Should you just stay friends if you’re physically attracted to one another but can't see yourself getting sexual with eachother?

DizzyDesii · 2024-03-04T21:36:31Z

So the guy I mentioned on my other post… I’ve always found him incredibly attractive. Gosh his smooth dark chocolate skin, bulging arms, cute little nose, lovely thick brows, adorable smile, nice firm American football ass etc. He’s always been attracted to me too and even nicknamed me “Little Bit” back in HS to show appreciation for my little booty 😆 But more than anything he’s always adored my goofy playful personality. He remembers important facts about my life and we’ve always had a lot in common in terms of our interests— theme parks, religion, casinos, wrestling, music, shows, sports, etc. He’s always treated me nicely. My moms always liked him for me and his aunt was even married to my uncle so the fam knows him (but we’re not related). I even love how his voice goes from a bit deep and manly to randomly cracking when i say something that surprises him. The only dealbreaker was when he wanted to work as a male stripper but luckily he never went through with that. Even though he's always been into me in return, I don't know if i could see us gettin freaky. He used to try to kiss me and I’d always shy away but gosh I adored his hugs. His height always bothered me because I’m 5’2 and he’s like 6’4 or 6’5 and thats a turnoff to me. I don’t even think my head reached his chest. So I don't know i always saw his sneak attacks coming plus its hard to imagine kissing someone so tall. I’ve been dreaming about him a few times a month since last summer and they always have us saving one another from freak accidents. Anyways, should I just leave it at friends if i dont know if i can see us getting physical? I mean I’m not going to act on anything while in a relationship with this other guy anyways, but maybe this is why I’ve always bounced my friend back into the friendzone. Im scared of us not being sexually compatible even though one dream said otherwise. I see romance but not passion #FeelFreeToList

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DextroShade Follow
Yoda Age: 39

2 mo

Men are not your friends so if you wouldn't sleep with him stop wasting his time!

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- DizzyDesii
  
  2 mo
  I think men and women can be friends, i just dont think they can be “only” friends if one or both find the other attractive. I didn't say i wouldn't sleep with him, i just never saw him in a sexual sense. More so romantically
  
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- DextroShade
  
  2 mo
  As far as men are concerned, there is no romance without sex.
  
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AlexEfron Follow
Guru Age: 24

2 mo

Don't blur the lines of friendship. Never ends well

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Yea well we’ve always been friends that liked one another.
  
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JayBones Follow
Xper 6 Age: 42

2 mo

Yes. My greatest regret in life was letting my best friend out of the friend zone.

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- DizzyDesii
  
  2 mo
  Awww shit
  
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Date_a_Snob Follow
Explorer Age: 32

2 mo

she doesn't look happy in that photo

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- DizzyDesii
  
  2 mo
  Lmao its a random ass photo
  
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- Date_a_Snob
  
  2 mo
  I know - but that doesn't change how she looks
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
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  It was supposed to be an example of how i’d prob feel awkward if i slept with a friend lol
  
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- Date_a_Snob
  
  2 mo
  thats how I would feel too
  
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katiesmuff Follow
Master Age: 40 , mho 51%

2 mo

I see no problem with that!

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DreamLife7 Follow
Xper 7 Age: 27

2 mo

Why go backwards tho?

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- DreamLife7
  
  2 mo
  I'd honestly move on from the past. Do you go out often enough to meet other new people?
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
  2 mo
  Yes I've met new people every year but he's always kinda been the one that got away and thats only cause i always postpone things when he tries to move us forward
  
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- DreamLife7
  
  2 mo
  That's toxic I'd let it go if it were meant to be it would've been I don't understand the back peddling
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
  2 mo
  Its not back peddling. Its continuing something we started but never finished. he's always felt like the one that got away except he's back and asking to pickup and im still stumbling. He gets me in ways no other guy has. I just worry that if we dont work romantically then i lose my friend cause im not gonna try to befriend an ex (if he ever became one). But we’ve been friends since 2010. We’ve liked eachother since Hs. Went off to college together in 2013 and he was there at all my awards shows supporting me. He went off to the military for a bit. he's back and asking if i want to pickup and so on
  
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- DreamLife7
  
  2 mo
  Get with bkbadboy he seems cool as hell
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
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  #1 i have a boyfriend. The guy im referring to above is just someone who its always kinda seemed meant with #2 bkbadboy is old and looks like a thicker version of my dad. I always thought BK was cool but i didn't agree with someone he was talking to who was under 18 so i never looked at him the same after that. #3 i ain't tryna date nan nother person from this site.
  
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- DreamLife7
  
  2 mo
  🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭 the Dad comment took me out
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
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  He do tho lmao. First time i saw him on here, i was like he gotta be related to my dad
  
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- DreamLife7
  
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  🤣🤣😭
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
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  But i used to have voice convos with him over discord. He sounds nothing like he looks. You’d think he was white but he was adopted by white people so maybe thag played a roll or it could be the new yorker accent. Im not a fan of those. But yes he's a nice guy. I just dont trust him after some 15 or whatever year old told me they had a thing going some years back. I don't know if she was telling the truthh but others said they were told the same and I don't know but ima believe a kid over a grown ass man. So instead of taking sides, i distances myself from him and she eventually left the site
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Damn that was a lot of typos i made
  
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- DreamLife7
  
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  Yeah that's not good at all. that's pedophilia
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
  2 mo
  Exactly. I dont bash him because I don't know if its true but i dont see why the girl would make it up. She was a nice girl and popular back then. And I've seen him flirt with youngsters before so it wouldn't surprise me. Never that young but still
  
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- DreamLife7
  
  2 mo
  Yeah that gave me the ick
  
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- DreamLife7
  
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  Nothing wrong with dating younger but a minor is off limits
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
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  I will never understand anyone 21+ wanting anything that ends in —teen
  
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- DreamLife7
  
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  That part
  
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LunarEclipse433 Follow
Xper 7 Age: 67

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If you can yes. But probably someone will get hurt

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- DizzyDesii
  
  New 2 mo
  Dang
  
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Jamie05rhs Follow
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Yes. Duh.

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- Jamie05rhs
  
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  But maybe it's different for women.
  
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riverrat3 Follow
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2 mo

Probably a good idea

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eagle1951 Follow
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yeah

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