How often do you text someone (opp gender) who you're just friends with?

[DishLady]

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5 mo

I guess a better question (for those who don't really stay in contact with their opp gender connections) is whether you consider a person an actual friend if you barely address them at all... To me that's not really a friend, that's just a connection/acquaintance. My friends are people I touch base with daily/weekly... we "bug" one another unabashedly and get to enjoy one another's company whether it's in person or via call/text.

[Jove79]

I don’t text women in a friendship way, pointless having a female friend. I don’t have female friends. If I’m talking a woman she’s not a friend

[DishLady]

Why is it pointless?

[Jove79]

Because men can’t be friends with women. she's just keeping him around for what he can do for her, or he’ll just stick around waiting for a chance to have sex. Or she probably likes him. Just talk to someone you can relate to and who understands you. Men and women can’t genuinely build a friendship together

[DishLady]

That's strange. I've always found it easier to talk to guys than to girls. Guys don't get competitive with me the way girls do. 90% of my friends are guys... maybe bc I work with a lot of guys? I don't know.

[Jove79]

The vast majority of men will keep a woman around as a FRIEND because he mentally undressed her and pictured her bent over. If you are in shape, or have some nice curves, 90% of your friends wouldn’t mind having sex.

Every time a female has a guy friend, something sexual has been brought up, and they’ll eventually and slowly bring up something sexual.. a lot promiscuous women have a lot of male friends, and they’ll eventually say the same thing.. that women are too much drama

[DishLady]

Lol. I don't think so. I'm most certainly not promiscuous and my guy friends know that. They're very respectful and gentlemanly. If anything, they ask me what to do with gals they do like.

[Jove79]

When it comes to men, women and friendship, there will always be some sort of physical and/or emotional attraction that is never acted upon. Either on his part or hers

[DishLady]

Ok, good to know. I guess neither I nor my guy friends think about it much. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Glad you shared!

[Anonymous]

Generally, I hardly ever messaged they were the ones texting asking how I was doing.

[DishLady]

On purpose or you're just not thinking about them and they check in?

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn't text unless it's an emergency, and I prioritize guy friends more.

[DishLady]

Hmm. Thanks.

[dynamicyandere]

It really depends. 2-3x a week on the higher end perhaps. It really depends on how busy I am and if they have shared interests. The friend I respond to 2-3x a week is someone who’s a business owner like myself and we discuss career goals and vent about client drama, haha. Everyone else who are female friends of mine are people I speak to much less frequently because they’re just focused on very different things. I speak to those friends more like a handful of times a year.

[DishLady]

Fair enough. And are you into the 2-3x gal or is it strictly platonic business chatter? (I don’t mean to pry. I’m just trying to see if the other fellow is right about guys wanting all their female friends on some level.)

[dynamicyandere]

Strictly platonic. I’m already taken, so it would feel wrong for me to talk to anyone I’m romantically interested in. In those situations, I intentionally distance myself if there’s a female friend of mine that I’m attracted to (or if they’re attracted to me). I acquaintance-zone girls who I’m attracted to if I’m already in a committed relationship.

I believe it’s possible for guys to have platonic relationships with women — but only men who possess true altruism. Men who are willing to do things without receiving anything in return. The kind of guys who would volunteer at charities (which I’ve done).

Altruism and benevolence are hard to find in people, whether men or women. But it’s those people who I believe can have truly platonic relationships with the opposite gender. Rare, yes. But not impossible.

[OlderAndWiser]

I occasionally text one of my female co-workers, and I text my sister-in-law about once a week, but I don't really have any close female friends. . . except my wife.

[DishLady]

A think it's a little different since you're married, OW. I wouldn't presume that a married man would text a load of women (and if he did that would be concerning).

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't even go to lunch with any of the women from my office. Got to always keep it above suspicion. And I really respect my wife.

[DishLady]

You're a gentleman, OW. <3

[OlderAndWiser]

I am not inherently a great and wonderful guy. I just try, every day, to be the man I want to be.

[DishLady]

Nah, I don't believe that, OW.

I have a friend here whose guy waits for her to be out of the house to hit a shload of women on social media who he's friends with, then when she's around he waits on her hand and foot. Seeing the two-faced behavior some guys exhibit is very off-putting for a gal looking for a genuinely nice fellow, you know?)

[OlderAndWiser]

And then some women think that a nice guy is not a "real" man.

