Confident guy becomes shy? (pls answer me!)

[IceQueen18]

There is this guy in my school. He is very outgoing, funny and confident. Everyone likes him and he knows it. A lot of girls have a crush on him ... I’m a new student at this school. And when I saw him for the first time, I couldn’t help myself and smiled. He was so surprised and we looked at each other for a long time. Since then he tried to treat me like the other girls in school. But I didn't accept it. When you see me and don’t talk to me, you could think I’m a cocky diva … I’m considered to be very beautiful (beautiful body and beautiful face) and … yea I have a snooty look (but I do not mean it like that) … But I’m a very smart student, funny and nice to everybody (I just don’t want to talk to some fake persons …) I think he thought first, he could play with me like with the other girls. He wanted to test me … wanted to see if I’m a ‘bitch’, too. Almost all the girls here behave very obsequious towards him because they think, he is really attractive (talk dirty to him, sit on his lap, let him grope their breasts etc.) And they all party a lot, smoke and have a lot of contacts to guys … but not me.

And now he starts to behave different towards me. He is really shy. After eight months he changed almost completely … He doesn’t chill with those girls anymore. Starts to pursue me … stalks me (we looked at each other for over 5 seconds one day), smiles at me, is close to me, tries to make me laugh, his guy friends treat me very respectful … (he does so much I won’t register it all …)

My first question: Why he does not talk to me? I thought he is confident?

My second question: Why doesn’t he write me on Facebook?

My third question: Does he really like me?

PS: Actually I don’t speak English but German. So excuse me for the bad language!

[islands7]

He IS confident when acting in that past manner, being bad with gals.

He IS NOT confident acting good with gals, doesn't know what to do but has decided this is the way to attract you - the new object of his desires.

He has advised his friends his intentions & they are to treat you with the same respect he does (even though in private) and may have done other things to "set up" this change of life habits so that you will find him palatable and acceptable when he figures out what to do next in his courting plans.

He is so out of his element, sometimes he doesn't know what to say, except to stare ... and wish you were closer.

That said, if you should ever become closer, watch out that he may from time-time fall back into those bad habits. You will feel cheap during these slip-and-falls he takes (e.g. grabbing your breasts), so only time will tell if he can really reform in order to keep you.

[Chris18]

Sounds like he is interested in you. he likes your personality, but as you said he was confident, and girls were coming to him, not him going to girls. This means that he doesn't really know how to approach a girl with your personality, and he got all nervous. I would say its nervousness and not shyness! If you like him, try to make the first move towards him and see where that leads.

[DishLady]

Looking at you for five seconds doesn't constitute stalking... Stalking is when the guy trails after you, hounds you on FB, can't leave you alone for even a day, so you're tempted to call the police, for example.

Looking is just...looking. He doesn't talk to you because he's not sure what to say. Whether he likes you can't be determined from that you've said here. He's had a history of being a player. Maybe he's being more discreet about it.

Confident guys aren't always as confident as they seem. There's usually a relatively insecure kid hiding behind the armor of the MOST confident guys, and a shy guy hiding behind the armor of the mid-level confident guy. There are also the "jelly fish" who won't approach you and have had success with this tactic as girls feel sorry for them and approach them instead. Just don't fall for a jelly fish...

[aditya03]

why don't you go and talk to him

whats the harm

maybe he likes you

[Anonymous]

yes it's always possible that confident men become shy with certain girls.