Why do some people act like jerks towards the person they have a crush on?

[Antheadragoon96]

I don’t understand it for the life of me why people treat their crushes or love interests like assholes. I have have have two experiences of this. In high school, there was this guy that kept harassing me, making fun of me a lot but when he left the school, his best friend told me that he liked me. I went to the bar with two of my friends and my sister. One of my friends happen to be close to the bar owner. He kept making fun of me that night but I was too drunk to take him seriously. My sister was pissed at the whole thing but my friend who happened to be friends with the bar owner told me that the bar owner was being so hard on me because he liked me. Why are some people jerks to their crushes?

[Finchie40]

Some girls’ do this as well to a guy that she really
Likes , I been with a few girls’ that did this to me and I agree that it’s absolutely weird , awkward behavior. I think it mainly stems down to their natural defense instincts , they basically put a defense wall up defending themselves , from showing how much they truly like someone , like they are scared to let someone know how much they truly like them , it mainly stems down to insecurities and low self esteem about themselves. thinking they will get hurt or backstabbed or betrayed for liking someone so much , so they make jokes or they say mean things to make it seem that they don’t really like that someone when really they do , When that someone finally had enough of their rude behavior and mean jokes and decides to walk away from them , that’s usually when they will come chasing them with open arms , apologizing for their actions. It’s sadly a toxic trait that they possess in themselves , I recommend for you not to date anyone that treats you that way , I been there and done it , and it was the worst relationships I ever experienced , , because it leaves you with a constant question mark over your head as to why they are constantly being mean to you and putting you down , if they truly love you and care about you and want you. yea the make up sex is great , but that’s the only thing that is great , the sex , but their personality is shit

[exitseven]

My uncle told me the story about when he was a kid there was a girl he really liked. He hid behind a tree and threw rocks at her. I imagine it is like that.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[sage2021]

There is a movie He's just not that into you.

The movie starts with a young girl and a young boy in the park at the sandbox.
The little girl is wearing a cute 👗 dress, and minding her own business just playing in the sand.

The little boy goes up to her and says "You smell like poop" then he pushes her down and walks away.

The little girl goes to her mother, who's sitting on a bench and asks her "Why did that boy say I smell like poop"? Then he pushed me down.

The mother replies "That's because he likes you". The little girl is baffle by her response, but remembers what her mom said when she starts dating year's later.

Why boys/guys do this doesn't make any sense. If you like someone then show it!

[PeachyPie93]

I had a guy in elementary school literally bully me everyday and when I would try to fight him he would actually beat me up. He did that for 6 years all cuz in grade 2 I rejected him?, because I was shy and ignored him when he talked to me lol. Also in grade 2 after I ignored him he used to whisper perverted things in my ear because we sat beside each other.
Then there was a guy in high school who when he was with people would call me a dike or other names but when we were alone together he would talk to me and try to make me laugh. They are just dumb and immature, I dislike guys like that.

[Antheadragoon96]

I have one right now as we speak. His house keeper who has lived with him for 5 years and my sister has told me that he likes me. But he is a total asshole to me and because of that I ignore him. However he flirts with me sometimes. He has once admitted that he was just looking for a reaction from me after he texted something that I did not like and I responded to it. Some women are also guilty of the same thing

[PeachyPie93]

LOL interesting it is kind of weird people would still act like that when they are adults 😂

[Deserter2]

LMAO

[TommyMountainFigure]

If person A was to declare their undying love for person B, and those feelings are not reciprocated, then how do you think person A, not only will feel about being rejected, but the fact everyone else might learn of it too?
Person A might act like a jerk because as well as trying to get a rise out of person B, Person A believes it could be a way to get closer..
Hopefully that made a little bit of sense!

[Antheadragoon96]

Yes it did thank you

[TommyMountainFigure]

You're very welcome.

[strateguy632]

nahh, the guy covered up for his frend to comfort you and help him.

he was a real jerk. not flirt at that age.

[patois]

Generally they are crazy fuckers. It's best to avoid them.

[OtterMan68]

they are immature. It's like little boys who think girls are "icky" but have crushes too

[Antheadragoon96]

Juvenile behavior

[bobby_bush_eater]

I find it weird, it's literally elementary school behavior.

[DextroShade]

It's because too many women reward this sort of behavior, so it's incentivized.

[jahaims]

They are too immature to understand their emotions

[Anonymous]

This is not simply answered because there's a lot of moving parts. So let me just answer this way. Why? Because it WORKS that's why.

[AngryCarl]

Psychologists call this Crush Derangement Disorder.

[nawtee_me]

Because they don’t know how to communicate properly so they act out like children….

[JayBones2469]

Because nice guys finish last.

[Anonymous]

Desperation lol. Glad I'm off the dating scene 😂

[Opinion Owner]

Said to the tune of Gene Wilder's Wonka ".. desperation!" Instead of "explantion lol" 🥺😊

[Deserter2]

Women like being teased, that's why.

[tzdc21]

Immaturity mostly.