I mean I’m already outta pocket so this shouldn’t be too bad 🤣 Of all people last night, I dreamed of one of my former best friends. We were friends from like HS through half of college. He was ALWAYS there for me but he often wanted to be more. A part of me did as well but I don't know why I couldn’t bring myself to just give in. Like he was sooo cute but he was too tall like 6’4 or 6’5 and his chin was longer than norm so people jokingly called him the Crimson Chin. Still i found him adorable. My mom nicknamed him stripper boy because he joked that he wanted to grow up to become a chippendale stripper but we told him he was probably the same height as the pole. Anyways, in my dream we were hanging out and it almost led to sex but I stopped myself. Then this new idiot text my phone and woke me up. I wouldn’t say I’ve ever been interested in my former friend enough to imagine having sex with him, but I’ve always wanted to kiss him and almost did each time he hugged me from behind, resting his head on my shoulder, staring at me with those puppy dog eyes. We would’ve been a thing if I didn’t push him away, and at one point into the arms of my friend. It was hard seeing them date but I dated others so it was whatever. Then in college, we became close again when he walked me for my awards day. We lost touch when his first girlfriend from HS begged for him back, but she became very controlling and wouldn't let him talk to me anymore. I was being an idiot so I got a new phone number so i didn't have to sit around expecting a text. I haven't seen this dude in like 8 years but that dream shook me and now I miss him. I just dont know if its platonically or in a romantic sense. The crazy part— I don’t have social media, so I came across his profile on linkedin and went to message him but the mfs want you to pay premium. So i just hit connect instead. I feel this is sooo unprofessional and I’m scared of what I’ll say if he accepts my request. 🤣 Is this crazy? #FeelFreeToList
well now. it seems you got hit with the "find something to not like about a person" bug way back when. likely from a fear of loosing the friendship. in hindsight, did not allowing yourself to try help? likely now your mind has settled on the full loss of hom being around (subconciously) and you are wondering what may be. i advise being cautious though as he very well may feel spurned (twice possibly) as he tried being friends with you twice already. possibly, his watching you date others hurt him as much or more as you watching him date others did. to put it bluntly, this is a case of you friendzoning him even though you actually desired him (to some degree at least) and keep in mind, that zone does have an expiration date (varies though) .
then again since this is from a dream, it very well could mean nothing real and his appearance in your dream is a bit more coincidental than tangible. it could also be a weird sign that he has moved on from you entirely (sort of a psychic signal/omen) . though i doubt this 1 is the case, it vould even have been his spirit saying goodbye if something such as his passing occured. another posdibility is it was a sign to reach out as it sounds like you plan to do and to which i wish you good luck.
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Sure, go ahead and contact him on LinkedIn. He'll probably like the fact that at least thought of him. I often send messages on LinkedIn to people that I haven't seen in years. And they often reply back... we exchange updates... what has happened in our lives over the years. LinkedIn is more than a place to hire people. It's a way of keeping in touch with people you know, and usually have worked with.
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This pains me. If you’re questioning or reminiscing- you’re not just interested, but have feelings already, for him.
Best to reach out and catch up to get any updates because it hurts once they’re with someone and moved on-
Seems like he may have been hurt that you had pushed him to a friend and then seeing you date others. I don't know the relationship between you guys so I don't know, but not to be anxious about anything in life or especially a guy, but at least to get on his radar so if he was considering anyone he may wait a bit remembering old emotions, and at least getting on the same page as each other to know if both already have s. o.’s or other.
Just say hi! Anything before he puts a ring on someone else! 😩😭
I understand abput social media. GaG is the only one i ever use. When I became unemployed during Covid my daughter who is a headhunter told me I should get on Linkedin. I had a lot of people wanting to hire me but nothing I was interested in. However, I saw something in a magazine about somebody I went to college with. I had to email her just to let her know I saw the magazine article and she found me through Linkedin and she texted me there.
I think you should definitely do this. It does not have to be weird. You are just saying hello and wonder how he is doing which is the truth.
I would say it is pretty cheap to do over social media. Something like that should be done face to face. Plus this coming out of nowhere despite you liking him and having feelings for so long? You should treat that with respect and should do it face to face.
Plus, if you haven't seen or talked to him in eight years... yeah, this would feel weird and inappropriate if I am looking at it from the receiving perspective. If someone popped into my life after not seeing or talking to them in eight years my guard is up and my immediate thought is "alright, what do you want?"
If I knew her for a long time I would through IG, FB, or ever GAG if she's a member. But no phantom connection like a person never seen before.
One guy on IG expressed his feelings for someone. He put all his heart even money on the line for her. Wanted to be with her for all eternity. But the poor bastard discovered this was a scammer all along. Took all his money and depleted him. WTF 😱😝 Even members on GAG can be scammers.
Notice why aren't they posting questions. But acting very flirty online with other GAG members.Yes that sounds very crazy. You never wanted him enough when he was around so I don't know what you're expecting now. If I was him I wouldn't want to hear from you now. And doing anything through linked in sounds stupid in general but dating stuff especially.
You definitely should reach out. You'll regret it if you don't.
You dont have confess your feelings right away wither, let things take their time. Go with the flow, so to speak. There's a reason you had that dream. There's something you need to learn or do, and he has to help you do it
This is someone you know, right? It's just another way to connect. I am very active on that site and if some old friend sent me a connection I'd just accept it outright. Then you can be all "Hay, how've you been?" and get phone numbers and work from there. It's not like you are all "I love you, marry me!"
I read both of your last questions... dang whatsupp with these armed forces guys only haha you are not into any other stuff or what im lowkey confused Desii... do keep us updated bout the new boo or this linkedin boo
You don't profess your feelings directly. You say "Congratulations on your new position. I enjoyed working with you. Would you be interested in having dinner sometime?"
You won't know unless you try. But hold on on the professing of feelings until you see if he's single, and if you really like him.
🥲 so you moved on from my cousin? 😂
Also... G@G and LinkedIn? Those are the only social media you use? You have strange choices for social media 🙂
Well good luck! Sometimes it works well with old acquaintances/friends.
LinkedIn is a low-key great dating app if you've got a good resume.
No, no... Please don't ruin LinkedIn. Please keep LinkedIn professional for everyone.
Wouldn't bother me a bit. You contact people in the way that you can. You find them where you find them.
You couldn't get his phone number from a friend or something? That's weird
I'm from the school of "You miss all the shots you don't take." so I say go for it.
Unless the guy you’re speaking to is very strict regarding linkedin messaging ethics it shouldn’t crazy. I hate the app though, so demotivating.
100% crazy because anything you post will come back to haunt you
I dont kniw much about linkedin but try to get a contact number or email, Marry this guy lol
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