I was rejected by my friend, but she's sending mixed signals?

[NoelKreisss16]

I've known this girl for 2 years now, but we have become really close in the past 5 months. We had started going to the movies, hanging at the mall, etc. (she even asked me to go to the mall with her first). She is very shy and reserved, and, noticing that she talked to me more than other males, I thought she saw me as more than a friend. I told her that I really liked her, and I wanted to start a relationship. She told me I was really sweet, but she didn't see me like that. She asked could we still be friends, and I said okay. A bit hurt, I've been going to more social events to try and occupy myself. She then told me she wanted to keep that conversation private, which I don't understand. But now, after only 1 week, she has texted me more so than before I asked her out. She says she wants to focus on school, which I understand, but why talk to me even more when I'm trying to move on. In all honesty, it doesn't feel all that great hanging with someone who doesn't share your feelings. Does she just miss all the attention I gave her? (I still talk to her, but not as much), or is she just trying to be friendly? Thanks in advance.

[Anonymous]

well she deffinately likes you no doubt, I'm the shy type too so I'm guessing she is too shy to say yes or she is scared that if it doesn't work out you guys won't be friends any more and 2 years of friendship would b lost. I would say not to ask her out on a date or start a relationship by telling her, just go with the flow and eventually things will progress into a relationship without saying. its happen to me multiple times so just let her lead and go with it I am 95% sure this will work out into a relationship

[Bl00_]

Well from experience I've had my guy friends ask me out and I tell them I don't see them that way and we talk less. I miss talking with them, but I don't want to lead them to thinking I want them after some time has past. I just want to continue the friendship. So that maybe it she could honestly just miss you being around or she could be taking advantage of the fact that you have feelings for her and using you when she needs an ego boost. Maybe you should be direct and ask her.

[kittykett]

She probably misses being your friend. One thing that guys fail to understand, and is true 98% of the time, is that when a girl gets to the point that she considers you her best friend there is no longer a chance of a relationship. She is probably worried that the relationship y'all had is ruined...which I guess you need to decide if it is. From what it sounds like you really were her best friend and no one likes losing a best friend.

[Anonymous]

It does look like classic friendzone trouble... I'd suggest giving her a reasonably deep kiss just to confirm her feelings. Action speaks loader than words, let her reaction to the kiss do the talking for her. Only adviable if you're willing to risk 2 years of friendship, but you will only get dragged deeper into the friendzone if you don't try to claw your way out now.