Hello everyone, thanks for taking the time to read my question. I really struggle with interpreting and perceiving people's intent and emotions, so I am asking for your help, please.
I have a friend, for some reason I keep picking up some signs he is interested but, I find it hard to distinguish as we are quite comfortable together so could very well just be comfort in our friendship.
He does some of these, does anything below mean anything at all other than a comfortable friendship: I just want to understand.
- He knows my orders in terms of drinks and food
- he always teases me for my facial expressions or what I say
- he likes to sit next to me (but leaves some distance by draping his arm over the back of the chair and facing me if that makes sense- he is very lanky 🤣
-His knee touches mine a lot when we sit and he doesn't ever move it away for a long time
- When we go on nights out it's always just us left
- he messaged randomly to say he saw something that reminded him of me (but doesn't regularly message- not very chatty over messages)
- he makes really long intense eye contact
- is always at his hair near me
- someone once mistook me for his girlfriend (he had just gone through a breakup so corrected the guy)
- he doesn't ask me about my dating life, he once told the group of us he had a date but didn't go into detail
- He 'translates' for me, in explaining what I mean for everyone
- he remembers little things about me like hate cracking knuckles or what he told me (he is super smart though so memory skills could be on point)
-his pupils are huge when we talk (apparently that's a thing- I would normally put that down to lighting).
- I am a touchy person so I have given hugs or I'll jokingly slap him but he hasn't ever done anything to me.
- mirrors me how I sit or if I touch my hair. I thought he was joking doing it but no
- He always looks at me when he laughs (prob checking if I got the joke tbh)
-If it's just us together he leans in over the table
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It sounds like you two are really close friends. That is ideal for a romantic relationship and essential for a long-lasting one.
I can't tell he is romantically attracted to you but I would guess that he is. I'm just confused, though, as to why he hasn't tried to kiss you or talk to you about a relationship.
Are you drawn to him romantically? Maybe he's waiting for you to make the first move.
I had two different girlfriends initiate our first kiss after a first date. They basically stood in front of me, stepped close, looked up into my eyes, then put their hands on top of my shoulders, rose up on their tip toes, and gave me a tender, romantic, lingering kiss. Naturally, my hands went to their waists and our bodies pressed together.
Does that sound like an idea?
Thank you so much for the comment Lliam 🤗
We are good friends, we have a lot of trust and comfort with each other
Yeah no, he never has. I don't know if it's because he can't read me either or if it's just not a space we thought about.
Well like you said I do trust him, and most importantly I feel very safe with him which is very important to me. I would be willing to see, but concerned it could ruin our friendship.
Ohhhh bold and brave! Go them! I am quite timid and shy to be honest. I have always been a good girl so to speak so I don't know if I would have enough gumption for that 🙈
Or, sometime when he is sitting beside you with his arm on the back of the seat, you might reach back, take his hand, and draw his arm around your shoulder. If he seems okay with that, you can snuggle against him.
Or, sometime when you are sitting like that and talking about stuff, you could ask him if he thinks of you romantically. Or ask him if he ever thinks of being exclusive, like in a relationship.
I don't know. But it seems like you need to brook the subject somehow.
1) Who normally starts conversations?
2) How often would you say he actually teases you? (daily?)
3) Do you suspect he might have feelings for somebody else? Like, does he look at a girl or guy in particular and talk about them a lot and stuff?
4) Does he compliment you a lot? If so, how often and about what?
5) Do you guys seem to have a lot in common?
6) Does he stare at you a lot?
7) When he laughs in a group of people, does he look at you?
8) Is he open with you?
9) Is he willing to help you even if it means he needs to go out of his way to do so?
10) Does he mirror your body language?
Hello Lilly
So 1) mix of both of us really
2) anytime we are around each other
3) No but I do know his Hollywood crushes
4) He does about very niche things 🤣🤣 but then also my hair or what I'm wearing, the usual
5) yeah I think that's why we get along so well tbh
6) He does, if I look up He tends to look up or over at the same time ( I struggle with observations though so he could have known I'd react to what someone said)
7) yes he does
8) yes, he does tell me about his struggles. He is a closed book so I really gotta work sometimes to get it out of him
9) yeah he is just that way I think
10) yeah he does
Do you think you look anything like his celebrity crushes? Like, do you have similar features?
Well it is Ana DebArmas and Emma Watson! It's nearly impossible to look that good 🙈
You know what, maybe you should ask him. Don't necessarily say that you have feelings for him or not, but ask him if he simply has feelings for you?