I had a male manager say this to me when we were just doing small talk. It sounded like he was trying to reject me even though we were not talking about anything remotely suggestive. I thought it was a bit rude honestly, like when someone says they're not attracted to you but you never asked for their opinion.
He wasn't doing it because he had a girlfriend or because he was trying to avoid breaking sexual harassment rules because he openly flirted with other female staff. It was like he was singling me out and trying to make me realize he doesn't like me specifically.
Yet on other occasions a coworker who saw us interacting said we were flirting with each other (we weren't, we were just talking about movies). Other times he would compliment my hair or nails. Yet other times he dissed my appearance with other coworkers or to my face (it was really humiliating and hurtful and I don't know why he did that). Another time he shared straws with me (if he thought I was gross he wouldn't do that right?). And another time when I was very cold he felt my hands and I laughed and he blushed.
Once he asked if I had a boyfriend and when I hesitated to answer he said he was just asking to talk/pass time. I don't understand what his motives were with me. He has offered to help me around my house with home projects too. He also tried to play video games with me. I kept rejecting those offers and when I would do that it seems like he'd get mean and find subtle ways to insult me (like "see you next Tuesday"). So what's his deal?
