Asking your ex boyfriend out to the movies?

[Anonymous]

Is it bad to ask your ex boyfriend to the movies as friends... also I still love him but I have no intention of trying to get him back... or I am not trying to rekindle those old feelings I am just asking to meet up so I could let him know that I care about him but as a friend (even though I care for him more then that)... however I don't think he going to buy it... we were better off as friends before we got together.. How do I convince him.. So we could have that type of connection we had before (or sumwhat the same)

[Jellyfish]

It can be very difficult when your ex boyfriend was also your friend. But how will you feel when he gets a new girlfriend or starts dating again? How will he feel when you get another boyfriend or start dating? You will have to get used to the idea that someone else is his everything and you are just a friend.

Being friends after having a relationship is a completely different dynamic, you may have been friends before, but there really is just no moving backwards in a relationship. It will be difficult to change from the role of girlfriend to just a friend. And you say you still care for him as more than a friend, but he may not return the same feeling and this will only be emotionally stressful and will be harder to move on.

It's disappointing but sometimes you just have to let go. Be happy that you were able to experience good memories with him and that you two didn't end up hating each other by the end of the relationship, which may happen if you try to be just friends for a while.

[Chunk-Stonechest]

Leave the poor bastard alone. If you were the real thing for him, a real true love, then he's going to need months or perhaps much longer to get over the loss. Tell him you still love him and you'll only rekindle a desperate hope that you'll reconcile. Naturally you'll squash it again when you clarify that your love and affection for him don't include your former level of intimacy. I'm guessing you moved on first while your ex is still trying to heal. There's no logical approach or sensible tact you can take which will make everything all better. If he's still angry and hurt, stay clear and let time heal his wounds.

[Anonymous]

Personally, in my opinion, if it didn't work out once before let it go. If it's just going to be you and him or if you got a friend and her boyfriend to go it would still be a date since it would be spending quality time together alone. That would just be awkward and he might think it was a date. You don't have to meet up with him to show him you care about him as a friend only. You can do this by simply talking to him on the phone, because if you have any contact with him he will know yall are still friends. Going to the movies with a guy is more romantic, so maybe try to get some friends together and talk to him there, which would be less awkward and I'm sure he will appreciate it more. He might think you are trying to get him back if you ask him to the movies so he might freak out/reject you. It sounds like you are trying to get him back to me.