How to exude confidence?

[GreenEyesBrownHair]

I have self love, self appreciation and I know my worth but for some reason I fail to transmit it. Guys rarely hit on me. I guess I put off that appealing and attractive energy and no matter how much eye contact and smiles I give, I still feel unwanted. Both from men and women. I just feel like I’m unliked.

[Guy13]

I think it is healthy to recognize self-confidence, as well as self-esteem fluctuate or wax and wane, if you will. I understand that you feel as though you are lacking accomplishment in the boyfriend area, therefore, your self efficacy is low. Self efficacy is your belief, via evidence, that you can both influence and accomplish a task within your own life. This fact plays upon your Esteem as well as Confidence as all fluctuate in correlation.

I am going to try to take how to exude confidence into specific actions that we really do not think of unless we are looking at another. I am not focusing on the dating fluff kind of things as these are more intended to be applied in all situations.

1. How many times have we heard hold your shoulders back... sit and stand in a Manly or feminine posture. A course in etiquette especially handshakes would be good. We like feminine women.

2. Develop a Mind's Eye and by this I mean be aware of your own self's Being and Doing in the immediate surrounding. In other words, Self focus and pay attention to yourself in the world around you Pat attention to your own groove as far as breath, facial expression, tensions, muscle tightness, and other like sensory related things.

3. Reframe nervousness and stress into positive output. Have you ever been so nervous that diarrhea of the mouth is what others characterized you as but the guy loved it... and you said but that's really not me... he doesn't know the real me...-he will never like me. At those times, gain control and reframe that nervousness into calm emissions outward in a soft smile, eyes, and an attentive listening.

4. Visualization is the difference maker if for no other reason you have conceived a plan and are carrying it out. Preparation through visualization is remarkably powerful and when you develop your Mind's Eye then you will know that you are in the exact situation to carry out your Visualization preparation.

5. Risks... take some but once you have your Mind's Eye and all-the-time awareness and Visualization in process. Confidence is To Be and To Do in the Present. Success is a nice outcome from implementation of plan.

I hope this is helpful in some way. Good luck !!

[ShiftingMonke]

You could be broadcasting confidence already, some men are turned off or intimidated by that. But if you know that's the issue, you can do a few simple things:

• ask questions. expressing an interest in what they have to say not only puts you on their radar, but you can learn a lot about them. It also allows you to steer the conversation in other directions, should you have a romantic interest.

• be funny. making people laugh is a great way to disarm their preconceived notions about yourself, especially if they're not expecting it. Even remarking on whatever situation you may find yourself in with them can defuse their desire to avoid you.

• take control. if you know you're a catch, then show it; if you think a guy is attracted to you, then claim it- just tell him. Walk up and ask for his socials; yell him you're going to see a movie on Saturday and you expect him to be there. He will be shocked but you might be surprised at how willing he can be if you do all the work for him.

[Adogdog]

You have a nice username!