How to feel confident when the man of your dreams doesn’t notice you enough or want you?

[Anonymous]

He’s the man of my dreams for many reasons… he’s handsome, plays the piano great, nice/ humble, church going, smart, disciplined and became a navy seal … my moms boyfriend had mentioned me meeting a guy he thought was nice at his church who he had known for a long time..

My mom said he was nice, handsome, smelled good and gave nice tight hugs. Lots of ladies liked him… I already didn’t feel confident.. I really liked my moms boyfriend daughter but she wasn’t interested at first and moved away.. but she ended up getting married and having a baby but I believe he still loves her even though he had no shot.. the way he looked at her as he played the piano at her grandmothers funeral.

I appeared at church and he didn’t notice me… it’s not a big church… no hello or look my way.. I felt so unattractive

he ended talking to an older woman who he really cared about but she moved away. But she still flies to see him

but just to know and see all the women he thought were good enough for him and I couldn’t even get his eye

after 4 visits we were finally introduced and he gave a light hug and he looked backed once before leaving and never saw him again

[ChiTown33]

Because he's not the ONLY man on the planet. And it really doesn't matter what you feel if he does not feel it as well.

Feelings are seldom REALITY. Even if he doesn't like you (and i'm NOT saying he doesn't). Doesn't diminish your worth in ANY way. This is called "self confidence" and it's not tied into what one person thinks of you.

[Asker]

It’s different for women but okay

[ChiTown33]

Not true. You're obsessed. You think guys don't get obsessed with certain women? They do. But it usually stems from lack of confidence.

[Asker]

I have a reason to not be confident… I’m not smart, not the most attractive.. list goes on. I need work done especially since I’m thinking about just entering the prn industry

[ChiTown33]

Everybody feels that way. Now i may agree with your statement that this is different for women than men in THIS aspect. Because men are taught to find confidence in themselves. But that doesn't come automatically. And there is no reason why a woman can't learn to do it to.
But focuse on what i said when i started this paragraph. "Everybody feels this way".
In the words of Dr. Phil, "You wouldn't worry about what people thought of you if you realized how seldom people do think of you".

[Nikki1989]

What makes him the man of your dreams? Most women never get that right?

[Asker]

I explained why lol

[In_Trance]

If this is the only guy for you, then why aren't you doing more things to make him notice you? Your logic is flawed

[Asker]

Because how I've seen him look at others he loved and he barely noticed me

[In_Trance]

Then how can this be the guy for you?

[Asker]

I never said he was i said he was my dream guy who didn’t notice me

[Insekirorue]

There are many people out there!

[Asker]

Not for me! And that’s fine.

I’m not the woman who is ever been chosen or chosen by honorable men like him.

[Insekirorue]

I'm sure it will workout.
You gotta believe

[Asker]

I’m almost 30. I've never been desirable in my life

[Insekirorue]

I doubt that