I may never see my crush again. What can I do?

[Anonymous]

Ok! I have this huge crazy gigantic crush on this guy. I keep thinking about him all the time.

I go to college, and for the past few months we have been having the same kind of courses, and we flirted a bit and I think he kind of was interested, but I'm not sure.

However, that's over now, and I didn't get a chance to progress our relationship. I will not ever see him again, maybe once in a while in the hallways, and that's it.

What can I do? I'm so frustrated and Sad!?!?!? How can I solve this? I don't want to just move on, I like him too much, but I can't exactly meet him anymore either. I do have his Facebook. But that's about it.

[olavejack]

He is shy and does not know how to approach the situation. The best thing to do is the next time you see him talk to him in a friendly manner without flirting. Ask him how it is not having class with you or something just to be funny then tell him we should catch up and try to organize a way to meet him somewhere outside of school that be quite enough to talk. Maybe have a drink to loosen up and then work your way to the subject of relationship status and if he is single and not seeing someone tell him how you feel. Sometimes the woman has to make the first move when a guy is tired of being rejected.

[Asker]

Thing is, I don't know when or IF I will see him again, I want to get this over with now or at least soon! And I really don't want to ask him out on fb or ask him out at all for that matter. And besides what if he doesn't feel the same and I make a fool out of myself!?

[pj411985]

The worst can happen is NO. Be bold, be confident. Go ahead ask him,. he prob waits for you to make the first move. Good thing you're friend on FB. Message him and show him that you are interested. Ask him out for a cup of coffee or something. You can do it. Go get your man.

[olavejack]

Don't be too proud to ask a man out, that's not fair a man has to approach the woman and be smooth with it or get embarrassed but a woman can just be straight forward so that puts a lot of pressure on a man and makes him scared to ask. If Facebook is the only way you can contact him then do it otherwise you will never be able to let it go...and trust me you will not look like a fool. I'm shy myself and the only way I ended up with my ex is because she said "that's enough flirting lets see where this goes and go out on a date".

[bookangel16]

ok, take a deep breath and relax. now I want you to go to his Facebook and send him a message saying something along the lines of you wanting to meet up with him or hey you should give me your number so we can keep in contact, or you could just say how its going to suck not sharing the same classes with him. then if or when he replies just keep up the contact. comment on his posts ( not too much, don't want to seem like a stalker ) , like his statuses. hope this helps:)

[Asker]

I think it does! :)

[bookangel16]

i hope it does:) I was in a similar situation

[Anonymous]

Umm, get his number or add him on Facebook and send him a message. He is still there, just not as available

[pj411985]

good point. Maybe he's not available because he has a girlfriend ?

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

This isn't exactly hard. You have his Facebook. Contact him there, get his number, ask him out. Then, just to be sure, so you don't end up in the same position of being sad that you didn't progress your relationship, how about you make some moves of your own, to progress the relationship, YOURSELF. Seriously though, you don't need to be sad here. You have an out, and you just stated what it is. You can get back there and get a hold of him, so go for it. Don't worry. You'll be alright.

[Asker]

But I don't want to ask him out! I want to be asked out instead. And what shall I say on fb!? I feel embarassed, what if he doesn't feel the same and it has all been wishful thinking in my head!? Aaaa

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Well let me ask you something. What's worse? Not seeing him again, and not ever progressing your relationship, or asking him out?

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

OK so I guess you're not going to answer that.

Anyway, I say just message him, talk to him like you probably always do, and maybe ask for his number if he doesn't just give it to you. This stuff isn't hard. You just talk to him.

[wormyrug]

Use Facebook to ask him to meet up for lunch sometime, or failing that, over some weekend. If he's interested, he'll take that as a green light to go for it.

[Asker]

The thing is I don't want to ask him out like that! I want him to ask me out. I'm proud/scared/whatever you want to call it. But I just don't want to do it first.

[wormyrug]

If you just wait for him to ask you out, and you won't get to see him that often, your in for a long wait. This guy dropped hints he liked you, which you seem to have received and hoped that you would give him hints in return as to what to do.

It's really hard to ask someone out, think of how you're feeling now, and realize that's how he felt, but you have to make a decision. It's not so hard to talk to him over Facebook or invite him for lunch, it is hard to let someone you like leave your life.

[Anonymous]

Where did you go to college? Maybe I know him... :)
(I miss her so much :((( )