Confident guy is so different around me? Why?

[Anonymous]

Why does he act so different around me?
He doesn't say too much without me initiating he just talks differently with other people around. When we're together the way he sometimes speaks to the others around is so different just more chatty , friendly confident. Took us 3 months to start talking more comfortably even though we trained together working closely. He doesn't say a lot without me talking first he's okay to flirt tease or be playful (took him
3 months get to this stage )
His conversations seem flow more with others even other people or girls around he's able to talk normally gentalks faster be confident. He talks slower with me and seems to wait for me to talk to him sometimes he'll bring things up he just lets me lead it. He'll be quiet if I don't say anything just look or smile saying nothing. He loves to flirt and playfully tease me often in a sarcastic mean way you know he's joking that's how seems to be most comfortable communicating. Or being close sometimes touching when he gets a good opportunity.
This guy is a confident guy the type who could talk to anybody? why is he like this with me. Is he looking for signs of interest?

He's 25/26 I'm 21.

[Hunt-Ethridge]

Sometimes we can be very outgoing amongst people but shut down completely when it's around someone we like. Also, men are never really taught how to access their emotion and react in appropriate ways. It sounds to me like he's trying to flirt with you but doesn't really know how to go about doing it. Just try to be comfortable around him and hopefully he'll start to feel more at ease around you and loosen up.

[Asker]

How do I act? I'm usually a slightly guarded acting the complete opposite I have been trying to be more talkative I'm always thinking of the right things to bring up so I don't always say too much. I was thinking he didn't want to talk. Sometimes he's quickly gone over to friends always comes back over he's just so different with them. I don't know if he just can't read me either. Do I need to show him more obvious signs? than just talking or flirting?

[Hunt-Ethridge]

Just say something like, "I really enjoy talking/hanging with you." And gently touch his arm when you say it. Hopefully that will let him know he can relax and not try to show off.

[Asker]

Would saying something like "I really enjoy training with you" or I feel like I’ve gotten much stronger and feel more toned up since working with you” since he's my PT but he's so differently with me I've seen him with others he talks more. Would that work too? I've not complimented him yet he has for me on shoes or what I was wearing.

[Hunt-Ethridge]

Yes, that would work. And men value things differently, so don't compliment him on his clothes or appearance. Compliment him on his strength, handiness, problem solving or anything else considered "manly." These are the things we pride ourselves in (even if it's undeserved.)

[Asker]

Thanks I'll try that I'll see if it works.

[Asker]

Oh yeah he has some pictures of a same girl but they're never in a picture together apart from one, seem like there friends long like a year. One of his recent pictures says "spent the day with two furry friends" there's the girl with his dog in the picture. Is it safe to assume he's single? he had a wedding this weekend his mums an brought the girl there's one picture of them together doesn't look romantic not touching or any arms around each other.(he has ones others with friends too) Just to make sure before I start showing obvious interest signs.

[Asker]

And I'd actually saw him that Monday just after the weekend that he was with the girl and dog walking. I asked about his weekend he never mentioned her just said he didn't go out at the weekend just walked his dog in the park

[Kenizee]

I think its because he likes you and gets nervous when alone with u. and he probably doesn't know what to say. I was the same way i could talk to anyone besides for the girl i like. he just gots to get used to u that's all he needs to open up more. which he probably will.

[Asker]

It's been about 5/6 months he's only playful or teasing he's changed a lot. He still doesn't seem his full self can it take a long time? I'm probably a little guarded myself being attracted to him. Do I just keep talking to him?

[johari]

I'm not sure because usually a shy guy acts like that- confident and comfortable around friends but won't initiate contact!! I just don't get it, sometimes all you have to do is initiate contact and the guy will keep the convo going but maybe this guy has a gf?

I'd stop initiating and see how he reacts