If a guy subconsciously flirts with you, but doesn’t make a move, what’s he really thinking?

[Anonymous]

Subconsciously flirting with you like: leaning in lots, invading personal space, mirroring you, intense eye contact, nervous, fidgeting, seems excited to see you, and giving come to bed eyes on a regular basis haha over several months. That kind of thing,

[Valdemort]

"giving come to bed eyes" really does it.

[Asker]

lol I know right 🤣 Just it’s a long time to think that way about someone isn’t it?

[serious]

Good question. I think it means he is only flirting for fun.

[Asker]

You mean because he doesn’t make a move? It’s quite intense at times

[serious]

Yes, that is what I think. However, it is also possible that he is testing the waters I mean by intensely flirting with you, even physically touching you to see whether you take it well and are comfortable or not.

Hence it is possible he likes you but he is hesitatant to make his move and to take it forward or maybe he wants you to give him some clear signal that you like him and want him to take initiative.

That being said what I am saying is only valid if he likes you but is hesitant to take it forward. You need to observe his behavior with others, especially with other women and if his flirting style is the same with them just as with you then it is clear he is only flirting with you for fun.

Does this answer your question?

[Asker]

Yes perfectly, thanks so much. Really helpful.

[serious]

No problem. If you still have any question you can always message me if you want.

[Cristi019]

I've been that way loooong time ago. I ended up alone.

[Asker]

And do you know why you do it? What’s the reasoning behind it?

[Cristi019]

Well, she had already a boyfriend, and I, being her classmate I tried to get closer to her, not in a sexual way but I kinda invaded her life. And that caused her having argues with her boyfriend that later in that year led to separation. It was my fault, but being too in love with her, I forgot she has a boyfriend. In the end our roads separated, she went to another school and I went to another.

[Asker]

Aw that’s a shame, so the timing was off. Sorry to hear that. So i do you think it could be something similar? That’s why he continues to flirt?

[Cristi019]

No, not necessarily similar. I made mistakes. The only mistake he can do is to waste your time if he's only playing and not making a move, but maybe he's calculating his steps, testing the ground.