[DishLady]

Not me.

[alli-112]

I regularly message opposite gender friends. I don't have any particularly close male friends atm, but I do have people that I'm fine hanging out with in groups or one-on-one in certain settings and I would consider those people friends (though again, not super close).

[molonski2]

Very very occasionally , like maybe once a month or less , just to keep contact.

[DishLady]

Are those really friends to you?

[Emmytexrex]

No I don't text them we dont text each other or call it's only when we see each other somewhere or they wish me happy birthday or I wish them that's all or u want to ask them something nothing more

[DishLady]

Why is it so cut-and-dry?

[Emmytexrex]

They are all Married I just respect there space

[DishLady]

Aha, ok ok, I get it. I didn't presume anyone was married when I asked the question.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

If I get your true question right, I expect any recent friendship with the opposite gender to generate ambiguity. Either from me, from her or both. In that context, and when I'm taken, I address that ambiguity quite soon by purposefully quoting my girlfriend

If we're both single, I find this ambiguity pleasant so I'm letting it be, no intervention.

When that friendship isn't recent, that ambigtuity has already been handled ages ago between is

[worldscolide]

Unless they are family, once per year or less, emphasis on the less part. And I always show my wife. I will never hide anything from her.

[worldscolide]

Oh add to the family part, coworkers. I have two female coworkers I text, but only when I'm on call, and I happen to be in the rotation with them.

[DishLady]

Like I was saying to OW, since you guys are married the rules ofe engagement are a little different. And I VERY RARELY text my married friends (except on their bdays) unless we have business together and in those instances I'm tight with the wife so we all know there's nothing nefarious going on.

[hannamontana]

Depends on how close we are. If we’re tight, I might text them daily or every other day. If we’re more casual friends, maybe just once in a while or when there’s something to say.

[Abbycado]

Quite a bit. Have a couple good guy friends from college and then a couple from high school. Boyfriend and I hung out with one already this summer.

[MannMitAntworten]

Daily unless one or the other gets involved with someone then this drops off dramatically. Then it is more like one other reaching if something serious occurs. Like getting into a serious auto accident and letting them know kind of thing. Even then there is little back and forth that follows aside from some pleasantries.

[RageBabe]

About ten minutes ago, I texted a friend who is also a GAG member.

[RoryF]

Pretty exclusively. I work with a very very few women and all my friends in and out of work are men.

[DishLady]

So what would prompt you to text a woman?

[ShannynSteen]

Ever so often not too much not too little? I don't have that many guy friends tbh

[exitseven]

it depends. Maybe once a day but mostly when i have something to say.

[qwerty2469]

I live 2000 miles from everyone i everyone knew and loved. I text 7 people daily 3 people weekly and 2 people monthly. 2 more sporadically. I have no friends here in Houston. I hate this city.

[loveyouoak]

I don't have anyone of the opposite gender I can text.

[yk9998]

Make one at least, it's fun 😊

[TwoToTooTutu2]

Pretty infrequently, but it can be extremely frequent depending on the circumstances and all.

[queenofcardio]

I'm close with some of my male coworkers but we do not text often.

[MJVillarama]

Depends on the friend! Some I text every day, some only a few times a week.

[linguistrosey]

Pretty much everyday. Most of my friends are men

[DishLady]

Same.

[bowenw]

Several times a day in some cases.

[Jmmmfi4]

Why would I be friends with someone of the opposite gender

[FunkyMonkee]

Never.

[DishLady]

Any particular reason?

[FunkyMonkee]

1. I'm loyal.
2. I have no one TO text for anything but business reasons.

[DishLady]

I got you. I didn't realize you're in a relationship. That's nice! Good for you. :)

[FunkyMonkee]

Apparently, I'm not, anymore but, thanks.

[DishLady]

🤔💭💭

[Iron_Man]

I talk to her on here every day,

[Anonymous]

Not that often, I'm a man of a few words.

[Tom567456]

It depends

[DishLady]

Depends on?

[Tom567456]

On me asking her how she's doing, she shares her feelings but also asks me how I'm feeling sexually

[Tom567456]

I'm sorry if that TMI, but we consider each other as friends

[Tom567456]

Sorry I feel so small

[Tom567456]

Please help me

[WhitneySnow]

Pretty often

[dean55au]

Daily

[yk9998]

Pretty often

[nojdug76]

Sometimes they do