds but doesn’t initiate so it’s confusing me.
Yeah, surely. Most men would. There's always a fraction of men who are mean, the same way with women.
But most men will still reply and even can get interested on you. Since guys often don't receive as much attention from girls, as opposite girls from guys, men always tend to be more open to these.
And the fact that you are interacting positively with him will make him recognize and appreciate you more. You can even make him like you, and it's up to you.
And about the confusion, that's just on your side. Guys often try to be really cautious when they have to approach a girl, as they have the same fears that you would have when interacting and/or opening youself to a guy (insecurity). The difference is that guys remain quiet more often because they don't want to look as creeps, something which rarely happens from a girl to a guy.
If you really want to pursue him, then talk to him until he feels comfortable with you. Only then he'll have enough confidence to do so. While rare, sometimes it's you the one who has to make the push. It isn't always the other way.
Finally, if you think that talking a few times with him is enough, you are plain wrong. You have to make a bigger effort.
Getting an appropiate girl is already an entire journey. Getting an appropiate man may be way easier, but it doesn't mean just talking to him a few times will be enough.
Hope it helps!! Good luck!!
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I would definitely reply to her, it does not matter if it is online or real life. I will always reply and reply properly. Outright ignoring her message is something I would do only if she did something which would be unforgivable in my view.
Otherwise I will talk respectfully and reply to her messages.
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If her message is interesting, say it asks an interesting question, I'll reply to it, whether I like her or not.
I almost never text a woman first. The reason being is the majority of what I see on Facebook is egotistical women posting on Facebook complaining about guys messaging them.
Most guys wish they had that problem! ( Regardless of the intent many of the guys messaging have), it's still nice to be acknowledged.
The way I see it is if they want to talk to me then they will message. I'm not going to be just another guy to stroke their ego.
If he doesn't initiate, but replies in a normal way, he probably liked her, but is just shy.
Depends on the context of the message and what's being said really.
This is missing context. Like are you messaging on Tinder or on Linkedin?
I eould reply in a friendly way
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