I'm afraid of trying to flirt with girls because I feel like I would bother them? How do I get rid of this feeling? Is it bad to feel that way?

[Anonymous]

Well, to be fair, I did have some bad experiences with girls so I'm kinda afraid to put myself out there now.

[Guy13]

You do like girls, right. We talk to people we like. Yeah, this is scaredy-cat mess and no woman wants to be around that vibe. Go talk to them like you have something to say and they know you are truly interested in them. It does NOT have to be perfect or like some TV show come on. Girls don't want perfect. Perfectly smooth guys scares them. Stop whining and gt in the Game.

[Wade12345]

When you've been rejected as many times as I have, you sort of learn to quit trying. Women hate me for all the wrong reasons. There's always another excuse women have for women to hate me too.

[Asker]

It's not a question of whining, my trust has been broken by girls multiples times. I was acting confidant and all until my feelings were toyed with.

[Asker]

But I do want to move on and be in the game

[lightbulb27]

this is a conflict between your natural drive and your emotions (fear, shame, etc..). You didn't note love anywhere...

I was like that and I'd even freeze or run. Look into your your broken heart and lack of confidence, self worth and esteem. You need to find your true self, confident self that God made... the man, that has love to give, worth, value and you don't care what others think.

Then you get out of fear... into love, giving, which leads to intimacy and connection. That's what women want.

You can study those whom are successful, positive, meditate, find a good God, repair damage in the past, then practice giving to others by talking with them.

that should get you started... it's a process.

[Asker]

True

[EmyyWolf]

Ask a female if your attractive , because sadly if a woman doesn’t find you attractive you’re gonna look like trouble to her, like a nuisance. We don’t have control over this but this is how our brain sees it. We see you as un-breedable. Our body will do everything in its power to not mate with you.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/azBEWpbtlxM

[Tomisworthless]

Agreed I’m King Unbreed

[Faithfully]

Interesting take. Would it be okay to DM you?

[ChooChooHaha]

Of course. BUT: You don't have to be all obviously flirting. Just start by building rapport. Talk to them about whatever. Be honest. Ask one the time. If they know what's good at restaurant X. Good building blocks. Then if yu keep at it, in time, you'll be good to ask one out!

[coachTanthony]

Talk to whoever you like. Just be respectful and kind. You should have no issues.

[Cassie88]

Don't try to flirt. Forget about flirting, just be yourself and act naturally. Don't try to impress anyone. Be nice, polite, and don't allow your penis to do all the thinking for you.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Much needed talk. Helpful.

[Juxtapose]

I can say as someone who is myself, acts naturally and is nice and polite, that does not get you laid. EVER.

If you don't give her the impression that you want her romantically AT ALL and act like a friend, you will be treated exactly like a friend.

[Cassie88]

@Juxtapose Well, of course it doesn't "get you laid"! That's not the objective here. If it's a one-night stand you're after, just hire a prostitute and get it over with. On the other hand, if you're really interested in a long-term partner, then flirting on its own may work, but unless you're really good at it probably won't.
It's better to be honest with the other person from the start, and not put on an act designed to impress, because eventually you'll have to reveal who you truly are.

[Juxtapose]

What I meant was, to enter an adult relationship you have to display some adult intentions at least a little bit as a man.

[Cassie88]

@Juxtapose Oh, okay. Yes, I suppose so.

[Puppystarfish23]

Go to girls you actually know abit and like not just random girls trying to get on with there day that's when it bothers us. It can be intimidating and annoying

[Anonymous]

It is a bother and I don't want to be flirted with by most guys who do. If I want you to flirt with me, I'll generally let you know, and it's probably that way with many girls because we just get so much of it all the time.

[SpokenTruth]

And in case you haven't heard of Metoo and acknowledging all that has been going on the agenda against men your fears are fully warranted you should forget about girls and leave them alone live your life.

[Cassie88]

The "agenda against men"? What a load of bullocks! As for the 'MeToo movement', it put assholes like Harvey Weinstein in prison.

[SpokenTruth]

@Cassie88 The Metoo thing was echoed by millions of times by millions of women all echoing Metoo. Are you saying that millions of women got with what's his name? With your obvious tunnel vision seeing only the outcome for what's his name obviously you either fail to or outright refuse to acknowledge the damage it did to ALL MEN in general painting ALL MEN in a predator spotlight and are you aware of not Metoo those other ones IE kill all men all men are rapist?

[Juxtapose]

Get really ripped, act confident and have a lot of money & show it. That will get women to come to you.

Will they be good women? Probably not, they'll be shallow.

[Iron_Man]

That’s normal thoughts you just have to look for signals don’t worry about approaching girls that are busy approach girls that give you signals

[Anonymous]

I would give up and chase after other parts of your life. If you don't got the confidence at this point it's not going to work

[Asker]

Well, it's more like that I did at one point until stuff happened and conviced me I was wrong to do so. It's true that I have had confidence issues over these years but it's been better recently

[Anonymous]

1. You have to learn to be okay with yourself

[Asker]

Very true, it all stars by loving yourself

[In_Trance]

whatever works for you

[Anonymous]

Dont Worry


Just whip it out